It's usually a mind set unless you know that there is someone out there who just really hates you and goes out of their way to make your life miserable. Keep your head up, try being a little more optimistic.
It is your mindset. Everyone's life has challenges, it is how you face them that counts. Say while you are out a tree falls on your garage. Some people will focus on the damage, others will thankful their car wasn't in it.
You've heard of expressions like "you make your own luck" or "chance favors the prepared mind". Those expressions exist for a reason. If you feel you're not getting a fair shake, look inside and see what you could be doing differently to increase your odds of success. While not entirely true, you make your own luck.
Everyone has the cards stacked against them at some point, that is reality, now the question is, can you rise to the challenge of winning anyway? Life is what you make of it, the brightest days always come after the darkest nights, so focus on getting through that wall of cards, and make a better future for yourself, if you do not believe that you can beat any challenges that come your way, you have already lost against all of them. Confidence is key here.
Much of one's reality is keyed in with their perception of "truth". Step out of the box, and construct a new mindset willing to engage new possibilities. Not always convenient or easy, but doable on many levels.
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Only if you are the true center of the universe. I know, we all would like to believe that at times, but .. reality is not that precise.
Have you ever heard the expression .. "life is what you make of it". It's not about the hand life deals to you .. it's about how you play your cards. You can use your 'cards' wisely, and become a 'victor' .. or you can squander your opportunities and live a life full of regret and disappointment.
In any event .. the choice is yours to make .. Make of it what you will.
Take Nick Vujicic for instance .. a man born with no arms and legs .. yet is an inspiration to us all. My guess is your challenges pale in comparision to his.
Sometimes when things go wrong one right after the other, we can continue the same trend with a negative mentality. Yes it can be harder for some people to succeed than others, but that does not mean that it can't happen. Don't look at the bigger picture, but instead take things one step at a time, and you will see things start to happen to make your life go in the direction that you want.
You're not important enough for any group to conspire against you. Few of us are. There are institutional behaviors that may put you at a disadvantage compared to some other people but those are in place to keep a LOT of people at a disadvantage - not just you.
I don't think there is a conspiracy against you in particular. I don't know your life so I can't say whether the cards are stacked against you or not. In some ways, maybe they are. I have felt that way before but whatever your situation in life is and regardless of how you got there you have to do your best with what you have to work with. Adversity is part of life. You have to deal with it and overcome it to the best of your ability.
If you keep believing that everything is against you, then it will come true. Instead, become an optimist and ignore what anybody else thinks. do what is good for you. That's all you can do if you just simply try your best.