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How should I punish my 5 year old?

He kicks me, spits on me, hits me. He also calls me stupid, brat, ugly,dumb, and hes getting in trouble at school. I dont know why he thinks its okay to do this to me. I have had it, he has kicked his teacher and next time he will get suspended. How do I make him stop?

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You ought to take him to a Doctor and find out if he has any food allergies. A lot of time food allergies can create outbursts such as these. I would feel terrible if I punished my child before I found an underlying problem that actually turned out to be my fault. A lot of times a wheat allergy... or gluten allergy is the problem. I would check that first.... then would probably try a child psychologist if the allergy results came back negative.
Beating your child is not the answer.

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Like your new pic! Didn't you say this with the original post.
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You need to take him to behavior classes

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Really? How about parenting classes?
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Well the kid could have a disorder my nephew acts like this and they have to take him
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Sit him down and try to talk to him and ground him for 1 month

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Allegedly he is 5 years old. Grounding for a month not gonna work!
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Three magic words..."Dave's Insanity Sauce"...

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lol
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But Officer she couldn't have done it! She was sitting on the bar stool next to mine!
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That makes no sense at all...
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First off start giving him time outs. The amount of time depends on their age. Since he is five you give him a five minute one. His time out should be in a quite area and nothing around him. Like sitting in a chair. If he talks or gets off his five minutes starts all over again. Just take him there and tell him why. Once five minutes are up he needs to apologize to you.

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Very good
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She was told all this when she first posted this a week ago.
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I spent my whole early childhood in the corner...
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Show him whos the boss that u aint taking that sh*t anymore ground him or wop him each time he does wrong

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Tell him who's the boss :) Lay down the rules and punish him. Make him stay in his room until he apologizes.

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just a small SWAT. but do destroy him/her just enough to hurt a little and realize the wrong of his/her doing. and who's boss

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Does he play video games? How bout watching wrestling or violent shows on TV? Any violence in the home (such as domestic violence, or excessive spanking)?? Kids that age typically mimic what they are visually exposed to. Start there. If the answer to the above is "no", then try a sleep study (some kids act out to compensate for excessive fatigue). I would also recommend highly, seeing a psychiatrist, as he may be bi-polar. You want to get that under control ASAP, if in fact it is the case.

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Good advise
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dont let him behave that way he is or thats how hell grow up to be. teach him manners and if he doesnt listen then put him in a room in time out and dont let him watch tv until he apologizes.

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Because you are not calling him on this behavior! 1 wack with the statement; "I'm bigger and hit harder" gets their attention. Not talking a pounding just enough to get his attention. When he's calm ask him if he liked getting hit. When he says no then point out neither do you. Name calling should be good for a time out without toys, games or TV. All kids need limits you need to give them to him. There are a couple of childcare shows currently on television. Look them up.

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Kick his @ss.

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i have four kids so i can tell you what works with one may not work with the other .so having said that the thing to remember is to be consistent and hold up don't give in.also evaluate your environment is someone setting a bad example?just be firm but give him lots of love and play with him.

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Great advise Anna
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I assume you're against beating the crap out of him, or this would have been taken care of already. Take away everything that he loves. Reset his environment. Take his toys, take away television, trips to the park, chocolate milk and straws and all those other little perks he takes for granted and make him earn the stuff back, bit by bit with good behavior. Once you've taken all this stuff, and any other stuff you can think of, let him go sit and stew in his room. Let him be mad, tell him you will discuss with him how he can get everything back once he has calmed down. If he yells and screams, that's fine, ignore him and wait. Eventually he'll figure out that this behavior does him no good and gets him no attention. Then he'll be begging you to talk to him. You just have to have patience and wait for him to process all of what is happening. And after that, try and catch him being good. Congratulate and reward and point out the good things he's doing. Stupid little things, like how he isn't throwing a tantrum when he normally would, using good manners, etc.

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I've recently stopped working to be a stay at home mom and my boy is 6, his behavior has totally turned around, just stick by your guns, try and get some support where you can, hell, talk and vent at me if you like, but stick by what you say and never make any threat you won't follow through with.
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Put him in a verrrry cold shower! Btw behavior is learned! Where did he learn this behavior?

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Take away his privileges until he reforms his actions.

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Sounds like the kid needs a good ass-whippin' to me. That's what happened to me when I acted out, it it put me in my place right quick. Start taking away his privileges, and when he loses his little mind over it, give him a good swat on the rear. Soon enough, it'll get through his head that he's got to change, or it won't end well for him. Good luck!

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Sadly this sounds like someone i know you should spank him and take his stuff away that what my mom does.

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take away his tv for a week. if he doednt stop take away any electronic devices he may hold. if he continues then take it away longer

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Punishment is not the same as chastisement; yet these two terms have become almost synonymous in the English language. This confustion in defenition is unfortunate since each has lost its origional, distinctive meaning. Equally unfortunate is the emotional connotation many people have about punishment. Generally, punishment is considered to be a cruel, harsh, and arbitrary penalty that is imposes on a helpless subject. However, punishment that the Bible defines is always just. Chastisement is the specific use of a rod to inflict pain(as a shepard's staff), used to conquer rebellion and force submission to authority. Punishment is "the action of punishing or the fact of being punished; the infliction of a penalty in retribution for an offense; a penalty imposed to ensure the application and enforcement of a law.There is a correct amount of time, and way, to administer punishment; it is a highly objective process. There is no reason why parents cannot be confident in establishing penalties and administering justice whe necessary.Parents, as God's established authority over children, have the responsibility to execute justice when standards are broken.

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Make him live in a group home.

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Take away the thing he enjoys the most to do and maybe even putting him up in his room when ever he comes home from school.

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A shepherds staff was used to GUIDE sheep not beat them! (oops, that was suppose to be a comment for yabeel) but still applicable. A child needs guidance. They need to know what is expected of them and have an appropriate consequence if they choose to disobey. That's where giving a warning comes in and consistent follow through works wonders. If you have ever said any of those words to him, most likely he is modeling your behavior.

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And they need love most of all. If a child knows he is loved, he/she will want to please you.
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one word comes to mind BELT if he is anything like my 5 year old cousin. thts how his parents punish him!

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Every time he does or says something wrong or inappropriate take away one of his favourite toys and hide them well tell him they have been given to poor or les fortunate boys and girls, if he has done something really good put one back in his room while he is asleep and tell him the fairy's brought it back. my mum did this to me (even though i was a very well behaved child) but we do it to my little sister and it works. hope i helped and good luck <3

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Draw the line. Be the parent. Let him know in no uncertain terms this will not be tolerated. Treat him with respect but be firm. It's all for attention. Spend more time with him.

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get him to a psychologist. NOW.

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yeah not really helpful is it. take it you no got kids, so why answer. if you do have kids then really !!!
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You need to talk to school make sure they are addressing it the right way, not just labelling him "bad", which will trust me make it worse. I don't know where you are I am in Scotland. A trip to your doctor or health pro should help, There could help there could be an undiagnosed medical problem. If not medical problem there could be a reason for emotional issues. If you don't know of any then the doctor should refer you to other professionals to help. Some kids are just more emotional than others. My son went to groups and therapists, that we did not have to pay for. A referral to educational psychologist help, & open up a lot more doors of help. Also taking these routes should mean school don't come down to hard on him whilst issues being rectified. In short term try talking rather than punishment, honestly it does work sometimes! But if not the best one we've tried which was suggested to us was time out and consequences. Try time out. Failing that try consequences. Examples such as - that behavior is not acceptable, if you continue it you wil not be allowed out to play after school. Good luck.

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you have to show that you are boss, and strike a little bit of fierceness in your attitude. tell your child that there are consequences to every wrong deed. tell him/her that you will take a lot of privileges away if he/she doesnt abide to your rules.

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I am a parent of two, 4 & 7 yr olds. Not to get all religious on you but, what has helped me as a parent is applying what the Bible says as respects disciplining. How should we feel about discipline? Well, we definitely want to administer discipline in a loving way. Eph. 6:4 says, "do not be irritating your children, but go on bringing them up in the discipline and mental regulating of Jehovah." God also tells children at Eph. 6:1, "Be obedient to your parents....for this is righteous." I have learned as a parent I must be consistent and I must keep my word. Matt. 5:37: "Let your word Yes mean Yes, your No, No." Discipline comes in may forms. There's punishments, verbal discipline, & physical. Which ever we choose we must do something. Prov. 22:15 says, 'Foolishness is tied up with the heart of a boy; the rod of discipline will remove it far from him." Prov. 23:13: "Do not hold back discipline from the mere boy. In case you beat him with the rod, he will not die. While we may have to take physical action to correct sometimes, it is not the only means of discipline.

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Im old fashioned and I spank my children. Not everyone agrees with it but I survived it and so will my kids. I will not tolerate my children to harass or embarrass me. Im the parent they are the kid. I do not beat them just spank on the butt, but it gets there attention. You should not have to put up with that behavior. Have you had him checked for ADD or ADHD?

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Ok, spanking hurts for a 5 year old, but it isn't violence, as a 5 year old whenever I got spanked I would spend the rest of my day thinking up creative and gruesome forms of revenge, and I wasn't even allowed to play with toy guns. I spent many times in the corner, but what really worked was writing sentences, pain was useless, corner was useless, yelling was useless, but I wrote so many sentence's I hated writing ANYTHING until age 12, by age 10 I would write with reasonable speed even though I disliked it, but by around age 12 I was finally writing with reasonable speed, and now at 13 am a pretty prolific rap writer, but that's just me, SENTENCES

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make him hold up a sign next to a busy street that says what he did wrong, humilition is the best punishment

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I like that, might as well have some fun right?
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Call super nanny

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