The only one that can truely heal you from this is God.And it takes time.He specializes in doing that,which we feel is impossible in our lives.God Bless You.
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By talking to someone (or yourself) about it, forgiving them (as hard as it is, just let go), and moving on from it by not letting it affect who you are as a person and gaining wisdom from this terrible life experience.
My condolences for your hard life, I truly hope you can grow from it.
Forgive and forget, first to forgive them and then you forget them.
Talk to yourself about what they did that was so bad, and i would pray. it really helps me when i am mad at someone who i no longer there. also, i would try to learn to forgive them. i don't know extent of what they did, so it is hard for me to say how it would be forgiving them, but it will at least ease your burden...
Forgive them... also, never make the same mistakes as they did. Damn, I know how hard that is... But, if they're dead, then. They have no power over you anymore, but... They probably dealt with the same issues when they were younger. And... they probably never learned from that, it's something you just have to learn alright?
You are very smart,sensible, logical, know you'll be ok.: )
I been working with people that have the same or similar issues and use hypnosis. That hatred you harbor is buried in your subconscious and until you get that view changed, you will forever have these feelings. Hypnosis gets right to the subconscious level and allows you to release those feelings. You can't change history but you can change your perception and reaction to it. Once it's put into proper perspective, you can put it aside and move on with your life. Look into it. It works.
some people don't show us how to act..they show us how " Not " to act...it's Your life now..make the most of it..
just forget dont forgive just dont remember
don't let it get to you. I've been through it my whole life. and now if someone has a problem with me i give the attitude right back. basically stick up for yourself its really important.
they're all gone. you're still here. i think that's vengeance enough
Do not let them meet your children. Leave them, move to wherever you desire, but never go back to them again. If your kids ever find out about them, make sure it is at their funeral. If they are cremated, do something insanely disrespectful to the ashes.
I completely understand what you're going thru. Years ago I recovered memories of severe abuse. It really was always there I just dealt with it badly and pushed it out of my head. It involved people I loved and trusted with every fiber of my being. The betrayal....... I give it to Christ but sometimes at night it comes back. I just pray for Christ to take it away again. It's hard but with time it gets better. Are you suffering from PTSD? I was and Christ actually healed what doctors said wouldn't. The nightmares were unbearable. One was so bad I woke up feeling sick. I was in bad shape all day so finally I dropped to my knees and begged God to take them. Haven't had one since and it's been years. I also had massive adrenaline surges. The feeling when you get really angry and you stiffen up and your blood literally feels like it IS boiling....the ANGER!! It was making me very sick. They did enough to me, was NOT letting them destroy me. I have let it go. I have recovered. God wants us happy. Talk to Him. He will help you thru it. God bless you!
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No one is so worthless that they can't serve as a bad example! Sounds like you have several bad examples for you not to follow. You know what not to do! Their behavior was a poor way to show/teach you what not to do, but you will know the right thing to do and the abuse will end with you. Can you turn your hate and anger toward them into love and kindness toward others? There are so many forgotten old folks (many the victims of elder abuse) in nursing homes and children in orphanages or hospitals just hoping some kind person will come spend some time or read them a book. Could you be that person? It will help an old person or a child, but most of all, it will help you ease your pain. Bless you and good luck.
Be a Muslim. Then, you'll forgive and forget.
You need to see a counselor. As much as a lot of the people say forgive you may not be ready to. What you do need is to openly talk about what happened, a counselor is a good start. Realize you have no control over the past, just now and the future. As hard as it may be let go of what you can, they are only toxic memories at this point. If cost is an issue check the local phone book for mental health clinics county or state run. Or support groups a lot of them offer sliding scale fees. Although I am not an overly religious person The Serenity Prayer comes to mind. I wish for you resolution.
It's difficult to forgive especially for something as grave as abuse, but if we don't forgive it affects us emotionally & physically.
We have to try to imitate God (Ephesians 5:1). Notice how he reacted with the city of Nineveh. The Ninevites were acting badly and against God, but when Jonah let them know how God felt, they repented & put faith in God. This change made God see that they deserved forgiveness, so he spared them. (Jonah chapters 3 & 4). Even though they were purposely going against God, since they repented, God forgave them.
Jehovah God and Jesus Christ demonstrated forgiveness on many occasions, and we have to try to do the same.
Plus, God sent His Son, Jesus, in forgiveness of our sins, shouldn't we then forgive each other? In Matthew 6:14,15 Jesus said: "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly father will also forgive you; whereas if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."
When memories come to you, try to distract yourself with something else and little by little you will learn to stray your mind from those memories. Also, ask God to help you forgive, He will help you (Psalm 55:22).
Know this...by holding on to negative feelings towards these people, you are freely giving them your power. You have to know that you should never give anyone your power. You are the only one who can bring happiness into your world and if you continue to embrace the corrosive feelings that you have you are denying yourself the opportunity to have peace. As difficult as it may seem, you have to come to terms with the fact that people do the things they do and we can't change the past.
You will have to break this chain. They were treated that way so they treated you like that. They will never learn it. If you have realised how difficult to pass all those days now this should never happen to any one. You must stop that forgive and forget. By this you will save yourself from many other problems. So be brave be happy be merciful to others be a messenger and ambassador of PEACE.
The same way I did, take it to God in prayer, He will help you let it go.
I know you may feel that no one can understands how you can still be angry all of this time later but it is possible. When our emotions are so strongly attached to a series of events in our lives years later they still feel fresh. Personally when I am feeling down about things that happened in my past the words found in the bible at Philippians 4:6,7 help me a lot. "Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving let you petitions be made known to God; and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard your hearts and mental powers by means of Christ Jesus." So whenever you start thinking about those people who hurt you maybe you can pray to god and ask him for peace. In time you will find that even though the memories are still they won't cause you as much anger or pain.
Forgiving others only benefits you,to move forward in life,you need to let the past go and move forward,with knowledge,maybe somehow to help others in a similar situation,what doesn't kill us makes us stronger,let the past go.
One word, (((((FORGIVENESS)))))
