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I am 16 and just got in a relationship 2 months ago. The guy Im with is probably the one. But he is so shy, how can I help him open up?

We went to homecoming together and he didn't want to dance with me at all. I am fun and always ready to have a good time, but he just wants to stand around and won't even put his arms around me. I just hope I could get him to open up some how. I need help!!

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You are 16 years old and you think you found the one? At the risk of sounding overly cynical: You are probably wrong. At the age of 16 you are still a child; both legally and, in most cases, mentally. Your mind will change over time, you'll learn things, change your mind on things and more. A 2 month long relationship is not what I'd call a good "trial period". However if you want to try and get him to open up try finding out what he's into. Remember, he's a young guy and he's going to change over time too. Maybe for the better, maybe not.

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Before we started dating, we were getting to know each other for 3 months. I thought I knew everything about him until we went to homecoming and he didn't want to dance.
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Start doing the crab walk, who doesn't want to join in on that

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Doesn't sound like the one
Tell him to get up and move
Teach him how to dance
You know what they say about guys that can't dance?

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You can't know that he's the one. No offense but once the honeymoon period ends? Then you may not be so compatible. Finally, are you both mature enough?

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I'm about to turn 17 and he is about to turn 18. Before we started dating we were getting to know each other for 3 months.
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Again, you may not know how much you really know each other. Imagine you two have a child, both working and paying bills. You know each other 3 months. I've been with my wife 4 years and still don't know everything about her. As she probably doesn't know everything about me. Just take a step back and think before you cross that line.
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There are 3 options

1) Break up with him
2) Change a LITTLE to be more like him
3)Talk to his best friend then see what he likes and do some of that stuff with him
~Wy

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Then he's not the one.

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he's probably not the one for you since you're obviously more outgoing you want to dance and have fun and he just wants to stand there that's kinda like oil and water they don't mix

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then he is not the one, if he wont even dance with you or put his arms around he probably is not that into you. Try finding someone who really likes you and wants to make you happy and entertained. But if you like this guy a lot, look into his eyes if his pupples are small then he is into you and just shy if they are normal he probably dosnt feel that much for you. try hugging him make him feel surprised see what his reaction is. GOOD LUCK!!

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The thing is he really likes me. Before we started dating, we were getting to know each other for 3 months. He already knew I would be dancing at homecoming because I'm on the dance team for my school and I'm use to dancing in front of people. But that was just something I did not expect from him.
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? thats sad, don't worry about
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you're 16, you don't even know what love is.
i say this because i'm 20 and neither do I.
what you're feeling will fade in time, but if you do really "like" him, don't make him change for you.

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Pretty wise comment for 20. Make it work for you, as well...
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He may be shy or just doesn't know how to act around pretty girls.I was like that as a teenager. Maybe he can't dance and is embarrassed about it. Try a different good time and see what happens.Ask him what he likes to do for fun.

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i agree that he is shy, and i also think he hasn't prepared to accept you. so maybe it will help if you start to open more of you to him, tell him stories about yourself and make him know everything about you and smile to you naturally as if you have been part of him.

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16 is young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Your situation reminds me of my life. When I was 14 I fell in love with someone I'd known since I was 5 yrs. old. He is almost 5 years older than me. We were different than you two. He was the out going one I was the shy one. Things change as you mature. There are some really good suggestions in the previous posts.

I followed my heart and this year we will celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary. Most people I know haven't had things work out this way.

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