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Are guys disgusted by bigger (size 16 and up) women? Is it possible to get past their looks and fall for their personality?

I'm a plus size girl and I was curious about how guys really thought about bigger girls like myself. Can you get past the curves and focus on our personality or is a fuller figure a deal breaker?

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helixaqua

I personally don't care....personality is more important than anything (except music...must like GOOD music....and science). A bad personality will make anyone ugly.

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say true bro, say true.
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Good answer!!!!! So I can eat my Chunky Monkey and still be a s3x goddess????
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helixaqua
Absolutely!!! :D
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Good answer, HelixAqua. Applause to you!
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Great answer! I definitely have to agree on the music part...(:
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helixaqua
Thank you!!
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I heard about chunky monkey. I've been wanting to try it is it good?
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it's even better to share the same taste in awesome music with someone you're attracted to.
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hek yes it is!!!!!!!!
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helixaqua
Absolutely!!
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I forgot to add ice cream too :P
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dustee
You are so sweet...and of course smart....peach ice cream...
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WooHoo!!!!! Chunky Monkey!!!!
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helixaqua
Thanks dustee.....mmmmm, ice cream.
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yummmmm........cookies and creme.......
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See Katelyn..... a man loves a woman who will eat ice cream with him!!!!! Just don't take his, he'll get real mean!!!! ;o)
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Cookies and cream is good..... but Chunkey Monkey is AMAZING!!!!! I am an ice cream fiend so believe me when I tell you that i've had just about every flavor. CM all the way!!!!
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Yumm.......Chunky Monkey!!! Where's the spoons?
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Too late.... I already ate it all! Sorry!!!
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Rats! What'a Pittbull Dog downer!!!
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Helix, ya gotta pull out the reserves, Pittbullmom, couldn't control her Chunky Monkey cravings again, pssh, she doesn't know you keep extra ( it's our secret )!!!
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helixaqua
She knows now!!! Let's eat it all quickly!!!! XD
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Heck yeah, I'm on my way!!! Lol
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Once again you're too late!!!!! I found it last night..... Why do you thing I got off Ask????? he! he!
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Sometimes it is. I shouldn't say this but looks do make you like someone more. Personality plays the biggest part. If They really liked u and your personality, they could look past that.

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I didn't mean to offend you dude..its just how it is
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Ok and ik. I was looking for someone with an idea that I didn't have. It's ok
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No deal breaker there, just more places for a guy to put his hands. A lot of people don't know a good thing when they see one.
Obesity would have to getting serious before that affected a real relationship.

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Great answer! I love the part about more places to put his hands(:
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The blind guys aren't for you lol
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haha yea but maybe the deaf is...I've been told I could talk the nails out of a fence post if it would only talk back(southern saying) lol
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Lol, if someone's willing to listen I'll talk there eat off, sometimes!
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haha there has to be communication to make a relationship work so I guess it's a good thing to be a talker(:
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That's good lol, thought I talked a lot for a dude
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yea..I've noticed guys don't talk a lot..unless its about video games or sports...
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I'm not much of a sports fan, but you will hear me talk about video games occasionally
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im not a sports fan either and the only video games I play is sims 3 and wii every now and then
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Hahaha, I've always liked Halo
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isn't that the shooting/army game?
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You go, EmCee! = )
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Hi, katelyn! :)
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hi! (:
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It's a futuristic video game about fighting aliens lol, hi everybody!!!
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oh ok I thought is was about army stuff lol
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Not at all lol, and what about the Wii, what's on there? My sister loves hers
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I have some arcade type games and the wii fit.
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Ahhh okay lol, I like to exercise with no electronics! Except for music, of course...
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I just got back into really exercising now that the dreadful fattening holidays are over and I always have music playing during that time. lately I've been listening to a lot of dubstep/house music.
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Lol, I've found the best way for me to not put on holiday weight is to never get it in the first place. What's "House" music?
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look up Swedish house mafia. they are the best and really the only house music I know
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Okay I will, I'm pretty diverse when it comes to music, really don't like dubstep though lol
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I didn't at first but I found a few artists I liked. im not much of wub wub kind of dubstep but more of the lyrical good tempo/beat and nice bass drops kind of dubstep if that makes any sense at all...lol
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I listened to "Your Name, Save the World, and Greyhound" lol it seemed very repetitive, but it reminded me a lot of Pink Floyd, it seems like something I could listen to and space out lol
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haha my favorites are save the world and don't worry child. im not sure if I have ever heard any pink floyd music before...
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haha my favorites are save the world and don't worry child. im not sure if I have ever heard any pink floyd music before...
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Omg... It's some great music lol... Definitely defined my high school career lol... Another Brick in the Wall is the best by them
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cool I will have to check him out. im also a big foo fighters and imagine dragons fan! (:
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Foo Fighters is great, I like a lot of music lol, Anthrax and Public Enemy are two other great bands
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I've never heard of them. what type of music do they play?
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Anthrax is heavy metal, Public Enemy is the greatest rap group of all time xD
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im not a big rap fan...or screamo,or country... but the rest I pretty much like lol
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Lol, love rap, but not a lot of newer stuff, it's kind of a disgrace to rap music
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I just could never really understand what they were saying nor do I have the ability to sing/rap fast enough to go along with the song! lol
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Lol, you've got to check out some Public Enemy, best rappers of all time, and they don't really rap too quick, but it isn't slow
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haha alright i'll have to do that
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You can but not a lot do but you can find them and disgust no

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It isn't a deal breaker for most guys, many men have an easy time looking past the looks and getting into the personality. Just knowing where to find those guys can be the hard part, I suppose.

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Most guys probably don't like plus size girls. But there are still those decent ones who mainly care about personality. You'll find that guy :)

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yea...kinda I guess just depends

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really?:/
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i dont really care, i dont judge a book by its cover i mean im a football quarterback, i am nice and i love people

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lol most football quater backs are assholes! lol js
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The guy for you won't care what you look like or what body type you are he will love u for your personality promise

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sometimes people look for those things. it discusses me. they should look for a personality. not looks.

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To me, personality beats everything else, that's what makes a guy fall for them (half/most)

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FunnyLittleFrog

A girl isn't necessarily bad looking for being bigger. And a guy isn't necessarily someone you want to attract. You don't need to attract every guy, just a good guy. By the way, this question is offensive.

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How is this question offensive? I wanted to know what real guys thought about girls like me.
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It's not offensive.
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sure isn't
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RebelliousMe

Babe, guys LOVE curves ;)

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cupcakes
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Yummy :) What aboutem?
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rustyboilerz

I've said this all my life, real beauty is on the inside. It's not measured by a clothing size, but by the size of the love contained in ones heart. There was once a song called "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life " in it it said to never make a pretty woman your wife. And I've found that to be almost a truism! My third wife is no "looker " but she's just fine enough to keep this old man happy! I can truly say she's my soul mate. And trust me the real soul of any woman is worn within! ;)

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so true.(:
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I wish I'd found someone like him to marry. That guy really knows what true love is I guess.
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Just be a good person and the right guy will come along!!!!! I have been married to my hubby for 21 years and have been skinny as a rail, size 3, and all the way up to size 16, after I had my babies. He never said a word when I was a size 16 but he always told me I was too skinny when I was a size 3. Either way he still loved me the same.

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helixaqua
Awwww...how nice :D
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I love this answer! thanks so much!
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makes me cry.(:
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Blacksabbath4life

For me. No

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And when I mean no, I mean no to the overlooking the fatness.
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My boyfriend says the best thing about me is my personality so ya

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If there happy with themselves all that matters... I have particular taste
Size isn't even close to the top of the list

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If they are it's because their shallow!! They are no one you want to be with anyways!!! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

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beautiful..
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and I do think Chunky Monkey is beeeuuuutttiiifful!!!!!!
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helixaqua
Well said kookie!
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Thanks Helix!!
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Bones are for dogs ... Meat is for Men !!!

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Spoken by a real man!!!
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Lol :)
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Thank you
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I am a plus size woman myself most men can look past it. I have found guys do look for looks but to must that is not as important to them as the girl having great self confidence and a great personality. I use to feel guys didnt like me because I was over weight and ugly. So I felt that way. Guys can sense how you feel about yourself. If you dont have confidence in your self and how you look they wont be interested. So your key is if you feel ugly and have low confidence is to change it. If your over weight start thanking telling yourself you are beautiful. And start raising your confidence will help you feel better about yourself and make them attracted to you. Hope this helps you. I still struggle at times but I am happy and have confidence and have set goals and I stick to them and no matter how ugly or fat I feel or thank I am still tell yourself out loud that you are beautiful.

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I think men can definitely be superficial! But I think there is someone out there for everyone! But if u feel insecure about ur weight u should start working out! My gf was a plus size all through highschool and had trouble getting a bf so she started hitting the gym like crazy and now she has a rocking body still fights for it everyday! But she has no troubles meeting men!

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im not disgusted by it, but it's not for me. theres a guy out there, dont look for him, he'll come to you.

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I've always had a thing for "healthy" women, anyway. Too skinny and it's almost anorexic.

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I have a fear of fat people... I am disgusted by anyone who is larger than supposed to...

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most guys love sexy and beautiful women some doesnt look on the physical appearance..

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