Sounds like you need to make a decision on your happiness. Do you want to live the rest of your life unhappy?? He probably doesnt want to change...and isnt going to change. If he doesnt respect you... find out why? Is it because you are female?? A lot of men have that problem. That is NOT a reason to not be respected. I realize people go into a marriage assuming or even wanting it to be forever. That however often times does not work out as planned. You need to decide how important your happiness is to you. Their are many men out there that would love to be with a good woman.... and would love to treat you properly. I do not recommend cheating on your spouse... I do recommend getting out of a bad relationship if it is no good and has no chance to be better. Good luck.
Do you work outside the home? Keep your paycheck or at least part of it. Tell him he needs to start respecting you, demand it. If he isn't going to do that, than make a Plan B. Get out and be respectful of yourself.
Get your own job. Im sure as long as you are helping out with finances money will no longer be an issue. Also since you will be taking care of half the living expenses respect will be sure to come with it.
THE only way to handle a man is to act happy, even when you are not - play music.- ignore him, pretend you could care less if he is there or away. When he speaks to you act as if you are deep in thought, then say, "Oh excuse me? what did you say? " Very soon he will start trying to get your attention. Works every time. I promise. Jeannie B