Wow...first off, she shouldn't treat you badly just because she knows you won't leave. Marriage is supposed to be people who won't leave each other. Her whole view of the relationship is messed up.
Really, if you want to keep this relationship, you have to be willing to actually leave if she treats you badly. I mean, it's pathetic that she behaves this way, but those are her boundaries apparently.

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Well you should not put fear into anyone you love, especially your partner! Just because your wife married you, that does not mean that you now own her and her actions.

If she cheats, then get a divorce, but you need to stop worrying about the future, and enjoy the present. Talk to her, and tell her that she cannot treat you badly, or you are sleeping somewhere else.

thundaloccs: 3 months ago

i feel you...she;s the type of person you HAVE to put some fear in her so that she knows not to stray.....and i only say that because thats what she told me........go figure right

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Ninja_Jackie_san: 3 months ago

Oh I see. Well perhaps you married the wrong person. The way to make her afraid of losing you is to show her what would happen if she did stray. Like I said, if she is being rude or mean go sleep somewhere else for a night.

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First I suggest getting into counseling. If she doesn't want to go, go for yourself anyway. Then pack your bags and stay with a friend for a few days, or change the locks so she can't get in. Then tell her when she wants to act like a married adult you will be glad to get back together and talk like adults.

The idea that controlling someone else's behavior using physical violence works for some should have never entered your head. It's simply not an option so block it out completely. Sorry, but you're not helping the situation looking for ways to keep her in line like a dog. Or thinking of ways to punish her for something she hasn't even done. (!) Acting paranoid & controlling is scary enough. And possibly why she's trying to lose you. If you're unhappy in this situation & resorting to thoughts like this, just file for divorce. Obviously this was a bad match for both of you. Admit it & move on.

What us wrong with you two!?!? You both sound like little children. "You're not the boss of me. I can do whatever I want!!!" "I'm control you, you belong to me!!! I can almost hear the "neener, neeners!!!"

Boy she thinks pretty highly of herself. Freak her out a little bit. Ask her, "honey what would you do if one day you came home and I was gone?" When she asks why, say, "Oh I was just wondering. She needs to learn to never take the ones you love for granted. When your wife says "anything she she wants" You should ask her to clarify what "anything" is. Tell her to write all of her "anythings" down on a piece of paper and give it to you. Then you take a nice bright red marker and circle all of the things you would leave her for. Then give it back to her (first make a copy of it for yourself, or in case she loses her copy) Tell her that everything you circled in red is not acceptable to you and you will take action if she persists. Don't let your wife treat you that way. Women do not find that trait attractive in men. She will respect and love you more, if you have self respect.