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Why are my children out of control?

I never realized how much my wife played a very key roll in running this family until she left this morning for a business trip, a whole week!
I woke up around 7 assuming my wife had told our daughter's about her leaving but I walked down stairs expecting to be alone because they would be at school no way! I walk down stairs and my 14 year old daughter is on the couch surrounded by junk food I mean to get the full extent of junk food you guys she had twizzlers in her hair and powdered doughnuts all over her face!
My 17 year old was in her room talking on the phone to some guy while she tried to remove finger nail polish from her hardwood floor!
My 18 year old whom had come back from college about a day ago was in the kitchen making breakfast while mopping up the gallon of milk she had spilt.
What do I do about this for a week?
I can't keep my eyes on all of them and do the necessary paperwork I do every day to maintain a business. I need ideas to make this work!?

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While you are thinking of ways to show your wife how valuable she is. You need to have a talk with the girls. Why is no one is school? That would be a good starting point.... That would lead into expectations that you have of them, Just because Mom isnt around.... Rules do not change..... Do they REALLY want a babysitter. at their age, when you take your wife on a much needed vacation or cruise. I am quite certain your wife had a clue that this was going to happen.... but at the age your kids are at, you can let them know that if they want to be treated like young adults.... they need to act like young adults. Otherwise, you will hire a babysitter for them.

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Hmm. You got a full house of females eh? Just limit the junk food, let them watch those girls shows they usually watch. But limit that too. Good luck lol. and also, but some security cameras and put them all over the house while doing that paper work...

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Wait- Your 14 and 17 year old hasn't picked up yet on going to school every day?

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Make the older ones watch the younger children. Keep them busy with jobs. Make them go to the mall or something. Take away their phones and make them play outside all day. I don't know about that one, but it could work. Haha.

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You run a business and can't handle your children? No offense but you should have been way more involved as they were growing up. You need to buy your wife diamonds. Take her on a lavish vacation and apologize for dropping the ball with raising your kids.

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I love this answer! So right!
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hmmmm I'll be sure to apologize for having a job. I love my children and they love me back.
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Oh I'm not saying you don't love your kids and I realize you have a job and I'm sure work very hard. I helped my wife raise 5 kids. I work construction and spend an average of 15 weeks in a motel in the summer. I came home weekends and was able to handle all 5. But I was awed at my wife for doing everything she did.
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Sounds like you have not been around to parent your children, that's your fault, not theirs!

Your children sound kind of messy and clumsy, not exactly juvenile delinquents. You have authority over them, now use it. Take away the junk food, tell the 17 yr old to call her guy friend back. Other than that, everything sounds fine.

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You're missing the fact they haven't gone to school yet. :|
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Then he should give them consequences and send them to school. It just seems too obvious to me....
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Time to go all Drill Sgt. on them! Set your alarm early, storm into their rooms banging a trashcan lid and yelling "GET UP! GET UP! GET UUUUUP!!!" Flip their mattresses over, scream "GET YOUR AZZ DRESSED AND DOWNSTAIRS, MAGGOT! IT'S CHOWTIME!" Make 'em eat fast, take it away before their finished, chase 'em out to the bus stop early. Let them stand out there waiting for the bus. If they don't like it then they can learn how to get ready at the right time.

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Funny
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He's serious.
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Haha now THAT'S funny!
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Just let them chill lol

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Definately take away the junk food. It makes kids crazy. Limit it heaps, and only give them a TINY bit, to keep them from ripping your head off.

Sounds like a good opportunity for you to be more involved with the parenting though. Sounds like your wife has to do all the work.
It will be a good chance for you to realize how much she actually has to do, the stuff you didn;t realize, becuase she probably didnt complain too much- seeing as you didnt realize what a handful they are.

Give them lots of space, seeing as they are teen girls. And don't nag them TOO much, or they will turn against you for the rest of the week! Just make sure they keep on top of their duties. Depending on what chores it is they have, how many etc.

Sounds like they are pretty immature for their ages though. Its a difficult question to answer without any details of how you normally parent them, are you normally 'on their case' all the time, or do you ban them from watching TV/going out with their friends or something if they don't do what you say? Do they have lots of chores to do?

Difficult question to help you with, without any background information.

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My guess, please look in the mirror. Children learn from......parents. Yes others also but parents are gate keepers!

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That's a funny one. Sounds about right. They seem normal to me, cleaning up nail polish (good) some kids would have left it there. Cleaning up the milk also a good one at least she didn't blame it on someone else a leave it. Now the one on the couch hmmm, she needs to be reminded of what to do. For the week you should give each one on one time to talk. If you listen and act interested you should be fine. Just a thought I'm no expert.

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Your wife faces this everyday and this is your experience once in a blue moon. So don't worry take them for some outing enjoy food, ride and spend some time with them. You can talk to them all at the same time advice them what to do and what not to do till your wife come. Best of luck. They are normal and all kids do like this. You must create in them some sense of responsibility.

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its time to bust some butt

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Because they are your children even you had a great fun in your childhood so let them enjoy :-p

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I think I heard or read rather a very big compliment to your wife in there. Just skim thru all this and try what sounds good. This could be the best week of the year for you and the girls. Just lay down some commen sense rules. Like no food or drink in living room. Go to school everyday, help out around here and we can spend some good quality time together. Have them help out while you work then enjoy this time, you may not ever have time with the 3 alone again. If I could go back I would do a lot more layed back, fun, things with my 3 girls. This time goes so fast try to enjoy.

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Don't worry you've got this babe! unlike all the people telling you that you weren't there in raising our daughter's that's BS You might have missed a couple of years with our first daughter will you were off defending our country! but when you got home you clearly made up for that, the girls and I are very proud of you! now down to business, You get Carrigan off that couch and make her clean up that mess! get Brittney off the phone and tell Ashleigh she's in charge while you go do your work! ground Carrigan and Brittney they knew then were suppose to go to school they just didn't get up and get ready. if it's no different tomorrow you know what to do! I think they're old enough to handle your military training. Carrigan uses her tears to get what she wants just tell her she looks ugly when she cries, she'll stop. Brittney is a rebellious one you might have to ground her from that iPhone YOU pay for. don't let them undermined you honey! good luck :) Call y'all soon.

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I agree w/you. I think he has got it too. I take it you are wife and mom. It seems you have a very willing to try man. If you can quit worrying at all, try to enjoy your time away too.
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I know he has it, he's a very good husband and father! I'm am enjoying not having to look over the house every second but still can't wait to get home haha
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Isn't that how it works! When we're home we need a break and when we're away we can't wait to get home. I just wanted to say that it is great to hear about another couple that's been together as long as you two and are happy together. I've been with my husband 20 years, married 19 of them.
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Shouldn't have to keep an eye on kids that old. Tell them your expectations.

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when they act like that just think of the first day you held em ,

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Yell maybe they need a belt on the behind!!!! but but but yes theirs a but noo. never mind no but but if they act bad take my advice

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Either she isn't running the show like you think she is or they are taking advantage of you. Mention you're going to tell mom, that will shape them up.

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