Children trying to assert their independence, and parents trying to be too controlling. It's hard to find that middle ground of compromise, but parents are often unwilling to acknowledge that their kids need a little more freedom, and kids usually try to get too much freedom too quickly. It needs to be given in small increments, and it needs to be earned.
1st. children wants Independence, but parents force restriction, I think parent should tell or guide their child what is wrong and why, why you cannot do this.
2nd. Parent used to do things, which they do not want from their children, like drinking.But a child always learn from his parents, he will do what they do.
3rd. Parents always, says that their trust has broken, and child cannot talk to them if has done any mistake or regret on anything, but my father always said,"Son,If you done anything wrong, or you regret anything , do not hide it to me , I can understand and help you, because we are humans , we do mistake, we learn from them, that is how we progress. "
because our society treats those ages like children, even though a person is grown at those ages. history tells us that people can function as adults in their teens. but with our 80 year life-span these days we choose to concentrate on full mental development before we put our kids into the real world.
This is the age that children question if their parents are right,some realize parents aren't always doing their best. It's a very important time for both. Terrible 2's never had em! Terrible Teens,yep I had em.
I am presently going through this!!!children at this age think they :know more then they do!!your parents may see the mistakes your about to! make or they are trying to help you avoid mistakes you will one day regret and you just can't see the mistakes!I made a lot of mistakes I very much regret today and now find my child making the same mistakes and it puts a HUGE strain on our relationship because it's very stressful knowing a lot of my mistakes still affect me until today!!also find myself saying the same things my mother said to me I swore I would never say to my children.