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Why am I so scared of falling in love?

every time a guy starts to get close to me (emotionally) I always push them away, I am now about to turn 18 in 5 days and I've only had 2 boyfriends and in both relationships I completely freaked out and broke up with them before I even got close to my first kiss. .>.<. why am I so scared?

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you dont want to make a commitment.

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I don't think it's that because I'm always trying to look for someone who'll stay by my side for a long time :/
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because maybe your afraid of the emotional connection, and of getting hurt. Subconsciously our minds are wired to do these kind of things to let us know if we may or may not be ready for something.

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So is it a normal thing :c?
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totally normal, you have to figure out when your ready to put your guard Down. life hurts, relationships are a part of life, you just have to accept that and once you do, You can try trust and love, but when it hurts you, don't givd up on it. we as humans build so many bonds, its fun to love, no fun to hurt but everything will be ok once you are ready to take those chances. :-)
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I always thought I was in "love" with girls, turns out it was lust and passion. I only fell in love once and I'm 28, I fell in love with everything she was not had, I didn't care that she was attractive or hot, even if she was 300 pounds and ugly I'd still be in love with her. I fell in love with her passion, the fact that she was caring and loving, motivational and inspiring is what got me to fall in love. Now I am in love with loving girls. Go out with him, see where it goes because the WORST case is that you don't love him later on in life and you break up with him softly and move on, you could still be friends trust me. I'm friends with every ex I have, even my ex wife.

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I think that you're the first person that has made complete sense to me. I think your right, I'm going to go for it and see where this takes me. Thank you so much n_n
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You are very welcome and to think, I'm not a girl :p
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I think that's why I took you words more serous ^-^ to hear it from a different gender
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Good point. I always grew up around girls so I learned to love differently than my male friends. They treated girls like shit, I was more passionate and caring. Girls taught me a lot and it helped so much. I understand somewhat both points of views. My longest relationship was 8 years, second longest was 4 years. My male friends longest to my knowledge was roughly 2 years. NEVER be afraid to explore everything once, let guys get close and never think twice of doing the same, never regret anything either. I never regret, I look at everything as experience. One bad relationship should only teach you who not to trust and who not to go out with, that's it.
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(/.) how I wish that there were more men like you
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I'm sure they're are. Keep me posted on how it goes with this guy. I do wish you the best of luck!
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So 11 days later, how'd it go?
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im scared
chat with me ok

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Ok :0
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umm well my cousin kinda sorta hinted that he likes me and he told me to think about wat hes doing .
i dont know how to react when he does say so and im kinda scared and i dont want to hurt his fealings becuz hes been a great friend to me and we always have good joke about things .
he also seemed wierd when he tried to tell me .
do u think u can help me ?? :|
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you're still young give it time

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Okey :I
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pffft stay scared I wish I was that way. no but seriously people are always trying to find love when really you should just wait until it comes to you. I know people say that all the time but I have been with my husband for six years since I was 16 and although im glad it happened I wish I could have spent more time maturing and growing into a woman instead of falling in love as a girl.

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good for you. live a little. alot of fish out there. one will eventually hook you instead of you hooking them.

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maybe you just don't want to give it to somebody that's not worth it . don't be pressured into doing something you are not comfortable enough to do with someone just because they are available. when you do anything for the first time it's a bit scary. wait until it has togetherness and a closeness respectful and exciting and feel just right natural not forced or well I may as well get it over with that's a bad reason. you will know

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The key point in your question is you "always push them away". Something from your past is riding on your shoulders and the sooner you work it out the sooner you'll be free to live in the present.
Pushing away is a symptom of emotional abuse, like betrayed trust, traumatic events, dysfunctional family relationships, or a painful life altering event in your life, there are more explanations but you get the big picture.
When you find the cause (if you don't know already) put it in the past instead of dragging that baggage with your present self.
Answer some questions from yourself. How would you rather be? Why do you cling to the past instead of living in your present?
You are reacting instead of responding. There's a world of difference, the past doesn't change but the present does and it creates new positive memories that will help you heal.
You are very clear on your pain, do you have a clear picture of this other you, the one that can love and enjoy a relationship?
This is your starting place. First see what you want then become it. Second, let nature take its course then give yourself permission to be happy.
It's all up to you, thought's are things so create the you you want to be.
Wishing you success ...

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Due to fear of God, parents and people around you. You want to save yourself from hell fire.

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