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Me and my bf got in a big argument and he smacked me in my face & It hurted. He apologized but I feel so sad. I love him, Idk what to do:(

This was his first time ever hitting me too. I just don't understand why he would just smack me cause we were arguing.

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Wake up call. No matter how much you "love" this is NOT OK. It will happen again you can be sure of that. I'm sure he will apologize profusely but my advice to you is run, don't walk away from this guy. it seems harsh but it will be much easier to get over him now than later. People who have no knowledge of abuse, and yes it is abuse, don't really see it as that. I know this because I lived it for thirty years. it will destroy everything about you if you continue in a relationship with an abuser. there is not enough "right" things you can do and no way for you to change them. if you decide to stay at some point you will remember this advice. I just hope its not years from now when you feel like there is nothing left of you. Love yourself enough to find a healthy person to love. Anyone who slaps someone in the face, especially someone they ''care about'', has serious issues that they alone can do anything about. Best of life to you!

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i didnt read this
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Well, time to tell him to pack his bags and hit the road. Literally.

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because he's a jerk and will probably do it again tell him to hit the road

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Very likely true
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someone needs to slap him
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Reminds me of Chris Brown and Rihanna.

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This is first of many more to come. Listen to me please! One time is one too many. Save yourself from this future wife beater and move on. He will do it again.

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He is abusive. If he hits you once theres no doubt he will hit you twice. You need to get out of that relationship before he hits you again or does something worse.

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DolceMonserrat7

He had no right to lay his hand on you. Move on he will surely do it again.

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So how many times have you smacked your past boyfriends around...?
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DolceMonserrat7
Haha I've never had a real one.....
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You still
Here ...?
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DolceMonserrat7
Just got on:)
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Hey are you still on ....?
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DolceMonserrat7
Just finished talking a shower so yeah:) how was your day?
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Good i just got back im going to eT something so ill be on in about 30 minutes = )
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Okay:)
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Run for the hills and don't look back!

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Leave him and never look back. A real man would never hit a lady. No matter what. He will do it again and again if you stay. You really can do so much better.

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I agree. No matter how sorry he is, he will do it again. I wouldn't forgive him. Move on.

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If u can forgive him and he promises u he never do it again.tell him if he does it again u will be passing charges.so he better about hit u again.

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He will hit her again. They never do it just once.
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Leave him. If I were there to witness that I would have whooped your boyfriends a$$.

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:) thanks for wanting to stand up for me, that put a smile on my face.
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Good answer joosh.. Bf needs his butt whipped.. That's bs..
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You're quite welcome. I don't appreciate women beaters what so ever.
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Dump him. He has no right to hit you, and will probably do it again

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You should have kicked him between his knees !!!

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Completely agree.. A well placed foot says a lot..
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Amen lol
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Its over no second chances how
Can you hit somebody you say you love..,? It doesn't make sense,,,,,,,
But if you like getting abused then stay but just remember it will happen again....

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DolceMonserrat7
Nice answer:)
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Yeah well its true...
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DolceMonserrat7
Yes it is. I despise men who hit women ugh..............
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Yeah thats wrong he should leave before it gets that bad
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Yep.
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Once a hitter, many times a hitter. Your bf has anger issues and needs to go to an anger management class. It is not acceptable to hit even once! Please find someone else to love. You can still be supportive of this person but don't get sucked in. Please tell your parents. You'll need people who hold you accountable.

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get the hell out of their ,... ur ass eventually get killed .!

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Your bf sounds like a coward. Only cowards hit women. You probably deserve a real man in your life, not some punk.

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You took the words right from me! I totally agree with you. Great answer!
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Leave him ASAP, he will hit you again and it may get even more violent! Don't wait for it to happen again.
Find a real man, we don't hit women?

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PoisonIvyLeo

As others stated above...move on. If not you will face a very hard life lesson. No real man hits a woman. Once a man hits a woman...he will do it again. Maybe not soon but he will do it again. Love hurts but it should never be physical. There are better men out there. Speaking from experience.

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Now you have four choices.
1. Leave with your health and dignity.
2. Stay and get slap and beaten.
3. He k*lls u.
4. U k*ill him.
Because he is NOT going to stop..he will always say he's sorry and he will also cry and beg and promise and lie and still slap and beat you..and this will continue until...YOU make one of the above choices..

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Awesome advice
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May I ask why you feel bad? My husband used to beat me until I couldn't move until I finally had the guts to walk away! After a 3 yr separation we r now back together and happier than ever but we serve Jesus and He is what holds our lives together! He will not change I you don't walk away! If he loves you he will get help for anger so y'all can be together

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if he really loves you he will never do that...

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o kay this is what you do 1) buy a cattle prod 2)............

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I can speak from experience that no matter what he says or how sorry he is, it WILL happen again. I was with a man that I thought was the love of my life & I married him. I never saw the little signs before the explosion of abuse. Once he & I got married those little things that bugged me (such as him pinching me "playfully", smacking my ass, and keeping me in his sight at all times) turned into huge problems & escalated. Before I knew it, he was off doing whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted & if I even so much as showed him how upset I was about it, we were in an explosive argument & I was finding myself slapped to begin with & then as things progressed, thrown, punched, held down in excruciating painful holds...it never ends. If you don't get out now, things will only escalate the longer you are with him & you will find yourself in an endless cycle of violence, apology & a very real sense of vulnerability. You will feel like you can't get out, you can never do anything to appease him, & eventually you will no longer be the vibrant girl you once were. Get out & take care of yourself. You must take care of yourself in every aspect before anyone else.

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That's abuse tell him that it hurt physically and emotionally if he does it again tell him it wasn't meant to be

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Leave. Just because it was the first time it happened doesn't mean anything, if he did it once he'll do it again or worse. Just because you love someone doesn't always mean you belong together. Do yourself a favor and put yourself and your safety first. Don't EVER let a guy downgrade you like that!

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Leave him. He put his hands on you once , he'll do it again. You have to do what's best for you not him. You have to love yourself and realize that you deserve better than that.

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Forgive him but try to not upset him anymore , if this happens again give each other some space , go stay at a friend's house or something.

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I have a friend whose husband beats her,chokes her, makes fun of her in public, mentally abuses her no matter how many times she has cried on my shoulder she wont leave because she is scared... GET OUT!!!

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