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What's acceptable and unacceptable when it comes to age difference in dating?

I'm 21 and attracted to a man who is 34. I'm a bit mature for my age and he has a fun outgoing personality. So I hardly notice the age difference but I'm wondering what others would think.

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I am really good friends with a couple who are now engaged! She is 40 and he is 54, they are happy and age is obviously not a problem. 21 and 34 is not too bad, just be smart and if it feels right, go for it!

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The rule is "Half Plus Seven."

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What? So if I were twenty I would take half that and add seven, which would make 17, but that can't be right. Please explain, I'm curious to understand this "rule" I never heard of! lol
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that's BS answer, what is it now we have formula to date or love some1?
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Half plus seven.
If you're twenty you can date someone between 17 and 26. (Providing, of course, you obey the age of consent laws of your specific State).
So, the 34 year old man in the question needs to find someone who's at least 24. And a 21 year old shouldn't date anyone older than 28.
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Who's ever heard of this??
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that's the first time I hear some bs like that. I think unsecured people think like tha!!
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It dates back to the Victorian era, don't know if anyone ever actually used/use it. I've been all around the world and have heard it more then once.
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Age doesn't really matter honestly. (Unless one is a minor and one is an adult) IT is fine as long as you are both adults.

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As long as both like each other it's fine for adults not minors and adults but unacceptable is when it's only for money

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Half a mans age + 7 years (old wives-tale)

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I heard that unsecure people use that formula so they can feel kinda normal
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thats not a huge age diff.i would not sweat it

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you're both adults be with him (:

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Love is love. And that's that.

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I can tell you one thing wrong with that. The man you're dating is 34. He isn't looking for fun. He is probably wanting to settle down soon and have kids. But you're 21, your life has just started. You can now go to bars and out partying and drinking with your friends. You don't want a baby to dampen your fun. And yes you maybe mature, but you're not as mature as him. You're probably not going to want to have kids till your about 28 and up, but by then he will be 43. You see what I mean? He won't want his kids to 1 years old, and he's 43. I really just don't think it will work out for you both.

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AngelofDarkness??? Oh Ok I see now what you mean!!!..... lmao
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You pretty much made up this whole answer...you have no idea what we want for our lives or what is even possible in our case. Each to their own.
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Look you asked, and I answered. I'm not going to sit here and give you a bunch of false crap like everyone else seems to love to do. I'm just not that way. I said it probably won't work out, but that doesn't mean it won't. And you know it's the truth anyways. Your in denial. You need to open your eyes.
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You are both adults.

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks as long as it works for you.

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I don't know

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What's legal is what's acceptable, morally the concern is less about age and more about behavior.

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what is it now people have formula to figure who you can date or be with?
Miss Taytay if you think that man after your money or your success, then leave him and run away, don't mind those BS formula. Be happy and live your life the way you want and nothing else.
Good Luck

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It doesn't matter very much unless it's under 18 and the age difference is big. A guy that's 17 and he likes a 12 year old is unacceptable, but a 16 year old girl dating an 18 or 19 year old is.

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I dont think it cares

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it really depends on how you feel about it. Because you are an adult, not a minor or teen, the age bracket is ethically ok.

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