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I have to wait at the most 2 years to have my wedding, but i want to have a child... what should I do?

I'm in college and i'm engaged... however like my question says i have to wait 1-2 years until I'm officially married and i want a child... how should i bring this up with my fiancee?

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Get the college education first. Then get married. Get pregnant after that.
Life is not all about what you want; it's about what you should do & do properly.

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if i get my education first i'll be 32-34 by the time i'm done.. i 'm working towards my ph. d
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and... he wan'ts one as well.. and he has mentioned it once or twice how he doesn't want to wait but because of his parents (who we live with currently) he has to!
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Smitty you had a great answer
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Do us and yourself a favor. Wait, and get the husband first.

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he wan'ts one as well.. and he has mentioned it once or twice how he doesn't want to wait but because of his parents (who we live with currently) he has to!
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If you are living with his PARENTS, then how can you expect to be able to afford a child? Taxpayer funding?
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actually, we're in the middle of remodeling our house so that our kitchen is more open and so that we'll have direct access to the future "baby room"
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There is nothing wrong with waiting until you have things better prepared then. You are both still young. Finish college. Get well paying jobs and thus insure that your children will have a secure future. Just because you can have children doesn't mean that you should yet.
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he's 10 years older and has been married before, but his ex cheated on him...
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It is good you can appreciate having a baby, but you really need to be realistic dear. If you want to have a baby because of a stipulation and not from being able to afford one, you should either build a little nest egg, get married get your own place, then consider a child.THEY COST BIG BUCKS TO RAISE ..worth it but only if your pocketbook and relationship can handle the responsibilities..
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We have our own place, it's just getting remodeled currently..
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Things happen. Be sure that you are able to support yourself, and a child , in case he decides that sometime in the next 18 years that he doesn't want to be a dad anymore.
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we already have plans for 2 children so i highly doubt it.. but thanks!
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Wait until you get married.

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he wan'ts one as well.. and he has mentioned it once or twice how he doesn't want to wait but because of his parents (who we live with currently) he has to!
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You shouldnt make a baby until you've married.
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hmmog can you wait till you have at least completed college?

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he wan'ts one as well.. and he has mentioned it once or twice how he doesn't want to wait but because of his parents (who we live with currently) he has to!
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IF you are living with his parents then absolutely no!!!!! They are kind enough to let you stay there. Never sh8t on the table that you eat from
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actually, we're in the middle of remodeling our house so that our kitchen is more open and so that we'll have direct access to the future "baby room"
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Wait til your married . Please !

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Cupid
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Whoa tiger, what's the rush. There will be time for this. Slow down enjoy school.

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all 13 years of it?
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32-34 is not too late to wait!

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i have a less chance of conceiving!
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True, but when you do you will be ready physically and financially!
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actually is is worse for any female to conceive her first child at that age. my mom did that with my older sister and so she couldn't have another child after that... so they adopted me...
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finish college first off. get a good job and a place to live. secure your lifestyle first, be sure you'll be able to support your family and not just rely on the man. secure your well being then get married and have a baby. i bet you'll be happy you did.

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you know that i'm going to be in school for 13 years and by that time i'll already be moved back into our house (the one that;s getting remodeled right now!)
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