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How does overprotective parents harm/effect their children's?

What are some examples of parent's effecting or harming their child for being overprotective.? Any experience? What are some sign that a parent is overprotective? Thanks!

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I had an extreemly overprotective parent until I was about 12... he wouldn't let me watch history channel, go outside past my yard, go to other children's houses for sleepovers (or any reason), have anyone come over... I didn't learn how to do any of the basic house maintenance (even cook) until he divorced my mom and its been a struggle... its been a couple years since then and I still struggle sometimes... but yes, it makes you feel hopeless... I still hate being left alone and I'm 16 now... I also have a hard time ordering or buying things for myself... even answering simple questions scare me.

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That's so sad. I can't express to you how much I wish I could help... Your uber cute btw ;) be careful with looks like those, both the wrong men and the right men will be after you.
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tawww! I'm blushing x///x' thanks! and I just usually have my friends help me out... I hate ordering, even if I have coupons... I can't speak.
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In some ways, I can relate to you because my parents mostly my father are very overprotective of me. And I'm 17 and about to graduate from high school. i'm scare to go out in the real world because I don't know how to socialize with other people. I'm emotionally scare and I fear of people. And when I make mistakes I don't know what or how to deal them but to blame myself. And hide my anger or depression. I have never had a sleepover and Im 17. I find it quite embarrassing, I cant even go to my friend's house who lives 5 mins away from me. I may sound like im complaining but Its my way to express my emotions. I feel pain for you because I dont want you to become like me. Im very negative in every thing in my life. I have even given up the hope to believe in God.
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Don't... you can move out soon but don't trust people just because they seem nice... its a bad idea... and just because they want to sleep with you doesn't mean they love you... vending machines suck sometimes and they will put whipped cream in your hand at sleepovers... I just cry when I'm upset... And God is real, but if you try to bargain or be close to him just because you're upset or want something its a no go... you have to take real interest not based from depression and hang with other kids who do believe in him... it'll chane everything, I would know :)
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Thanks for the advice! :)
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no problem! :)
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I guess that they wont let you go out with friends alone, or dates...

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It will cause their child to rebel even more.

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It kills children

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If they don't let their kids learn how to fail, then they won't know how to handle real life.

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well, i know a few overprotective parents who has caused their 16-20 year olds to sound desperate. they wouldn't let them date till a certain age and now they know nothing about love they cry over the smallest things and beg every girl they see to date them because they never been on one. social development

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Make rebel and sneaky kids

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A lack of experience in the world leaves children vulnerable in there adult lives and emotionally retarded. (I don't mean legally mentally disabled)
Sheltered children also have a tendency to fall in with bad crowds and hurt themselves. I've seen it 1000 times over because I hung out in bad crowds in my youth and watched out for poor souls like this. Sadly you can't save the world and the self destructive nature of a child with no experience leaves them on fire with stupid decisions and rebelliousness. When they finally meet the world they are alien and lost. I've seen beautiful young girls turn into junkie prostitutes in a year away from parents and knowing the parents well I knew exactly why. If my parents sheltered me- I'd prolly be mainlining Clorox right now getting robbed by homeless she-theif.

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Well, as the only daughter of an overprotective single mother, I suppose I can pretty accurately answer this question.

Cons: It takes forever to earn their trust, they are suspicious of everyone you meet and everything you do, they can be really hard on you, won't let you go out and do things considered absolutely fine by less overprotective parents, will be near-violently suspicious of the people you date/are in a relationship with ;) (until they decide they are "up to par" or whatever). etc. etc.

Pros: If you DO earn their trust, things that were an issue before become a near-non-issue, you can really look to them for support, and they trust your decision-making skills and who you decide to spend your time with.

So... it's actually not that bad. It's just a matter of convincing them that you're trustworthy and mature enough to make your own decisions... and also showing them through example that it'll be okay if they relax a little. :)

Note: I actually am none of those things Truthisobvious says occurs. I guess the difference is that my mother actually talks to me about big issues and is a total dictator about "Things I Can NEVER Do" :P

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It cause children to REBEL, have BAD thoughts about other people as well as them self's, try to do bad things, get mixed in WRONG groups at school. It also teaches you a lesson if you think about it! It makes you learn how to treat people in the future and to treat people evenly.

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