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I'm 14, I'm a catholic and have done my first communion (when i was 7) and stuff. I feel like I don't really believe in god or the virgin Mary. Should I tell my parents, or should I wait til I'm older? I feel like, I'm not really with god, like on the other side. I don't know.

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If your parents are very into their religion it may be better to wait, you don't have to believe in it but it may make your parents happy if you go through the motions. There are a lot like you, I was one, I stopped believing when I was 14 as well but my mom was a huge Irish Catholic so I just played along. She passed away while I was in the service and I don't think she ever knew I was an atheist, although if it ever came up I would have told her.

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It's kind of sad. I like my kids to be very open and honest with me. No one can force someone to believe in God. As a christian, we believe it takes the holy spirit. But, we are all humans and should be able to share our beliefs without feeling judged or put down. I would never do that to my children.
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I liked your answer. I believe you're right. And what can it hurt? Your mother did a fine job raising you. :)
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Thanks Dmart! @Lolo, My mom was kind of old fashioned about most things, religion being one of the biggest. My dad has always been more open minded and knows I'm an atheist, I don't think he really believes either but we have never talked about the subject, I think by admitting it openly, that it maybe like saying goodbye for good to my mom in some way, who knows? :/
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Who wouldn't want a man that loved his mama so much??? Here are some big fluffy wing hugs for ya Calu........

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LOL!!! Thanks Yosi =)
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Yes, it would be a tragedy to lose your mother over faith. (or lackthereof) and, this is how I can see you have chosen to not believe. and, this is why I'm so against religion. But, I love God. Why? Because God is love. We are to love EVERYONE. No one should ever be shunned. I love my children no matter what they ever choose to believe. We have athiests in our family but they are all very much loved by everyone. When we love God, we love people all the more. Good grief!! :) And..i love you, too...cal. :)
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Aww... Thanks Lolo :)
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Tell your parents, it is better to speak your feelings and to be happy. Then to be quiet and constantly feeling that urge to speak. Hope for the best.

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It's really a personal decision. Before you decide what to do, try to think about how your family will react. Will they disown you or shun you? If so, you should wait until you're older and out of the house. If you think they'll accept you, you could tell them or not tell them, it's entirely up to you.

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Well, I would say to figure out why you don't believe or why you should believe. I feel that I have no reason to believe in god and I also feel that believing that when I die I just die makes me happier because I live my life more to the fullest. I don't know about you. You figure this out. For what reasons should you not believe? And for what reasons should you believe? Don't let anybody else answer this except you. Try each direction for a few weeks and see which one makes you happier. Whichever makes you happier, you make that choice.

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You should tell your parents, and then evaluate your faith carefully, many people go through a crisis of faith, so here is something to help you, this is a link to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, and it may contain the things you need in order to get back on track, good luck

http://www.usccb.org/beliefs-and-teachings/what-we-believe/catechism/catechism-of-the-catholic-church/epub/index.cfm

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That would mean your a "prodestant" ( doesn't believe or follow any religions)

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That is not how that word is spelled or what it means.
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No, Protestant is the umbrella term for any denomination of Christianity that is not Catholic or Orthodox.
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I believe that's agnostic
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No, agnostic isn't a position on belief at all, but knowledge. It means you think gods aren't provable or their existence is inherently unknowable. Most theists and most atheists are also agnostic.
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It's called Athieism.

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Study first. Examine history, theology, philosophy, and see what makes sense to you. If it turns out you really don't believe, tell your parents- be honest, but respectful.

I went through some of this when I deconverted too. Even though my family was very unhappy, it is better to be honest and be yourself.

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Yes...so true. Good you were honest...and your parents loved you anyhow, huh? No one can force anyone to believe...no matter how hard they try. I believe, it has to come from the holy spirit. ;)
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My father didn't talk to me for nearly a year. He still pretends I'm not an atheist, and keeps pestering me about baptizing my son.
I lost several family members and friends.
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Oh, my goodness. I honestly can say that I can see why you left. I can also say that,unfortunatley, that is not Gods love. His love is to not leave people. I have family memebers that are athiests in my family, too. We love everyone!!! That's the way it should be. I also cannot push faith into my kids. I can share with them but they have to make their own decision. No one can force God on anyone. It definitely only pushes people farther away. Love and kindness is the only way we can truly demenostrate God's love. (and by living by example) I don't want to be judgmental of your family but I'm so sorry of your losses. It's a tragedy indeed.
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Would you dare to tell your dad the no where in scripture does it say to baptize your baby? lol I know it's traditional in the catholic faith...but...well...
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That has nothing to do with why I became an atheist.

And I wouldn't care if infant baptism WAS scriptural- my husband and I are both atheists. I have no idea why he thinks we'd do such a thing. He's pestering me about how if we don't teach him about religions we're "being one sided"- as if the majority of religious folk are teaching their kids about other religions. I didn't even know there were doctrinal differences between Catholics and Protestants until eighth grade when I went to church with a friend.
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Yes, I didn't assume that's why you are an athiest. I just understand why some who have been raised in a certain religion and then shunned by family members have a the outlook they do. It's just no okay. And, I don't understand it. The whole thing would have been a big turn off to me and I would most likely run. lol
Regarding your dad, I'm sure he means well. Family is family and they want certain things for their grandchildrent despite you and your husbands beliefs. I think it's something everyone goes through. (if not religion..something else) I didn't really know about docturinal differences until I was an adult and started working with and meeting other people and learning their beliefs. Then, I studied more.
My daughter tells me all the time her conversations she has at school with friends who have different beliefs. She's just 12 and it's starting already. lol It's good, though, because this is the world we live in and it's good to talk and share and be able to be friends with people who don't share the same belief and to learn to agree to disagree when needed. :)
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Is this something that has been coming on for a while or did something happen? Have you been confirmed yet? It would help to speak to someone about this. Your parents. A teacher. Father. Just someone. Maybe it's not God you don't believe in but the workings of the Catholic Church. I'm a cradle catholic but I don't always feel moved when going to mass or by certain priests. You have to find out what speaks to you. Good luck and God bless. :)

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Why are you afraid to tell your parents? But, anyway, you don't have to believe in any sort of religion just as long as you're happy. Not trying to pry, but why don't you believe in Him or the Virgin?

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It's very common for people to go through period of doubt. You aren't the only one. I have children and I would prefer my children to be open with me and tell me if they didn't believe. It would be okay. and, i'm not so sure one of my daughters does and I believe it will all be okay. No human can force someone to believe. It truly takes the holy spirit. Before giving up on God, I do suggest you also be very open to God and just talk to Him. Ask Him to reveal Himself to you. :)

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You know your parents better than anyone and know how they would react. They may be disappointed but there really isn't anything they can do. But, they should love you no matter your faith.
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There is lots of time to assess what you honestly believe. I would caution you against starting a battle with parents that may result in outrage, if you feel that might happen. When you become your own man, you'll know what you believe, and will answer to no one for it. Don't let anyone else dictate what you have to believe in.

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You'll do well to get out of the Catholic Religion. And seek the True God of the Bible. Admit your a sinner, Repent of your sins, and ask Jesus to be Lord and Savior of your life. Then pray that the Holy Spirit reveals the truth to you about God in His Word ( The Bible )

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Wait till you are 18, after that you are basically eligible to do what you please.

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Christianity is the truth. People in Christianity have felt the love and voice of God. God helped me with my anxiety disorder and gave me a wonderful relationship with my girlfriend. I believe in Christianity

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You should talk to your parents just like you said here. Tell them you are struggling with your faith or lack of faith - however you want to word it.

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Do some research on other religions first and follow what your heart tells you as far as religious/ Spiritual beliefs then tell your parents.

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I have a VERY similar Problem. i am also 14, and My parents want me to start my confirmation, but I want NOTHING to do with it. There is no easy fix (but if u find one Hmu.) I feel your pain:(

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And what did you do? that you say you're not with God. but on the other side.
Remember you're just a kid and whatever you do is not your fault.
First talk about it with some one you trust an older friend or maybe your aunt after that if you think you still have to talk about it with your parents then do it.

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I recommend speaking with someone you trust, someone who can give you guidance and has the authority to address your concerns. I pray you find what you need. God bless.

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My son also told me he doesn't beleive in god,I will tell you what I told him: it's ok that you don't beleive in GOD,just beleive in yourself.

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