A pathological liar can look you straight in the eye, without fidgeting and lie and you'd never know it. They can hit you, you feel the pain, yet they look you directly in the eye and swear they didn't. They are so convincing that you believe it even though your arm still hurts where you saw them hit you. They won't crack a smile, won't fidget, and no matter how you think that you've caught them, they'll bluff their way out and if all else fails, they'll turn it around on you to make it your fault. Even lie detector tests aren't accurate because they convince themselves that they are right, so it won't register. Go with your gut feeling - if you have to even wonder if they're lying, they aren't someone you should be around. Subconsciously you already know it, you just don't want to believe it. It will only get worse, go with your instinct.
Very hard to tell. Experiments have shown that the average person cannot tell but government agents who are specifically trained to look for signs can tell if you are lying. Without the training, you are out of luck.
The Bible says in Matthew 10:26 that nothing can be hidden forever. You see things are suspicious, well, just wait and the clues will gather to tell you if he/she s lying or not. Then you can talk with him/her about it calmly, and well, most certainly you will know.
you have to look for a habit they do when it seems like they are lying. its all about paying close attention to their body language. it could be a twitch of the eye or a finger movement or just some sort of fidgeting something the person does each time they know theyre lying. thats how people can tell youre bluffing in poker
They might act un-characteristic or defensive. They are usually awkward, nervous and don't make eye contact. Often they fidget, and make excuses to get away. If they seem genuinely innocent and/or honest, it's likely they are telling the truth. Hope this helps! :)
All these answers may work in some cases but there are people out there that are sociopaths and they don't feel the least bit guilty about anything they do or say as long as they get what they want. It is a pretty good bet that if you are questioning if someone is lying they probably are. Remember what they have said and watch what they do and see if it matches what they have said.
when i used to lie to people, i could do it with a straight face no smile, no laugh no nothing. now sometimes i laugh, and smile a bit. it's hard now even when i'm kidding. i guess i lied so much, it was easy >:l sometimes, i still try and lie with a straight face, sometimes it works, sometimes i end up laughing and it doesn't work.
By my opinion : The first, they make us feel confidence on them and always say true things, say interesting things when they think that we seem believe them then they start to say something that relatable with what they want to dupe us like own problems, others or something that can win our heart. finally, they show their feel pitifully and request us something ,promising that I'll do this for you, I'll do that for you so on...please trust on me. but they hardly say : I'm not lying you or Please believe me . thank for reading. please correct me and give advice. waiting for all comments from Cambodia
You can't. Assess the situation. Is the (statement) something that could hurt you financially, relationally, or physically if it is false? If yes; verify it. If no; enjoy the story and try to let it go.
For some, being lied to is a matter of pride or respect. I've learned there's often no dis-respect intended when someone lies. The person is often just weak willed, unresourceful, 'in a hurry', etc...
If it doesn't hurt to accept the statement as true when it might be false, try to let it go.
I see a lot of people saying big pupils. I don't think that's true. Eyes to the upper left is a better "tell". Constructing means that they are making something up. If they are making something up as an auditory construction then it is just to the left.
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As an RN and instructor of psych nursing, as well as ex wife of pathological liar and sociopath, I can tell you they have no remorse or conscience period. When they lie, typically, will look to left and down occasionally; and yes they can lie to you while looking straight into your eyes. In addition, the pro will give you insignificant DETAILS to make the lie more believable. They begin to belive and live the actual lie comfortably; and it goes on and on and on...Run!!
I am a very good liar, i had to when i was addicted to diluadid but whenever i was cought i noticed they could tell by how odd the lie was or how fast i did my speaking, if someone is speaking fast its an indication that they have practised what they are going to say. I have only been cought lieing a few times so id say im an expert but its not something to be proud of lol well im not.
Most common is someone will smile, not make eye contact, come up with a reply to quickly, maybe giggle. Sometimes, their voice could get really high or really quiet. That's all i know. Why do you want to know?planning to lie to someone? :-)
If they smile, don't make eye contact, laugh, reply really quickly, fidget, say 'um' a lot, change the story as they go, or give more details than needed. All in all, if they're nervous, they're lying.
if you look at their eyes and you see them looking towards their left it means they are recalling something from memory if they look towards their right then they probably made it up on the spot. while some people prepare lies in advance for those that you catch off guard this may help
I have gone through this, and I feel it when they are doing it.... With serous people, they will probably swing their hands around, or the will hold still in a very stiff fashion... I have see they get very serious about what their talking about... Many times, you will notice, but sometimes you will not notice because they are professional liers....
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I wouldn't base my options on what a pathological liar might do... for the 99.99% of the normal people out there, eye movement is the most common sign. Fidgeting, and facial touching with hands is another indicator. Eye direction in avoidance is not specific to either eye. If they're not looking at you, then they're likely cooking something up to tell you. There are several good books out there on this topic that can assist you in reading basic "body tells". As a manager I find it very useful in my day to day interaction with other people in the office-place.
Liars can be very convincing, but there are often subtle signs and hints that will lead you in the right directions. A lot of the liars that I have run across will, if you press them hard and long enough, will become fidgety and visibly nervous. They will not meet your eyes, and it is likely that they will begin to mess up in their cover story, forgetting a little detail here, changing or adding some things there, etc.
In bad situations ( like when my mom asks me how she looks when she's got her wierd outfits on), I'll just over-exagerate, like "Wow. You do look GREAT! I wish i looked that awesome! You could be a model!" Haha ;)
There are lots of cues cited whenever an article about body language and/or speech patterns are published, but frankly, I believe that the best tools to discover deceit are your ears and your willingness to observe others over a period of time. To the exception of the most skillful liars (addicts, sociopaths, etc.) most people can't sustain falsehoods easily.