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Is my mom in hell for committing suicide?

She killed herself awhile back, and she wasn't religious, we just never cared about religion or talked about it, we just enjoyed life and had fun. I'm just tired of these religious people saying she's in hell. It makes me more mad than anything, how could you say that? I don't care if she committed suicide or didn't care for religion and was a free thinker, she is not in hell. I'm not gunna say why she killed herself because people are going to say there is no good enough reason to commit suicide, and I'd probably agree, but I don't care, she is NOT in hell, and does not deserve that. People seriously need to stop saying that. I'm not religious, I'm Agnostic and a free thinker but if I die and find out my mom is in hell, I don't want to go to heaven. That's why I much prefer eternal unconsciousness after death or reincarnation. I'm not a fan of the concept of Heaven and Hell.

Sorry this has been bothering me for a long time, just had to get it off my chest.

PS I'm 17

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I am a student of the Bible and can say with 100% certainty your mother is not in some burning pit of fire called Hell. She is not in pain. She is dead. She has no consciousness. I'm sorry for your loss.
These idiots that go around preaching this kind of nonsense are one reason that so many people are atheists.
I admire your self control in not punching some of these people in the face. I would be tempted to say something rude at least but I guess the best thing you can do is walk away. These cretins think they are doing God a favor but they are actually working for his enemy.

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Right on JD. Doing God a justice HA, it makes God look hateful, merciless & unrelenting. I'm glad there's people like you here.
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Thanks. I wish I could explain things so everyone would understand but that's impossible.
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Amen brother.. And she is not burning somewhere in he'll and that's a truth. The Bible say she is asleep until the second coming of Christ Jesus. The Bible also says God will judge you according to your knowledge of the truth. So if your mom didn't have the chance to hear the good news of the gospel of Christ then the God of love will judge accordingly. The God of the Bible is also the God of love and he judge people according to their knowledge of the good news. Hope that help
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Nice J!
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You are a student if the bible? HIW DARE YOU do this to this questioner!!!!
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Cookie: Was your comment serious? If so, what did I do to him that was so terrible?
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Hey great answer JD, so u believe in that one scripture found in Ezekiel 18:4, where it says that the soul that is sinning will die? If u do good for u.:-)
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Do you believe that hell translates to She'ol which means the common grave of mankind?
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That is one of the words that is translated as hell. Most people's idea of hell doesn't even come from the Bible. It comes from The Divine Comedy by Dante Alighieri. Commonly known as Dante's inferno.
There is a Lake of Fire referred to in the Bible but that is reserved for The Devil and certain committed followers of the Devil. Not your average sinner (we are all sinners by the way).
I believe in body soul and spirit. Not everyone has all three.
Ezekiel 18:4 is talking about a specific situation. I regret that I cannot adequately teach all about the Bible on here because my knowledge isn't perfect or complete and it's just not a practical forum for teaching an exhaustive understanding. There is a lot of wrong teaching out there and I don't wish to get caught up in arguments. I just thought this person needed a little comfort and I tried to provide some.
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Of course not. Religious people are blinded and support ignorance because they follow a book written bye some guy who lives in the sky and performs miracles. Sorry if that's offense to anyone o.o she is not in hell I promise

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God didn't write that B/S. if he had it would make sense
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Hey I don't like the way you guys have been talking about God everything you have said about Him is not true.
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The bible was not written by God it was written by King James.
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I don't mean to offend anyone's religion that is just my opinion and I can express it freely. I guess I worded that wrong when I said god wrote the bible. I'm not that idiotic. Bottom line is, saying someone is in hell because they denied 'gods gift of life' is ridiculous because obviously its not much of a blessing if someone goes that far.
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Hey starfire, the Bible was not written by King James. One early English version of the Bible is called the King James or Authorized Version because King James authorized its translation. It was not originally written in English.
Moses didn't speak or write English. Neither did the Apostle Paul or anyone else at that time. The English language didn't even exist when the Bible was written. People can argue all day long about whether it was written by God or man but no educated person believes it was written by King James.
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ThatDude, I just want to start off saying, I'm very sorry for your loss. Next, if you are Agnostic, you don't believe in the Christian God right? So therefore you don't believe in Heaven or Hell. So your mom wouldn't be in either place. Right?
I too am Agnostic. I believe that there is a God, I just haven't found my place. As for the Christian God, I do not believe for one moment he is our God.
I've had several friends who committed suicide. They were good people, very good people. I do not believe they went to hell.
I'm not condoning suicide. In fact, I think suicide is one of the most selfish things a person could do.
I hope you can find peace sweetie. *Hugs from afar*

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I will not attempt to get you to change your mind CJ. I understand how people arrive at the conclusions you have. There is a lot of wrong teaching about God. Some people are malicious about it. Some mean well but they are wrong.
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I am Christian and I absolutely believe/know that your mom is not in hell. In fact, there is no hell. Jesus said that the kingdom of heaven is within you, so you take it with you. It's up to you how long it takes you to see what you have in there, but you'll find it, and so will your mom. Please, don't let people who don't have a clue what they are talking about make you sad for one second. It doesn't matter what your mom believed, she is just fine. People who don't know the answer, and that is almost all of us, aren't punished for being wrong. People who can't add 2+2 =4 are not bad people, they are just people who are still learning mathematics. She is doing find.

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Also fishy, doesn't it say in the bible, that satan was cast down to hell. And wasn't he cast to earth? Now call me crazy, but wouldn't this go to show/prove, that earth is hell? Or am I completely wrong?
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I'm a Christian and the bible clearly states that there is a hell and certain degrees of hell.
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Cj, you are completely correct. However, that is in Revelations, and that book must be read with spiritual understanding rather than literally. I chose to believe Jesus when he said the Kingdom of Heaven is within you; I think he is the person who knew what was truly going on. However, as I've mentioned to you, I also believe in reincarnation.
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koichan - please enlighten your fellow christians to the non-existence of hell.
i've been told, dozens of times here on ask, that i'm going there because i'm an atheist.
it gets old.
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The bible can be taken many different ways. Everyone has their own interpretation of it. Some people wicked, are so set in their ways, nothing is going to change their mind. Oh you don't believe in God, see you in Hell buddy. You could be the most caring, honorable person alive, yet just because you don't believe, you're cast aside. And they say this, of an "Oh so loving and forgiving God".
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Yuuup. that about sums it up.
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Cj and wicked, I am very sorry for any hurt those people have caused you. By my definition of "Christian", that is to follow Jesus' teachings, they are not Christians. Jesus said not to judge, and that we should love our neighbors as ourselves. He taught the first law was to love, love God and love your fellow man. I'm going to try not to judge hateful people, but it isn't very easy for me. All I would ask is not to blame God for what people say in their ignorance. He doesn't feel that you are wicked or that you're going to hell. Hugs.
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Let me throw this concept at you. If there is a hell and the devil controls it, then those that follow the teachings of the devil will end up there. If the devil makes people do evil things, why would the devil punish such people? It makes more sense that the devil will reward evil doers in the same way that god rewards the good. By this logic, both good and evil will be rewarded and thus it doesn't make a difference what you do. The problem is that people can be morons. By their own logic the concept of heaven and hell is non-sensical. Even the bible is unclear about this. Actually the god of the old testament does both good and evil. In the new testament, the evil part is assigned to the devil, thus separate from the "good" god. There is a YouTube video on this concept. You are on the right track here. You just need to be more informed. Try the atheist experience online, watch some of the debates. You will learn a lot. With knowledge, you can now evaluate life (and death). Right now you are basing your feelings too much on the opinion of others. Get informed.

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The best thing for you is to talk to her like she was here. Then just ask for help for yourself because no one on earth has the answer. Feel better is what your mom would want

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I liked the part that said no one on earth knows the answer. Nice.
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Yes. Talk to a figment of your imagination. If I did that, it would be creepy, as many of my relations have sadly passed away.
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I believe in god not the bible, I'm a free thinker also, and I don't think your mom can be in a place that doesn't exist. Maybe I'll get sent back to Detroit when my time comes.your mom is fine. enjoy life!

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I know I will get a lot of hate for this but only God can answer that

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I was really pleased with the responses that you got to your question. What you need to do is ask yourself now is can I move on or do I need to seek further counseling. I am sorry for your loss and I'm glad to see you are taking steps to move on.

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Your mom is at peace. Find peace for yourself. People can be cruel and self serving when they try to be righteous. Just say, "Thank you, that makes me feel a whole lot better!". Maybe that will shut them up!

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I think that's for God to know. No one can understand God or why he does things....but we need to trust him that everything will be okay.

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Your mother would not go to hell for committing suicide. Suicide itself is not an unforgivable sin for believers.
Sadly her mistake was ignoring and denying God in life. We are given exactly two ultimate choices in life, each with clearly outlined consequences. If your mother did not choose God in life when she had every chance then she chose Not God (satan by default) and the consequences that go with that choice freely made.

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There is no proof of your sky fairy, auxarcs. Move on. There are not two choices, there are many.
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Like Suzie said, we have no way of knowing what his mother chose in the last few seconds of her life. In the parable of the workers, the ones that came in at the eleventh hour were paid just the same as those who were working all day.
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I'm so sorry your mom hurt so much she needed to end her life. I just want to say NO ONE KNOWS WHAT HAPPENS IN THE LAST SECONDS OF SOMEONES LIFE!! Christ came for the broken. She very well could have accepted Him in the last minute. Your mom was in ALOT of pain I'm sure. Tell those people they should not judge or they will be judged. Then tell them to mind their own business.
I bet your mom loved you very much and doesn't want you hurting either. Talk to God thru prayer. He will listen. God bless you!

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You sound a lot like your Father - your Heavenly Father! Very compassionate and understanding. Thanks for your encouraging words - he is not the only one to lose a family member to suicide and I appreciate your kindness.
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I'm sorry about your loss. When someone starts to tell you that your Mom is in hell, why not tell them that subject is not up for discussion? Seriously, do not even discuss it with them. There are so many different views on suicide. I believe that God is a fair and loving God. He would not send your Mom to hell without first giving her a chance to choose Heaven. Try to ignore people who have no decency and focus on remembering your Mom and the great times you had. If you haven't already, you might want to set aside some time just to savor the memories, maybe eat her favorite food, and watch her favorite movie. I think it would be a way to honor her memory. Best of luck to you!

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Thanks, Suzie!
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good advise.
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Thanks, Dustee!
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There's no good way to answer this question. According to Christian belief yes, but you just have to believe she's done enough good in her life that she won't rot for a sin she committed.

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And why are you telling people your mother committed suicide then? You aren't going to get a: "really!!?! Your mother is so cool! I wish I had the guts to do that!" or a "Man, she's a good woman! I bet she's right up there with god! I better do the same, or I'll rot in hell." No you aren't going to get any kind of good answer. Just keep it to yourself or say she was murdered and the people think it's a suicide, but you know it isn't.
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Sorry for your loss, I agree with you, she's not in " Hell"
Just ignore the stuff.
She had to be in unbearable pain that nothing could fix.When someone really wants to commit suicide nothing is going to stop them. She's at peace.

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Psalm 118:8

8 It is better to trust in the Lord
Than to put confidence in man.

For people to tell others this or that especially Christians Just to make people feel good is not your place.


2 Timothy 4:3-4

3 For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine, but according to their own desires, because they have itching ears, they will heap up for themselves teachers; 4 and they will turn their ears away from the truth, and be turned aside to fables.

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I beleive she was living in her own hell,may she rest in peace.

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Your Mom is not in hell because it don't exist. She is in a better place now and take comfort in knowing that she is at peace.

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If your mom was a good person then maybe yes. And it's Gods choice to choose. I as a Christian and like others must live my life through Jesus. God cured my disorder and helped me and my girlfriend from becoming sinners and from escaping troubles. I really recommend you to become Christian..Christianity is the truth and many people have felt gods voice or help.

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First off, I don't believe that anyone who commits suicide goes to Hell. You get really low, feel like absoultely everything is lost, you just want a way OUT. Punishment for one really, really, really, BAD day doesn't mean that you'll go to Hell. Don't worry. She isn't in Hell. Only the worst of the worst of the worst of the worst of the worst go there. I'm sorry for your loss.

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