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Is this normal in all relationships?

No matter what you do, your partner never loves you, and you never get back as much as you give. Your partner only wants you when you don't want them.

Is this normal for all relationships, or is this specific to certain people?

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Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship AT ALL. I'm sure you could do some much better.....assuming you're asking this for yourself.

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I am not with this guy, but I'm losing hope in all relationships. Thanks Gators :)
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Don't lose hope
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What was wrong with my answer ?
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I know! It disappeared!
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no its not a normal relationship and it doesnt sound like a good one either

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ur welcome
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SuperGeek64

I wouldn't say so. Yes that's true for some people,but there are people who will truly love you.

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Thats true. And I will agree.
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Obviously not

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No. There needs to be reciprocation. It may not be completely equal all the time, but in the long run it evens out.

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Sounds pretty one sided, to me...and ALL relationships are not like that...there are many different kinds of relationships, look for a Loving man that gives you love and respect. any other kind of man is not worth having, in my opinion.as long as BOTH people show each other Love and respect it should be a wonderful experience, and a long lasting one..:)

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your wqelcome, Hope it helped you???
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It did! It's good to know that that behavior is not "normal"
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it is not Normal, but it happens..All people are different..but you should choose a good Healthy Relationship..don't rush it...:)
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no problemooooooooo...:D
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Nicely put mikes 703.:-)
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Thank you wittepier...:)
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If that's you on the profile picture you are too nice looking to play games with fools

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That is me, and thanks
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No. That means you need to back off, drop the relationship, and find someone else. A good relationship has a balance; people treat each other similarly. Both people need to be equally caring. I suppose there could even be relationships where neither person is caring, but I don't know why they would bother. But if you're feeling slighted, talk to your partner about it; if they can't or won't change it's probably time to move on.

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that is not a normal relationship but if you want you could come and be with me.

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Thank you, but I'm taking a break for a while :)
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well do you have a yahoo account bc you could talk to me there too
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FunnyLittleFrog

I would say that is normal for a relationship that is deteriorating. Sorry...

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Thanks. I broke it off a week ago :(
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not even

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So I will go against the grain
And say some of what u said
Is normal - like me wanting mf gf
When she doesn't want me - n vise
Versa- however there must be love n trust both ways -
I think after time - this is what happens - but we still love each other
And enjoy each others company
So If u don't have love both ways
Find it - it's out there - :-)

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Thank you :) I like honesty
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I think it's normal to feel like that at times, except for the never love part. That part you shouldn't doubt. But if that's how you feel overall about the relationship, that's a bad sign, buttercup. So it's nope, I don't think it's normal. hugs

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Thanks :)
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Eating some vanilla or strawberry ice cream might make you feel better. I hear they put stuff in it to make it taste extra good. =]
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Lol! Oh goody....
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You have a new picture! Cute. I didn't want to post this in someone else's question because I would look like even more of a creeper.
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Haha nah, but thanks :D
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Maybe it's just me but I think you deserve better.

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A one-sided relationship is not a real relationship.

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Oh that's true!
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Nothing is ever normal for ALL relationships. I would say you're in a tight bun there. I've been in a relationship like that, too, but it was worse. Even when I didn't want her, she still didn't want me. It's good y'all broke off, I suppose. Sometimes you can only give so much. It'll take time to recover. This Valentine' Day is going to be sad for you. I'm here, though. I know that probably doesn't make anything better because I'm not HIM. But whatever. There's only so much a person can give.

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Thanks! You are very right :(
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I'm right and there's a smiley face? That's a contradiction.
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No, that's a frowny face!
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That's what I meant.
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You should totally ask him for a wrestling match and then kick his butt in it. You know, since you two are going to be best friends again and all.
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No we aren't. Seriously, the things he said to me last night.... I would prefer to never see him again
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Oh okay. Well then, how about we do one. Okay, I'm going to start first. Um, the match starts and Passage One throws Jackie WAY across the ring. Now, it's your turn.
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I've knocked you out too much apparently. Okay, you get a healing potion now. Passage and Jackie start the match with Jackie putting Passage in a side headlock.
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Lol! I was doing hw! Jackie knees Passage in the balls. Round win goes to Jackie!
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What?! No, that's a disqualification. You lose by DQ!
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And the winner of the match is... Passage One! Wins by a disqualification. Okay, it's time for round two.
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I think relationships can change and flip at different times throughout. I also think it's possible for one person to love more than the other but blatant on going imbalance is reason to rethink staying around.

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You're welcome J.
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Yes that's normal....in BAD relationships....keep moving ;)

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It is not like that in all relationship at least not with me though we are married since 10th Feb 1983 ( almost thirty years) we have never felt like that.

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Oh good to hear :) I need some hope
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Wish you all the best and May almighty shower HIS blessings on you and your family. Amen.
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And Congratulations on your upcoming Anniversary!!:-).
May you have 30 more!:-)
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Thank you very much and pray for you to have more then 100 yrs of Loyalty, love, care, share and happy married life Amen.
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My husband and I thank you for the positive wishes, we indeed have a good loyal, caring, sharing and mostly happy married life!:-).
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no that is not normal that is friends with benefits

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I don't think it's normal, wish u luck though n don't give up:)

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I don't believe it is very normal for all relationships,but then again, what relationship is normal? All are their own experience. This doesn't sound like a very good relationship though, maybe some changes need to be made,For better or worse. Hope this answered your question....

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Alright. Glad I could help! :D
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no.

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What sort of a relationship it is when they dont want you and they are there when you do not want them. A relaitonship is something which should be mutually understandable. You should be giving. I know its not about giving and taking. Its love then you dont measure your love and give them. Continue if you feel it will be good ahead otherwise its better to let such people go away. tell them you want love you dont want when it is needed coz we are not needy.

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No not at all

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Jackie, it doesn't sound healthy. I'm sorry.

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Thanks. It wasn't, and I feel better these days :)
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Good. I hope the best for you in the future.
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uhhh...no

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love is unconditional never expect too much the most important thing is doing your part no matter how he/she loves you...

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it's normal f**vk him or her

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No it is not normal. What you have to ask yourself is why is this happening? Most marriages and relationships today face the issue of the each partner not have their emotional and physical needs met. This is because when we try to meet our partner’s needs we subconsciously give them what we want or need not what they want or need, There are huge differences between the top needs of a man and the top needs of a women. when these needs go unmet eventually you will get them met elsewhere and that’s when the affair begins, A man’s top needs are sex, respect and adoration, domestic support, and recreational companionship, affection/love, conversation, security, honesty and openness. You need to talk to her and listen. If you want a strong marriage, an affair proof marriage, Learn his needs and sacrifices to make sure they are fulfilled and you will find that your needs will also be taken care of. Good luck!

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That is very helpful, thank you. I'll keep those things in mind :)
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no that doesn't reallly sound like a healthy relationship to me .... in my opinion just cut the relationship... he/her doesn't really love you they are just using you

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Jackie, you should know the answer mate. It's no, that not normal nor is it healthy! You should find someone that loves ya' as much as you love them.

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That's not normal at all. All I have to say.

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It varies on the different types of relationships. One can be just like what you have said or described. And one can be the complete opposite of it. So yeah that's basically about it. And hey if it helps then give it a go and if it dont then at lease I tried.

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No, it's not normal or healthy at all but relationships are all different. If this person makes the other unhappy; he/she should move on. Find what makes them complete. There's no sense in staying in a relationship and giving all your efforts when you aren't seeing any results. A relationship takes two to work. People should love theirselves first before getting into a relationship; especially one that's unhealthy. Both partners need to accept, support each other, and build each other up.

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Maybe it is time for you to break up with him and find someone that you are compatible with

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no that's not normal at all if i say so its unhealthy

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This is not a good relationship. I had that same problem last year. The best thing to do is end it. This kind of relationship is only going to bring you pain and sorrow.

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PrincessAngelle

That does not even sound like a relationship at all.

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it doesnt look good...maybe its time to take a step back and consider other options......

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The guy sounds like a jerk........DUMP HIM!!! There's better people, really. :D

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not normal...

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MartinaHamm

That is not normal. He is feeding his ego and is a control freak.i would go find someone else. That is not a relationship let alone any love in it.

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