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My boyfriend and myself and our six month old son live with his mother she treats me bad, she is a chain smoker and an alcoholic

She downgrades me, says Im not good enough, my kid has been sick twice because of her smoking he isnt even a year old and my bf doesnt have to life a finger I am so tired from work and the baby is it wrong for me to up and leave? if so how do I

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Sounds to me that being a homeless person under a bridge would be a better environment for you both to be in......but seriously, how old are you? Do you not have ANYONE else you could live with, if even for a while?? And why doesn't your BF have to lift a finger????

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Good morning and good answer. Look over my comments on the 100$ bill question.
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I'm looking for the 100$ question....but ain't found it.....8(
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yest. RB's answer .I had no idea, did you?
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his mom belives a woman does everything

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Get your baby and ... Leave its common sense but make sure you take the child

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Leave, put your child's health and mental well being first.

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call the cps they might help

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lol
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you don't have to put up with that. a situation like that can only get worse take your baby in move out good luck

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Will your parents allow you to stay with them? You need to leave with or without bf.

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Up and leave.. if they ask tell them that the smoking is not good for the baby and leave it at that... blame it on the pediatrician (any pediatrician will tell you not to allow your child around second hand smoke) if you want/need to. Understand though that the mother is bitter, she watched her son change his life in a moment; he's young with a child and struggling... she probably blames you as much as your parents blame him for the life change. Not at all saying that she is not doing anything wrong or unkind, just asking you to have a little sympathy for her pain.
I have lifetime allergies and asthma because my caretaker was a chain smoker (and that was just while my parents worked) Get Your Child Out of the smoking environment. The nicotine is in the skin, clothes, furniture, toys.... it clings everywhere.
Your environment is physically and emotionally poisonous.... it's time to leave, it will be hard emotionally and financially so be prepared.

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My mom doesn't blame him he doesnt like him bc he is needy n childish she blames me for not making his meals not getting his cigarettes his clothes not washed even blames me bc he doesnt shower
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I suppose then you aren't the "wife she or her mother was" Or possibly your bf is complaining about you to her and she is lettingit out.
That being said...if your bf is also a smoker, then moving with him away from her wont offer any health benefits to your child
Sounds like your mom has a good dose of reality on her side, I would ask to move home... let him stay with momma and she can take care of him as he should be... then he can visit the clean house to see the healthy child
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I have been there done that. Yes leave leave leave!! Go to a woman's shelter. Your boyfriend won't be able to find you. They have great services for you and your baby. They will help you every step of the way. Do it for your baby if you can't do it for yourself. God bless you!!

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So here's the thing.....you can't leave because you have nowhere to go. You have no means of support and would have a hard time working and supporting a six month old anyway. You're an unwed mother with an uncaring father and now have to live with a person who while providing housing also smokes and drinks. I am REALLY glad you posed this question because I would like all young people who give no thought to jumping in the sack and paying the consequences to see what the potential outcome really is. Forget what you've done to yourself. Think about what kind of environment and life you've given your own son. You are providing a valuable life lesson to all those silly teenagers who think (or more appropriately don't think) it will ever happen to them. Again, thank you for posting your question.

As for an answer, unless you can find a shelter somewhere who will support you and your son, I don't really have one for you.

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i have support i work he doesnt
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got to make this your baby's father and you all together your priority ; and find another place to live. facts are with a baby your custom of living lowers for awhile till y'all get it figured out that life changes have to be made and even embraced . know that happiness is a choice not a circumstance and your own place makes you a tight family that's worth some tough times got to get strong and committed you will be fine even poor people in this country are only so poor we usually find a way to eat and first get the baby fed giving your kids the best possible life you are able to provide you now are finding out ain't it a gass?

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Bail!!!!!

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Leave, but only if you have somewhere to go to. I don't think the baby is getting sick from smoking. They get sick and such, that's just the way it is. It's not comfortable for you, but this is what happens when you choose to have a baby and you have no where to stay. So leave, but make sure you have someplace to go that is a step up.

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sorry i ment by weezing coughing the pediatrican complained about the baby smelling like smoke i quit during my pregancy
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Sounds bad. Here's a thought. You and your boyfriend grow up and take care if your own business. Get your own place. It's time to grow up!!! You have a child to care for. Life us no longer about what you two want it don't want to do. You've created a human being and now life is ALL about this child!

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You know what to do...a women's shelter will help you... But you will stay...

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You shouldnt put up with that. Move out with your baby. If your bf actually cared, he would help. If his mom or him wont let you leave, call 911. Good luck.

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I don't know enough about your situation to offer a lot of sympathy. The choices you made earlier have resulted in your living conditions, now. Regretfully, these are not the best living conditions .. but .. you do have a roof over your head...otherwise, you would have found another place by now.

I grew up in a household of smokers .. and lived to tell about it. Not that I condone smoking.. because I don't (I have never been a smoker, and detest it) .. but, when it comes to living (even temporarily) with a smoker or living on the street .. living with a smoker is still a better choice. I can't even say I agree that the environment is solely responsible for your baby getting sick .. kids get sick (even when there are no smokers in the house).

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If she resents your living in the same household, my guess is, she is not happy about the whole situation you and your bf got yourself into. I can only imagine that THIS is not what she had planned for her son, or any future grandchildren.

I don't know what is going on there or what efforts you are making to show your gratitude for her taking you in. For all I know, the reason she is begrudingly allowing you stay is because she doesn't want her grandchild to suffer the consequences of kicking you out.

Sounds to me like you don't have a lot of choices, at this point ... yet another consequence of not preparing BEFORE having a child.
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try and get out she is being jerk

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So, remind me again why your still there? Get out while you can, there are many resources available to help you. Start at the shelter for woman and children, you'll be amazed by what they can offer you, they'll also help with child care since you work.

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