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Okay well, I've been dating this guy for 2 months. Not long I know. but he is seriously the clingiest person I have ever met! He wants to be with me every second and keeps touching me and wants to hold my hand every second and put his arm around me. It drives my crazy! Mu friends notice that I don't like it when he does stuff like that. When we are with our friends he won't let me talk to them. I need to break up with him but I don't know how or when? what do I say? We are both freshmen in high school and have a lot of classes together. please help.

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Uh ... that's not "clingy" ... that's "possessive".
The key is that he won't let you talk to your friends.
Such an attitude is an early warning of an abusive relationship.

Just straight tell him you're breaking it off with him.

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Just say "I feel like this is not going well we should break up, cause I got more stuff to do than to hang out with you" or somewhere around there

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Talk to him about it and let him know how you feel.Tell him you need space and dont like to be touched all the time. and if he doesnt respect your wishes than you can break up with him.

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Well, First of all thats insane. He wants to control you, He wants you all for himself so... I would end it lime " Hey _______ This isnt working out. Im sorry, goodbye" and then just walk away and dont look back. c:

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ok first you need to get him face to face and say im so sorry but its not wokin out tell him you can be friends and walk away (fast just in case) and in classes dont stay away from him but not to close cause your still "friends" and the time is when your alone with him

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Tell him i started liking you for the person you were - i just feel trapped in this relationship , i love you like a person but i don't think i'm the kind off girl that you want in your future

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this is what I would tell him. "hey we need to break up. Don't take it at heart, but I need to focus more in school. Plus I don't like that you are so touchy, it really bothers me. And it also bothers me that you want to be with me all the time. I have my friends and I want to socialize with them too. We can stay friends or not, but this has to stop."
If you really don't want to continue dating him don't even give him the chance to say "okay i'll stop" just cut him off and move on girl. Don't give him an option.

I hope it goes well !

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That's really unhealthy, he is possessive my Baby's father is like that. He wouldn't ever allow me to see my friends then I was never allowed to go anywhere, it seems innocent but it will progress to violence down the road that's why I finally ended it because I didn't won't my baby living around that.. you won't like my answer but it don't matter how you tell him cause either way it will hurt both of you. But you need to tell him that y'all can't be together hun, trust me I no from personal experience of 1.5 of the same treatment. you can't change him it just gets worse.. Also he will try to tell you that he will change, I believed my ex and took him back and everytime 4 months down the road he would go back the same way and it would get worse, don't let him talk you into staying with him hun, you will hurt more in the end if you do..

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Not to be rube but really for a boyfriend that isn't clingy that's how a boyfriend is supposed to be! But say can I talk to my friends more or something like that

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That's...not normal i think you gotta get rid of him as fast as you can don't worry about how...just do it

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Just tell him to stop,If he doesn't break up

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well if you like everything else about him except the clingyness tell him that you dont like it and if he doesnt stop then break up with him and say....this isnt working im sorry then walk away.....

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