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Should I forgive my girlfriend for smacking me twice and for almost cutting me?

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 years, & two days ago I come into her room and kiss her and she smacks me. And so I do it again and she smacks me again, and then she goes into the kitchen and grabs a knife and then I say "I'm going to stop and so she puts the knife down and goes into her bedroom and goes to sleep.
By the way she's 16 and I'm 17..

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You should be apologizing to her for not understanding that NO means NO. Even though she may not have verbally said it, the smack the first time you tried to kiss her should have been a clue that she did not want your attention. The fact that you continued to press the issue, to the point that she felt she needed to get a weapon to make you understand, is rather disturbing.

Thinking that you need to sit down and talk about what's going on, but if you can't respectful of her boundaries, then it's probably time to move on.

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Yeah, you're right..
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Lol, don't let a little violence scare you off...

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I'm not scared.. I was just wondering..
We're still together..
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RedRose
violence is one thing, but anger problems....a knife is kinda a big deal...
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I stabbed my brother in the arm with a pen once, and he once broke my thumb, but were still brothers, if she starts playing the psychological game with you is when you should get worried
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RedRose
well yeah, you guys are brothers though. its different...
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Red, I got a notification, but the comment isn't appearing
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There it is! Well, brothers, or lovers, it's a relationship nonetheless. I don't talk to my brother much anymore than I have to anymore, but if he really cares about this girl this can easily be put in the past
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RedRose
i agree, but the whole situation sounds unhealthy from what she told me and what he told me-obviously it can be fixed and i dont know the details but from what i do know they should defnitely work the issue out not pretend it never happened.
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I don't think they should pretend anything, "forgive and forget" is best =)
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RedRose
forgive yes, forget, not so much. meaning, he should be careful around her next time shes cutting something..:P
and im sorry about you and your brother
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Don't be sorry it's not your fault lol
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RedRose
darn, says you commented, not showing up tho...
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RedRose
geez! iv gotten like 5 comment notifications but cant see any!
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Rose, sorry to jump in but your comment caught my eye, since nothing EmCee has said has been removed there must be something technical going on here, could you please report it to Customer Support so that Eric can have it looked into, I'd really appreciate it :)

http://help.ask.com/ics/support/ticketnewwizard.asp?style=classic
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RedRose
thanks! will do
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RedRose

Hmm, sounds like i talked to your girl earlier this week. I guess the question is WHY she pulled a knife on you. doesnt sound like a healthy relationship to me but i dont know the details....

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She said she almost cut me because I tried to kiss her.
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that is for jacob
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kristinau: Well, thanks..
I don't think we're going to break up.
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that is cool
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RedRose
jacob-when people date for 5 years, kissing is very normal. is she against kissing?
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RedRose: Sometimes.. She will push me away..
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RedRose
do you ask her why??
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Yeah.. Sometimes..
She said her father r@ped her..
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RedRose
thats horrible. in that case, you need to respect her boundaries!!
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Yeah, I'm going to leave her alone.
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RedRose
at the same time, can you commit to a relationship with that kind of boundaries?
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Yes of course..
I'm not that type of guy that dates just to get $ex...
Me and my girlfriend are waiting to get married & to finish school before we have kids..
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do not take this the wrong why she may did not want you to kiss her but do forgive her it was your fault hope this helps

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Oh okay.. I will.
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I will be looking
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Okay.
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Y'all have been together since she was 11? lolol... Anyways.... Well, a knife is a big deal, and it kinda sounds like she wasn't in her right mind for some reason. Watch your back if your planning on sticking around.... Sleep with one eye open. O.O

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Yeah.. We have been together since she was 11..
She promised me that she would never do that again.
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Well.... That is kinda abusive. But talk to her about it. I nice, deep, heart-felt conversation will help. Maybe she has a good reason behind slapping you.

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I will try to talk to her.
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JacquelineBieber27

You should apologize to her for not respecting her..

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Colorful_Butterflies

I don't think she should apologize, I think you should..

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You need to be truth full and admit what you did and stop making everything like her fault but if it is true that she brought a knife In the situation then their is something wrong

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It was my fault too.
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shes just mad

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Thanks.
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