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How can I tell my Mom I want her to move out?

Me and my bf got a new house and she decided she HAD to move in. Since then i havent gotten any alone time with my bf.

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wow i wonder how it would have felt for you being kicked out by your mom

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I know, right?
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Tell her about it and Move !

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Tell her you just want some space so you can be with your bf.

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Why do u live with him? Why not get married?

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Because not everyone is ready for that?
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So...why would he buy the vow if he always gets the milk for free? Its not fair for kids to be born from parents who aren't married and single parents. Its never been designed to be this way. People don't really love another. There is zero commitment.
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marriage ruins relationships, stop being judgmental and answer the question.
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No..it doesn't. Living together does.
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hunterdude is right. 90% of marriages I see fail. And who says they are having kids?
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the commitment adds stress on the couple and leads to a divorce. more than half of marriages end in divorce.
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Really? Marriage ruins relationships? Wow. My grandparents have been married for 50 years, I have always seen there great love for each other. My parents have been married 21 years.
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90% couldn't be any less accurate.
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If been married 18 yrs. Marriage was much more rare just a couple generations ago. People actually loved each other and stayed together and living together was unheard of. Today, we have almost no morals and kids think marriage is taboo. Where did it all come from? I think from less and less people loving God. People become selfish and life is about themselves...not a life of love and sacrifice. The mindset is to just change partners like you change your wardrobe.
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I meant to say...divorce was rare a couple generations ago. ....
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people married for 50 years are most likely unhappy, they force themselves to stay together because of religious reasons.
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Very untrue! My parents have been together for over 40 years and they each other very much. Iv been married for 18 yrs and wouldn't want life without my husband. People who have never been married or stayed married have no room to talk. Or...need to know how to choose a right person. I know some people end up in difficult marriages and the person they thought they married is not who they thought. I have empathy with them and I don't judge. I'm just saying that marriage is the
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....a good thing and the way its suppose to be. Peace and love
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Mom I love you but you need to find your own place.

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Tell her you need some space away or she needs her own place. That is all the help I can provide. (Awesome username by the way)

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Kick her out?

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Be nice to your mother. They don't get enough credit nowadays.

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Tell her she's getting in the way of you playing house.

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"Mom can I please have some space with my bf if that's alright with you?" ask her that.

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Can't believe you actually let her in the first place... But just explain to her how you need your own place and you can't be her little girl forever

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Telling her to move out will make her have to go through a lot of work. People back in time took care of their parents until they died. If you want alone time with your boyfriend, go out on a date or something but it would be terrible to kick your mom out.

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Just say hey mom its time for me to grow up and move out or just leave this question up on your computer and put your computer in an obvious place where she will see it so you don't have to.

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How about talking to her about some boundaries.

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Look in the paper for a one-bedroom apartment one bus ride from you. Save first/last rent. Tell her that she needs her own place and so do you. Tell her your plan and be kind, but firm. Create a deadline, line up a truck and move forward with it. Keep the boyfriend out of the discussions with your mom.

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Tell her how you love her but you need your own space :)

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Give her two weeks to get out, don't kick her out in the street, but let her know that you got the house to be independent, and that's hard to do when she's right there.

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Why did she move in the first place? Did she already have a house of her own?

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Yeah but she rented it out
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Is she able to afford her own house and live on her own?
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yes she only rented it out so she could live with me.
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Well, I'd tell her that you think it's time for her to move back to her own house. You all love her very much, but you need the experience of having your own home and spending time with your boyfriend. Make sure she understands why.
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thank u
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No problem, good luck!
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uuuummmmm, i still dont get why your mom has to move out. 8(

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how old r u?( to see if i can tell you about this stuff.)
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15
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ok. I know my boyfriend might want to purpose but with my mom it is hard to do. having sex is also hard
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it is hard for us to have sex without her asking whats going on in the room
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Lol wow that sucks can't even be intimate in your own place, good luck Lucy but you should just tell her straight out
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My husband and I just got our first house, with our first child on the way, and we took his mother in. Who wont work or anything, and she is capable. But we help her. Your mother had to put up with you your entire life until recently, and you want to put her out just because you want alone time? My husbands mom sleeps in the same room as us, even though we have a three bedroom, two living room house. We don't get alone time, and we get angry. I am 5 months pregnant, so I can't stand her at times, but I would never kick her out unless she disrespected us. You should think about others, other than just yourself. Your mother won't be around forever.

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