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Why can't homosexuals get married in the majority of the united states?

I'm looking for reasons that have nothing to do with religion, as our government isn't a theocracy.

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I am a religious person, but I completely support homosexual marriage. A majority of conservative voters deny the rights of homosexuals, such as the right to get married, simply because it interferes with their religion and personal beliefs. I ask myself: "Why should my beliefs affect the beliefs of others?" Simply answered, it should not.

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I need not defend the truth, friend.
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there is no right to marriage. you cant marry cousins, cant marry more than one at a time, cant marry at age 10, etc.
do you believe murder is immoral? this belief should not affect the laws? what kind of logic is this? its either moral or not. if you think its moral, u differ from the Bible. you may be religious but not as most Christians. in fact, what religion do you believe??
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Murder is irrelevant. Do homosexuals harm you? Do they affect your life? You raise the topic of marriage for incest. Why can't cousins marry?

Just because your OWN religion is against, does not mean everyone else should be too. There are religions accept it. Why should the Christian religion be the foundation for which we base all our laws? Is this not America, land of the free?

For that matter, why should it matter if I think it's moral? Homosexuals are humans, too. They deserve equal freedoms as all of us.
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Murder harms other people, where as homosexuality doesn't affect you.
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There is no reason other then religion, our government may not be a theocracy but most voters are religious.

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Well, they may deny it but its mostly for religious purposes. But the reform is happening now, many states are changing to allow it, Most of New England allows for it, except for one state I believe. I believe they should all allow for it.

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I wonder the same thing. I don't agree with them getting married by a church, but through a civil unity, they should be allowed.

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Actually I don't see any reason why they can't. It's not unconstitutional. There are no American laws making it illegal. I mean, if we have to have a law that says homosexuals can get married then we should have a law that says everybody has the right to breathe. The constitution doesn't say breathing is unconstitutional and likewise for homosexual marriage

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DOMA. Research it.
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For the most part religion is why. Those states have more religious fanatics who throw huge beef about it and vote against it. No offense to anyone religious just some take it way too far.

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Religious reason and voting against the fact so thats only reason i see why.

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Unfortunately, it IS about religion. The United States is very guilty of letting religion cloud the government and law making.

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very guilty
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Uhhhh, because it's WRONG?

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According to who? What makes it so wrong?
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Yeah, why??? Why is it wrong?
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it is wrong
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Beloved, we don't have to play the religion card here. Let's keep it simple. We as a species come in two flavors because the marriage of one of each will make more. Simple biology. And by the way, THE reason for marriage. By demanding legal marriage you are, whether you want to admit it or not playing that card. The only entity that originally promoted marriage is GOD. The first place marriage was put in writing and defined is in the bible. The federal government was founded on biblical principals and laws followed to support those principals as the majority accepts them. And now you want recognition and acceptance from a government which, by definition, MUST reject you. You have lost your way, beloved. Enjoy your freedoms cause the Muslims and the Hindi's and the Buddhists will just kill you. Embrace the fact that your perverted behavior is tolerated in America, but don't ask America to validate what is clearly WRONG
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^^^^great answer johnLawrence. They flagged my answer. Lol which doesn't shock me at all because they don't want to hear the truth.
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I didn't flag anyone, so don't look at me. The founding fathers weren't christians, they were deists. They never used the word jesus, and all they really stated was that there was a god. And besides that fact, the christian church played no part in our government until the second great awakening. There are over 1500 animals that exhibit homosexual tendencies.

http://www.news-medical.net/news/2006/10/23/20718.aspx
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You were the first to mention Jesus and Christianity both of which are irrelevant. Take a deep breath, or whatever it is that you do and present a relevant rebuttal if you can
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I just did. What part of my rebuttal wasn't satisfactory?
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Your defense is a website where the content includes the fact that some lower species display your behavior!??? I'm not sure I would have shared that. You're wasting my time sir, or madam, whichever the case may be
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You said it was natural, simple biology. Simple biology says that you're wrong. Lower species? Still applies since all we are is a species. Unless we're different from other species, but that would only be so if something set us apart. Now we're back into religion.
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Religion, love, and government, should have nothing to do with each other. What is so wrong with wanting to be with someone of same sex? If they are not directly affecting your life then why should you be against it? It's not your life. So don't get in their way. I'm not a homosexual but I would stand and fight for them. They should be allowed to be in love and be with who ever they choose. I used to be narrow minded like you, I now see its not my choice, and I will defend what I think is RIGHT!
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Did you ever watch Its a wonderful life? We need to conduct our lives knowing and respecting the fact that our conduct impacts those around us. My point is, we must conduct ourselves as if we are being watched because the fact is, we are! Every minute of every day we are examples for children. While you may think you can do what you want without consequence, children see. Children hear. Children learn by watching what adult, responsible( hopefully) people do. We are fighting Muslim radicals today because they taught their children radical Islamic doctrine. They don't know anything else so they will kill the infidels in their land. That is WRONG because that is not what Islam teaches, yet we must fight a generation of people who were taught radical ideas. Likewise, our future generation will be what we teach them and I hope, and I pray that it will NOT be the fringe of our tolerance as a society. Do what you want, I don't judge. I grew up in the 60's. Just think about the rest of us who may not share your views and you MUST understand the full consequences of your behavior. Homosexuality is WRONG
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How exactly is homosexual conduct impacting those around us? Is it "turning" us gay? No. My best friend is gay, my best friend before that was bisexual. I am very straight and have a boyfriend (who just so happens to be the asker, if you were curious :D ). It has not negatively affected me in any way, shape, or form. In fact, it has only enriched my life and made me so much more open-minded about everything.
My mother also grew up in the 60s, and she is just as much a wholehearted supporter of Gay Rights as I am. So don't blame your closed-minded behavior on when you were born. We wouldn't be teaching our children "the fringe of our tolerance as a society" behavior. We would be showing them that it's okay to love. It's okay to stop hating and accept people who they are. That it's okay to make your own decisions without fear of their own parents hating them for who they love.
So... you're saying homosexuals are supposed to think about and respect the views of the "rest of us", but you don't have to think about and respect their views? How hypocritical. Homosexuality isn't wrong. The only thing that's wrong here is people hating something that's natural. It's not a disease that spreads to other people through example. It's just love.
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Good luck. Watch your back. Remember that your views are unpopular and there are those who would wish you harm. Me? I'll pray for you. In closing, support those in harms way who fight and die to protect your right to be who or what you are
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Clearly the opinion isn't unpopular. At least not on ask, as only a small fraction of people said they were against it.
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Are we still talking about homosexual marriage here? The vast majority of the world is against it!!!! You remind me of a drug addict. You've been doing what you do for so long you've forgotten that homosexual behavior is against the law in most of the free world. You've confused tolerance with acceptance and surrounded yourself with like thinking people to the point where everyone you know agrees with you so you think everyone should agree with you! The unfortunate thing is I believe you're serious!! Like I said good luck.
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What exactly are we "doing" aside from accepting homosexuality as a natural biological fact, and realizing it's ridiculous to deny people the right to love whomever they wish? It was also against the law for women and blacks to have equal rights, but we realized that was wrong, and changed it. Same principle here. The only one of us that's confused here is you. I personally know for a fact that not everyone is accepting of homosexuality. But that doesn't make a difference, because when it comes down to it people's rights are being denied, and THAT ticks me off. Especially since it's over something that doesn't even really affect the straight population, aside from those of us who want our friends and family to have the same rights as us.
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So thank you for the good luck wishes. That's kind of you. We obviously have very different viewpoints and that's fine. We can argue for years and get nowhere. We know where each other stand. So I'll conclude this and say: Have a good evening. Really :)
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Thank you for our time together! It was good for me. Hope it was good for you. I actually might have grown a little. One step at a time right? Take care of yourselves. Really. ?
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You're welcome, and thank you. It was good for me too. Yep, life is a journey, yes? You take care too! :D
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I don't think there is any other reason. People are narrow minded and don't want to accept a same sex union. It's ridiculous!

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I think if every state let homosexuals get married then that would open the door for other awful behavior that would develop. What then would stop plural marriage?

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What should stop it? If they're all consenting adults, then it's none of your business.
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Exactly brethon has a point. Let them be free and l live the life they dream. Isn't that what we all want? I say let them choose. Not the ones on the outside looking in!
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Because each state can do what they want. Move to a state that allows it. Problem solved.

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it is a state decision as they regulate marriage. no uniformity exists in marriage rules: some states allow marriage at age 16, some 18. Some allow first cousins to marry and some don't.

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religion is a big part in all of this and even though i am religious i stand up for gay marriage Go GAYS!!!!!
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