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JoseNegrete: 4 months ago via iPhone

Is it wrong to date somebody 4 years younger?

I like this girl, and she is 17 and I'm 21. I personally could careless about the age difference, but she somewhat cares about the age difference. sorry about my writing!!

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DontBlameMe: 4 months ago

As long as you don't have s3x it's fine.

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JoseNegrete: 4 months ago via iPhone

I could careless about the sex, I just wanna spend time with her because I feel so happy and complete when I'm with her. I never thought I'd like a girl younger than me but I do...

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TheDefiantOne: 4 months ago via iPhone

When's her bday?

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16yvette: 4 months ago via iPhone

Josenegrete: sounds like you sincerely care about her. Treat her right and it will not be lost on her if she likes you
A woman's like a rose, if you treat her right she'll bloom, if u don't, she'll wilt

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Senorita1993: 4 months ago via iPhone

Ive dated someone in his 30's its ok but then i knew he just wanted something

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5150imgoincrazy: 4 months ago

no as long as you dont care about the age difference just ignore what other people think about

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The_Tragic_Truth: 4 months ago

Well its illegal.

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hailissa613: 4 months ago via iPhone

It's not. If she were 16 yes, it would be statutory rape, but not at 17.

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16yvette: 4 months ago via iPhone

Why not at 17? I mean if its rape at 16 and she isn't 18 what's it at 17?

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The_Tragic_Truth: 4 months ago

Ohh ok, i thought it was anything under 18

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possumer27: 4 months ago

Of course not. I know a couple 20 years apart, trust me, that's much more extreme.

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thatoneguy97: 4 months ago

But they're probably both over 18 which means they're both adults. These ones, one is still a child, and the other is an adult.

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JoseNegrete: 4 months ago via iPhone

In my family my mom is 5 years older than my dad so idk...

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JoseNegrete: 4 months ago via iPhone

And they got married when my dad was 17

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possumer27: 4 months ago

True, but still... When they get older it won't seem such a big difference.

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Sweatypie: 4 months ago

Its illegal, wait till when she is 18 or older

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AMKMHC: 4 months ago

It's illegal since she's still a minor...thats probably why she's a bit ehh...but Id honestly care less either.

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kkalikay15: 4 months ago

AHEM. dont have sex

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strangerunknown: 4 months ago

uh well personally I don't think that's right...especially if she cares about the age difference. its not a surprise u wouldn't care, after all u r the older one....but still..

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JoseNegrete: 4 months ago via iPhone

I mean she thinks about the age difference because she worries about what her parents might think...

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strangerunknown: 4 months ago

oh. well I mean there is the part that its illegal and all too but I guess im not one the judge ppl or nothing so I guess if u guess REALLY love eachother than it doesn't matter but DO NOT have sex

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speakmythoughts: 4 months ago via iPhone

My parents are ten years apart and there happily in love :) age is just a number.

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16yvette: 4 months ago via iPhone

So well put:)

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Jamesw57: 4 months ago

My grandparents are lke thirteen years apart, even though my grandfather is dead.

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hawkmann: 4 months ago via iPhone

I believe this also

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thatoneguy97: 4 months ago

The fact that its illegal now would say something.

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16yvette: 4 months ago via iPhone

Haha I know a couple that's 35 years apart!! And they are head over heels in love with each other! As long as it doesn't bother u or the other person don't let people bug u. Society shouldn't have a say in your age difference if you're in love:)

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bittersweeet: 4 months ago via iPhone

35 years...? That's insane

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16yvette: 4 months ago via iPhone

Yeppers:)

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wickedpissah: 4 months ago

It depends on where you live. Different states have different ages of consent, ranging from 16 to 18.
So it may or may not be legal.
You can Google "age of consent states" to find out.

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Nicklbalt: 4 months ago

Waa waa it's illegal. Follow your heart and do what makes you happy.

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TheDefiantOne: 4 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 9:57PM on 2/5/2013

Damn. Close but no cigar. Limit is three years apart (in Texas at least) just wait til she's 18.

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coolgirl23: 4 months ago via iPhone

No there is nothing wrong with it except that she can't date till she is 18. So wait till she is 18.

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NaomiFrash: 4 months ago

no way! but I hate to say this, she might be playing the age excuse card because she isn't quite 100% into the relationship. all is not lost, hang in there until her feet warm up

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hollybear112: 4 months ago via iPhone

If its legal no

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AndrewGray1398: 4 months ago

It's not a big difference at all and it's only illegal if you "do" anything. Just keep things PG until she is of age.

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hailissa613: 4 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 10:12PM on 2/5/2013

This is a controversial one! What's right/wrong when you're transitioning from childhood into adulthood is tricky. When I was 17 I ran wit a dude that was 21. i thought i was hot stuff but now that I look back on it I'm appalled---I definitely feel taken advantage of, it wasn't right. Back when I was 21 you wouldn't see me even entertain the thought of a 17 year old, no dice. When you're both GROWN adults its okay, age shouldn't matter, but there comes a point when you need to realize that by the letter of the law she is not an adult--no matter how mature you think she might be. My parents are 11 years apart. Mom is 64 and dad is 53 and that's totally acceptable. However, when mom was 21 dad would have been 10 and that's definitely NOT acceptable. That's the perfect example of how the game changes when you're talking about grown adults. With that said, I'd back off. Leave it as a friendship for now. If its meant to be, if she's the girl for you, then she'll still be around when she reaches an appropriate age. GOOD LUCK!

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8randon73: 4 months ago via iPhone

If her parents don't mind..... They are the ones that will make it illegal... 21 it's just puppy love. Focus on your life and do what's best for you. Besides relationships right now is never important. Females constantly change.. At 17 she has a lot of changing to do sooooo. Is it really worth it??

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krissyloveee: 4 months ago via iPhone

Find a girl thats around YOUR age.

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DouglasDugtrio: 4 months ago via Android

Judgemental.much?

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DouglasDugtrio: 4 months ago via Android

My wife is 8 years older than me.

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A11612: 4 months ago via Android

no as long as the youngest on in the relationship is at least 18

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Jamesw57: 4 months ago

It wouldn't be a big difference as long as the two of you are no more than 10 years older than the other.

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IamAFork11: 4 months ago via Android

My parents are four years apart, married for 19 years.

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hawkmann: 4 months ago via iPhone

Wait for her to turn 18 just in case = /

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CrazyTimoucha: 4 months ago

hhhhhhh it's so normal ........ there is a couple 40years younger !!

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caboy: 4 months ago

no it's not.... just do it it's normal!

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nerdygirl101: 4 months ago

well i am kind of neutral in this case but wait till she is 18 and do you guys have a lot in common because that matters a lot in this case

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mike_b_95: 4 months ago

A general rule is half of your age plus seven. so your situation is good, dont worry about it. as long as she is mature enough for you, i say youre fine

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MarySchneck: 4 months ago

Once you're in college... it don't matter :P

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lostcause123: 4 months ago

Well...i think it is fine if the relationship is healthy.Also...like some of the other members said don't sleep with her b/c if her 'rents take u to court she can claim that it was rape and u can be in the slammer for a while!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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DouglasChirinos: 4 months ago

I met my GF when I was 17 1/2 and she was 15. Now she 18 and I'm 21 her parents were okay with it and in Florida 16 to 23 is ok so it worked out just know your state laws, ages of consent and hope her parents love ya' and everything will be cool

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rose1994: 4 months ago

if you're a guy, which you are, then it is ok. however, it is weird if the girl is older but your age difference is normal

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flightandtime: 4 months ago

maybe wait until shes 18 and not a minor because then you cant be charged with having sex with a minor

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SarahKesler: 4 months ago

no it's not wrong in my opinion it's okay.

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BH11: 4 months ago

It does not really make a difference I know a girl that is married to somone that is 7yrs younger then her and everyone is fine with that.My moto is:don't think with the brain feel with the soul

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Puppylover0101: 4 months ago

Not at all !!! Age never matters! It's the feeling you have for each other that counts!

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