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How do I stop caring what people say about me ?

I like to think of myself as a fun guy. Most people like me and I get along with everyone. But something that has always bothered me, is when people say something bad about me. Or think bad about me. I get severe anxiety over it. For example. I'm happy in a good mood browsing online and I see a friends picture I comment on and ask her something's about the picture. When all of a sudden. A girl I work with who I never even spoke to comes and writes. Telling me "just shut up, PLEASE just shut up". This bothers the hell out of me. I start getting that nerves feeling and I just want to snap and go off on her. Bc I don't even know who she is really and we never spoke. But I know she talks bad about me and idk why. Should I not respond? And how in the world do I not care and stop dwelling on stuff like this. Like a girl who I'm newly friends with said I'm a tool. She was just kidding but I took such offense. And got all worked up over it. She told she was really joking and didn't mean anything by it. But I just get all bent out of shape about it. I don't want people to think bad about me. I'm a good person. Can anyone help?? Thanks so much.

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I believe there's no way to get rid of your high perception to what people say. But there is a way to better handle your reaction. Right now your view on your self worth lies in what others think of you so when people say negative things about you, you're highly effected. Am I right? So what I suggest to you is to use your attributes to your own advantage: sensitive people, such as yourself, usually tend to be very empathetic. If you become a person who's always thinking about others (i.e. doing favors, listening to people's problems, being a good host when people come over your house, even doing things for your family, etc.) people will love you and your self worth might go up. That way when someone insults you, you won't have to worry because you know you have lots of people who think you're a great guy.

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I know just how that is, bro. You just gotta let it roll off, y'know? Let them have their opinions, they want you to snap and lose your cool. But just don't let get to you. if they say something bad, you gotta take it, and push it off. Don't let someone else's opinion of you change who you are. Because no matter what someone else says, it's you who has the control. You're your own person, and they can't influence you if you don't let them. And remember, your a funny guy, and people love you. They're the real joke.

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JacquelineBieber27

WTF?? Don't respond to her..
I got bullied in school from 5-6 grade..
No matter what you do people are going to talk about you..
People are very cruel these days..
Please don't listen to them..

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Hey who are you to tell us not to respond to her..... what we are saying could actually help her..and you were only bullied from 5-6 grade because you let them you probably had no courage to stand up to that person.. But she will do the..Don't think that every can be like you because people are different.!!
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Good question. I just stopped caring about that kind of thing one day. Not sure why that happened.... but it really comes in handy.

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The only way you stop caring about what people say about you is..to either ignore, walk away, or step up to that person and say "WHY THE FU.. ARE YOU SAYING ALL THOSE THINGS ABOUT ME WHEN THEIR NOT TRUE??!!" AND SAY " YOU KNOW WHAT IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT ME SAY IT TO MY FACE!!" Than after you confront that person they will know not to mess with you anymore because you can say something to them and... And the reason they are saying things about you is because you let them girl you need to stand up for yourself!!...

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Sometimes the altercation wouldn't be smart, such as a fight you can't win? Wouldn't you more suggest a passive action where they would not fret a physical altercation? Threats and psycopathy is never the answer, especially not when you're trying to feel better about yourself. Good guys, seemingly like him, are quite pron to feeling sorry for people and would feel bad for fighting, rather than the latter.
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Try making the insult or whatever funny in your head. Don't listen, and act like the insult is funny. I've done this for years and they get pissed when you laugh at their carefully made insults!

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You seem like a real caring person and people are abusing your heart!!!! Be strong and that's what girls feel when we work with guys.girls feel man have more power in some jobs so could be she is jealous in the position you have so she is trying to unpower you. You gotta stand strong and just ignore all the facts she says. When your getting real fed up ask for a meeting by your boss to talk about the way she acts with her their. Hope that helps. Good luck!!!!

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Don't worry about it, really. I get that all the time, yeah, it hurts, but you gotta let it go in one ear and out the other. They could just be in a bad mood. don't worry about it.

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