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Is a 20 year difference in a relationship too much? I'm 28, he is 48...

I have no children, he has 2 grown children.

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No, not at all. I mean, as long as y'all have reasons to be attracted to each other that are considered reasonable for people of your ages then yes. As you're a woman already and you've passed puberty, that means your body still releases pheromones and you have womanly parts. That's a decent reason for him to be attracted to you physically. He's a grown man and he has manly parts and he acts in ways that attract you reasonably. You both have nothing to worry about.

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Only if you feel it is.

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Yes. That's gross, he could be your father...

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Not as far as I am Concerned...... What works works.. !

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Hey, Roger. Something happen to just_saying?
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Ya, She decided that she liked Merriltom better, I guess...
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Oh, good Lord. She's MerrillTom?! Wow. Who knew?! Guess you did, lol. Glad I asked! Well, nice that she followed me, again. :)
Thanks for that info, Roger! :)
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No... she is still just_saying....Merrilltom is someone else on here... Sorry for the confusion...
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Oh, okay. When I noticed her gone as a follower, I didn't know if she just wanted to not follow me any more, or something happened to her account, so I checked your followers, or whom you are following, I forget, and she wasn't there, so I figured no account, I mean....not to be following you, or vice versa, whichever is the case. So it seems you must be done with each other then. Sorry, Roger. I know she was special to you. : [ Well, from one of your answers I saw today, seems you have your hands full, anyway. ;)
Thanks for explaining about just_saying. :)
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Right... Yes, She and Merrilltom pretty much hit it off and I hit the curb... Oh Well... As far as the girl I work with, she was drinking at the time ,so, I have to take what was said with consideration to that... especially because She broke contact abruptly and I did not hear from Her today.... ( her day off... But she texted Me a few times last Monday... Nothing today).... Oh Well...... That's Life I guess... :(
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Awww, Roger. :(
Wow, that about just_saying..... that's terrible! I feel for you. Wow......and you're such a nice guy, too. So unfair. :(
Are you okay?
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I am feeling better now..... I like that you have noticed and expresed concern.... That makes me feel better.. :)
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Glad, Roger.
Aww, thanks. :)
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I should Thank You..... to be perfectly accurate and Honest, You are the one person that I have known for the longest time Here ......
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Oh. I had no idea! Surprised! When did you start your Drums account?
That's a nice statement. Apparently factual, but nice. :)
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My Drums account was created at the beginning of last September...... It became unaccesible when I experienced a computer malfunction right at the beginning of December... I was able to Re-sign on by way of My facebook account... thereby, giving the Name of myself as the new account.. As it Is now....
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Yes, I know you had problems. I unfollowed you, due to the account being inactive, right?
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I'm not sure, I have never actively attempted to access that account since then... a lot of haunting memories exist along with it..... Not to be disrespectful... of course, but, a lot of my friends, You mostly included, were quick to Re-Follow me on my new account... So, I just went with it.....
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I understand, Roger.
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I know You Do... And thanks for That... it means a Lot...
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You're very welcome. Thanks. :)
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As Are you... Thanks Again ;)
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You know, Roger....knowing even the bit I know of the person you are, I could see.....well, never mind. :)
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No .... No....please go on... You have My attention now...... I am very interested in what You have to say..
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No. Better left unsaid, and well, just not......appropriate, really. :)
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Only if You insist, Still... you will leave Me wondering....
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Let's just say, I think we might be a lot alike. :)
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Oh, for that I am sure..... I have felt that for some time now.... :)
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Wow. :) I know you're sensitive, as I am. I know you're a super nice guy, as I am......not GUY. :) (not arrogant, either, though it sounded that way) THAT, I am not!
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Ya know, when I first say your fingers in that little guy in the pic there, it was almost like I could see some of you,, well, I could, of course, but it was almost like....... you were so close, that I somehow had a better grasp of you, more insight.....oh, I don't know what I'm trying to say, lol.......and even seeing those fingers was, well........... better left unsaid, maybe. :) Goodnight, Roger.
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Ok then... Good Night Gail... :) We shall continue our conversation soon... until then :) Have a pleasant evening... and Sweet dreams...
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Thanks. You as well. :)
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I think at those ages it all depends on how your relationship works. If you're both happy and he isn't an authority figure, y'all aren't fighting like cats and dogs... I don't see anything unhealthy. How does his family feel about it? I could see the relationship with his kids being a bit strained.

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He has a tendancy to be a bit authoritive, but not controling. I think his family is just happy to see him happy. And I get along with his kids just fine. As long as the women in his life/family like me everything is good.
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I really don't see an issue then. You're fully grown and not tearing any families apart. =)
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Cowgirl207

Yes. it very wrong... his kids could have been your childhood best friends!!!

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His kids are younger than me, and deffinatly at a different maturity level.
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just remember, Its you choice
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I guess not.....

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i think it is a bit wrong yes but if you love him and he loves you then thats fine too.

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Sexy.

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FunnyLittleFrog

It could work for you, but it's an unequal relationship.

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Well, I'm just gonna express my opinion here. There is no "fact" on whether it's to much or not. I believe in some cases, age is just a number. This is one of those cases. I see nothing wrong with this. If people can have the option to be homosexual, you can most definitely have the option to be with someone 20 years older than you. Both of you are over 18 years of age. It's not like a 15 year old dating a 35 year old. You two have your rights.

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I don't think so as long as it is truth love. You should not feel bad cuz if you do then you realy don't love him tou just like him and that is totaly difrent. When you love some one you don't even ask that cuz it does not matter. The world don't pay your bill so who care about the age or looks as long as both of you love each other. Get it!

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My wife was 10 years younger than me....until she divorced me for a younger guy! (true story)

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Keep Viagra around!

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You might as will call him dad.. hes old enough to be your father o.o

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fritzmerde

My wife and I have an 18 year difference. We heard it from all sides, it'll never work, the gaps way to big, I can hang out with her parents/ My mother in law refered to me as half a geezer. The funny thing is nobody says that it'll never work, nobody has any advice for us. All because they're all divorced, many didn't last a year, most never made it to 5 years. My wife is nice about it, that's not my style. I love asking them for some marital advice, feels so good to make them eat their words

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Well my option no it's not. It depends on the two people's relationship. Also it depends on age. For instances like if someone's 16 and the others 36 that's just messed up. To me if someone 20 and up they could have someone 20 years older

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He may treat you nice, but it's the wrong kind of love. Walk away, have some dignity for yourself, he's just using you.

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Do your parents think it is

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Some will say so , but love goes where it is sent. I've heard that said & don't know who 1st said it. I know guys will be all for the idea, all else being acceptable to everyone. It doesn't materialize well if the woman is 20 years older though . ( my opinion)

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honestly I think it is too much. Not to say that it wouldn't work out, its just risky getting involved with someone old enough to be your dad. But if you love him & he loves you then that's all that matters.

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My dad is 71
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Maybe not now but when you are 48 he will be 68, 58 if he lives 78. You will grow old alone. I'm not saying it couldn't work but what do you have in common?

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Oh hell, anything can happen in any relationship. Go for it!! My exwife went to the dr one day, he told her she needed Hormone Replacement therapy, so she DIVORCED ME!!!! SEE WHAT I MEAN????

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Very wrong.

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When your boyfriend has kids your age, that was your sign! Older than your Dad? Ahhh

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My dad is 71
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If you really love him go for it, sorry for the sarcasm... I wish you only the best! Love and happiness
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not really age doesnt matter as long as you both love each other....

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to me it's normal love doesn't care about age

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Hmmmmm.....that depends on how strong your love for each other is.

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how long have y'all been together because that does make a difference because i was with someone who was 12 years older than me and things started off so good and they ended so bad he started saying how old he was and everything come to find out we just did not have anything in common

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