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So i have a 17 year old and a 13 year old. they bullied and cyber bullied a girl, they are violent and stuff, how can we punish them,

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Lock 'em in their rooms with no electronics, nothing but books to read and homework to do. Make 'em stand on a street corner with a sandwich board that says "I'm a coward who bullies little girls on the Internet".

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You back in the home now? Burrrrr Game was something else...especially when the lights went out..and the 49ers made a comeback..Good game even tho my Pats sisn't play:)
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Yeah came home early because my wife had to take our little bottom to the ER, he's ok though. I missed the game, no biggie.
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What happened?!
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He was having a hard time breathing, he's cool now though :-)
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Our little bottom??? Our little BOY! ^ How does autocorrect get "bottom" out of "boy"???
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No idea. Lol!!!
Do you remember me?
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oh goodness!!! how scary is that.. my neighbor had that happen this week and went in an ambulance to the emergency..she is prone to this [COPD ?] bummer and scary..
Glad all is better!! Game is just a game..children?..it's where we are at:)
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@tony-I just assumed your little boy must've hurt his little bottom, lol.
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OMG Tony u have 11 helpful Ah! im jealous
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won to let u know...<<<<
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Gosh 0.o send them to the show beyond scared straight !

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That's the answer!!!!
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lol
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Go on whatever website they were cyber bullying on, make a account and cyber bully them for a couple hours. Ask them how it feels to be cyber bulled , hope this helps

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Hahahaha
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I would do that to my kids XD no jk. Maybe tho if what they did was beyond bad...
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Military School...or you could try grounding them, giving them extra chores, or find community service for them to do. Making them apologise to the girl might be a good idea also. It may be insincere on their part, but it should at least humble them a little.

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Kyle609, I seen a photograph circulating Facebook recently, that I really liked. This mother made a sign saying "I was sent to school to get an education, not to be a bully" and made him stand on a street corner with it. While she was there with him obviously. Would be worth a shot.

http://www.google.com/imgres?q=my+son+is+a+bully+sign+mom+made&hl=en&sa=X&tbo=d&rls=com.microsoft:en-us:IE-ContextMenu&rlz=1I7ADFA_enUS461&biw=1024&bih=745&tbm=isch&tbnid=QDI_J472OIXIZM:&imgrefurl=http://www.facebook.com/AntiBullyingCoalition&docid=chQYKYBwf-WUqM&imgurl=http://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash4/c41.0.403.403/p403x403/379236_10151202551041752_619508809_n.jpg&w=403&h=334&ei=LEsPUZ_lJ8WThgfl24HADQ&zoom=1&iact=rc&dur=516&sig=105289429830283085733&page=1&tbnh=143&tbnw=140&start=0&ndsp=19&ved=1t:429,r:0,s:0,i:84&tx=99&ty=112

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Take away their electronics and make them help some people for a change. Maybe give them some extra chores.
--Idle hands are the devils playground.

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Take them down to the jail and show them where they will end up when they have assault charges brought against them.

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I like it!
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me too...tough love
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Take away their cyber devices and scare them into thinking you're considering military school (just don't go too far with it).

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take away their puters and phones and put them in timeout. can't take them behind the shed and whip their ass with switches, like I was done, or you will be arrested for child abuse.

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No computers or cell phones.

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No computer, cell phone, iPod, exc. and for the 17 year old take away there license (or permit) for a few months

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That's pounds reasonable and I'm a kid lol
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Well teenager
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Sounds normal. Just tell them it's not nice, and that's it. No reason to be mean to them...

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Sounds normal? No reason to be mean to them? They have to know what they have done is NOT okay nor is it NORMAL.
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It's just the Internet. It's not real...
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It is a REAL person on the other sign of the screen. I am a REAL person.
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We'll see how normal it is when her daughters are to blame for someone's suicide.
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Yeah, but you're not taking this seriously are you? It's just the Internet... I mean you're not stupid.
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I'm also an adult. I know how to handle things. Whereas some younger people, especially younger girls, are VERY sensitive, and a lot of them don't know how to handle bullying.
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Have you heard of Amanda Todd? You need to get with the program and realize the Internet is powerful.
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Not to mention Douglas, even if the girl knew how to handle herself. These boys need to know what they did was very wrong. Just because the internet isn't "real" doesn't justify their actions.
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agrees.with CJ and 1dfict....very dangerous to bully on here or any place!
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you are joking!
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Take their computers away, except for school. But make them use the computers in front of you. Take away their phones, too, and just give them very basic ones. Good for you for being mad about it and not enabling them.

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Why do you never ask any questions?
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Take away any iPhones, laptops, phones, iPods touches, MP3 players from them and keep them for a whole week, and ground them for a week or even more??

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Take their phones away and no computers .

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No computer for a month until they learn to control what they say and type I guess in this case. Explain to them the Amanda tod story. It is a really sad story but I think it would in courage them not to bully from the perspective of the victim.

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Stop all communicating gadgets including cellphones, laptops, dongle, and internet connection even change the password, it may give rise to cyber crime and it will put them in trouble. Once complaint is made against them them may even lend in jails. This is a serious matter and one should take full care try to learn positive lessons from other answers.

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Take them to a pawn shop and show them you selling all of their electronics. THEN take them on a shopping spree with the money you just hit from their stuff and use it on something that has nothing to do with technology.

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Spank 13 ground 17 they are wrong to do that I fall in the middle of their age and doing that is stupid I use to be spanked and though 13 is probably getting a little too old. They need to learn so take computer make them apologize. In a note and face to face and then if not going to spank then ground them and tell them it was because they didn't mean their apologies. Hope that helps be firm. Too many kids are mean cause their parents did not teach them that knowing right and wrong is a responsibility where they must abide by what they thing and see to be right. Hope I helped. :)

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Military school or that tv shoe call scared straight or some like that

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Show you mean right?
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Yeah I'm sorry
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Slap them silly!

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I've been Bullied before and it hurt so bad so I know how that poor girl feels. I think you should take away all electronic access and tell the school that they can no longer have access to school computers then I think you should have a serious talk with them and tell them if they don't straighten up they will get sent to a military school and then I would ground them for 2 months or I like the standing on the street corner thing show them how humiliation and taunting feels

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I am really sorry. Just keep your head up high and don't look down !
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Punishing them will only make them angrier. I would advise that they go to counciling/therapy, and probably anger management classes. There are also camps for kids like yours, where they can learn to treat others with respect, and solve whatever issues they have. I really think sending them to a camp for violent kids/bullies would be the best option.

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Go Military Basic on them.
If they want to act like toddlers treat them like it and make them take responsibility.
1. Zero Internet access unless supervised for school, disable Facebook/ twitter accounts. No phones.
2. Zero contact with friends with the exception of school and school related extracurricular activities.
3. Make them report, they will come straight home from school zero exceptions.
4. Disobedience will be reprimanded by more things taken away, I.e bedroom doors, nice clothes or shoes, community service, and add in a tour of a jail or military school... Just sayin it's hard to be a bully when everything you own has been replaced with stuff from the goodwill.
5. If they go into full disobedience mode, call the police, if they don't show up report it. Make consequences real, you have to be the adult.
6. And most important, they are rebelling and bullying for a reason, the 13 year old is most likely following in the footsteps of the 17 year old. Get them to talk to a therapist, but don't coddle them, they're old enough to know what they're doing is wrong.

- a successful navy brat who's dad did the same thing to me... And you know what? Now that I'm grown I appreciate it. I will even admit, I deserved a lot more spankings than I actually got.

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Take all the good stuff away from them like phones games eletrionics !!! for month cyber bullying not cool. and give them A whoopen! how u learn and make them eat vegies for. week!

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Out them under room lock down. No electronics whatsoever. Never out of the room unless needed. Do this for about a month to two months. It helped my cousins

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Oh my gosh how could they ? Is the girl alright ? Well the best thing to do is to ground them from all elecrtonics such as their cells phones and computers make them to all of the chores around the house. Then put them up in their room till you know that you can trust them again. May God bless that sweet girl.

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I know I would beat the cr@p out of my kid if they did that. just an idea.

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I think maybe counseling would be better than punishment. Figure out why they feel the need to hurt someone so.

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I'm not sure exactly what discipline would really get your kids attentions, but it sounds like there is a deeper issue at hand. Why not try reading the Bible with them. It teaches clearly how God feels about bullying. He despises it! The Bible says of God: “Anyone loving violence His soul certainly hates.” (Psalm 11:5) On many occasions God punished those who abused their power and bullied the weak and defenseless.
Engaging your children in calm conversations on a daily basis can help you to understand their feelings. This can make it easier to reach their hearts with Bible-based principles, motivating them to fear God and keep his commandments.

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Given circumstances, I believe that just taking away their cell phones or not allowing them to watch TV or go to the mall will not work. You may need to sign them up for counseling because cyberbullying, bullying, and violence is not okay. Remember, you are doing it for their own good.

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I think that besides punish you need to talk to them. NO PHONE NO TV AND WRITE SORRY LETTER THAT YOU MIGHT THINK IS TOUCHING!

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Ask them how they would feel if they were in the girl's shoes.

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