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my friend is 14 and has a girlfriend, he is freaking out because his girlfriend has her period and wants a baby but the odds are against them and she may die. They both love each other a lot, but what should he do he doesn't want to hurt her but she said she will break up with him if he doesn't. I said if she is threatening their relationship then she doesn't love him but he doesn't care he doesn't want to risk it, so what should i tell him?

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THEY ARE 14 YEARS OLD! 14 year olds should NOT be bringing babies into this world! Tell him to break up with her NOW before he messes up his life.

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he doesn't want to, trust me i feel the same by miles but he is crazy about her
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Well then I guess they will be another couple of babies living off my tax dollars.
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rustyboilerz
Truth when needed most. Great answer Cj.
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he doesn't want to kill her
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I can NOT believe kids these days. When I was 14, I was worried about my barbie dolls, not getting pregnant. Jeez.
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Amen I'm 16 and don't want a baby I like my life the way it is
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Keep that head on your shoulders cupcake!
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Thanks I will not trying to end up on teen mom or 16 and pregnant no thank you
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I will not trying to end up on teen mom
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You just said that.
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fritzmerde
You're a racist republican trying to keep the peeps down. You probably feel that people should work, you're pro education.You probably think that it's not okay to have 8 kids by 7 men, well maybe 7. A buddy needed to head down to Balltimo to fix some hospital equipment (it's his job) So I figured why not, anyway we hit the hospital & he did his thing, 2 hours later he was finished, he likes to go up to the nursery to see the newbies. They have a big "tote board" with all the details of the baby & moms---the average age of the mothers 14, the row with fathers names, only 1 name. So she's running behind
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Who are you talking to and what are you talking about?
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Fritz... that's bad... lol
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nice discount Fritz! :)
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Is he stupid enough to let a 14 year old nympho control him and let her ruin his life!!?? Just buy her a dolly to play with! FC's S And like cj said!
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Seriously, tell him to stand his ground. At 14 he is way too young to be having sex, especially with a girl who is manipulative like that. You are correct in saying that if she really loved him, she'd not pressure him into this, so he's definitely better off without her.

If she's really persistent, someone could always tell her parents, I'm sure they'd take care of the issue quick enough.

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Tell him to break up with her, they are too young,too immature, too irresponsible. (The list goes on). They should not be having children right now nor anytime in the near future. Tell him to break up with her, before things go to worse.

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If you were a REAL friend, you'd tell both of the parents! That would stop this nonsense in a heartbeat! Brave people walk, where fools fear to tread! Tell anyone of importance, and SOON!

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Very true!
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their parents are never their for them both they wouldn't care
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They would care. Because they are the ones who are going to have to support the kid.
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As I stated, BRAVERY is needed to rat out your friends intentions. Grow a pair and do it! I know most kids wont snitch, but at times like this, you have to, you'll be glad you did. It takes REAL guts to do the right and proper thing!
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Do as these others say, they'll their parents.
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Tell their parents then talk some sense into these kids. I can't believe 14 year olds are thinking about kids. What is wrong with society???
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In school, I was like a fly on the wall, ALL eyes and ears! I personally stopped 56 girls and their boyfriends from making such a horrific mistake. I used the school councilor to bring in the affected families and have a face to face talk with these kids. It worked in all but one case, and when they were caught, he went to prison for taking an underage girl out of state.
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Yes, parents and society needs to wake up. But as long as the government will give support, many today think why NOT! *smh*
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if they love each other, they should stay together. but they are 14 years old, they should not be having children yet!!!! I'm 14, and still haven't started dating. I'm totally not rushing it, but just trying to make a point.

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good point!
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thanks!!!
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Umm tell him to wait and see she might just be going through a phase

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please let it be a SHORT phase... and that the next one is better thought out too!
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I doubt she would care very much whether your friend was the father or not, if she is that desperate for a baby. He should break up with her, and let the next guy deal with her psycho fantasy of being a mother. Not your friends problem.

He will find someone later on who he actually is crazy about. There are way better girls out there than this psycho. At 14, he has no responsibility to hang around and give her a child. Thats something for him to think about in 20 years, not now when he is worrying about homework.

Like I said, not his problem. He should let the next guy deal with it.

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Soo true when your desperate you don't care who it is
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yup! 2nd-ed
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why is she going to die?.

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Yeah, what's that about?
Sounds like daytime TV.
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no joke!
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fritzmerde

No sweat, Obama care will cover the morning after pill, an abortion & also late term abortions. If they want to have the child great, welfare is available, food stamps, WIC, free cheese & free cell phones. Like Joe Biden said, the other party is trying to put people back in chains-wink wink. Most dads out there aren't around, most people in this country will never pay income tax, why should your friends be any different. Enjoy, the evil rich will pick up the tab

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Harsh but just fritz
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The truth is always to hard to swallow. I hate that people sit back & watch our country get destroyed from within. How many lives were lost so that people can sit on their butts & collect from the government. How can people justify being 3rd & 4th generation welfare recipients? In the last 75 years they couldn't find a job? We have retired people having to come out of retirement because they can't live on the laughable amount of $ socialist security pays, after paying into it for 50 years But you can collect welfare & hang out,
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wasn't it great when they put the plan B in a vending machine.... always good to have death on order, regret unecessary, and no need to make a proper decision in the first place... what happened to having sex when you were ready to accept children financially and emotionally?? They aren't even the status symbol that they once were, now they are a toy/babydoll, something to love you instead of something to love, and/or a paycheck! Sad state the emotionally stunted country is in these days
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Yo just go on and let them do it, it's their life, if they want to screw it up let them do it. (These dumb people out in this world)

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yeah... stupid babies getting born to children... let them screw up another life theirs isn't pitiful enough at 14 desperate to be pregnant... what's the babies generation going to want 12 or maybe 10 to make a baby in order to find love?
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Tell both of their parents......... Buff said

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tell him to run, run on home

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Tell him break up with her it's not worth it

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The ultimatum should tell him everything he needs to know... get me pregnant or I'm leaving... let her leave then, he's obviously not important in her life, he's interchangeable! She want's more attention by being pregnant. Does he have no desire for a degree, a diploma even? How does he plan to pay for the child the hundreds of dollars a month for diapers,,, all the crap she is going to demand to be in style as she totes around this poor little trophy, who's only purpose is to give love to a calculating 14 year old who will always care more about herself than the child or the childs father? Who's to know if the girls parents will even let her keep it, if I had a pregnant 14 year old that baby would be up for adoption at birth! If for no other reason than to not let the child manipulate the baby and use it like a toy!

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14? No further questions...

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Run

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Society and media influences these days... . Truly breaks my heart seeing and hearing stuff like this..

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14 huh? and she wants a baby. If I could give him advise .. I would tell him to RUN .. and never look back Dump her ass .. and quick! This GF is trying to entrap him. She is trying manipulate him for her own selfishly devious reasons. She doesn't love him .. THAT is not even relatively close to love ... Manipulation, on this level, with what's at stake, NEVER is.

This girlfriend is obvious deluded into thinking baby is the answer to her own life's problems...to the point where she thinks she needs to force your friend into making her pregnant ... Like it will 'fix' something and make her happy.

Sadly, life just doesn't work that way.

At 14 a baby will do the exact opposite of what she 'thinks'. This is not a puppy, that can be locked up in a kennel while you go to school, or partake in regular 14 yr old activities. Nor is it a video game that you can just shut off when you tire of it.

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It's a full time job .. for a lifetime. Worse yet .. is the fact that (most specifically) "she" .. but more definitely "they" have nothing to offer a baby. They are not emotionally, financially or even mentally equipped to deal with the needs of a child. They may think they are .. but, as sure as shoot'n .. they are not. The very fact that she is trying to force him into having a child can attest to her immaturity.

She is thinking of her own needs..not the needs of the boyfriend and definitely not the needs of an innocent child. THAT in itself should speak volumns about her character and potential as a partner.

Anyone who wants to bring a child into this world with nothing to offer it .. is unspeakably cruel and selfish. It is not loving, or nurturing...in fact, it's the complete opposite.
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14 really ?? They should not want a baby tell them to enjoy they teenage years that is what wrong with the world teenagers bringing babies in the world that they can not take care of them or don't want to take care of them and the parents if the teenagers having to take care of the baby and girls getting pregnant thinking that will make they boyfriends stay with them that just make them leave faster because they don't want responsible and this is coming from a 14 year old girl

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How about we just let them babysit, huh? Let them see how much work kids are (their current behavior being a prime example of how much work kids are).

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14 = to young

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It doesn't matter. I mean, she's going to die anyway right? What does it matter if she breaks up with him? If he keeps it going, then she's going to die. So... What's the point? She wants a baby but she's not going to live long enough to have the baby or to even see the baby. Seriously, he needs to think about that. And you have to make a choice: either you stay together and she dies, with it being your fault because you gave her the baby (congrats, you're a murdera); or, she survives and she has to find somebody else to give her a baby. Either way, it doesn't make sense because why want a baby if you know you'll never be able to see it live?

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