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My gf got sent away, I didn't get to say bye and I can't contact her at all. What can i do to keep my mind off of it but still wait for her?

She lived with me for 3 months and I was literally with her for 20 hours plus a day, everyday, until this happened and I love her more than anything. I'm also trying to find where she is so I can go up and visit her but in the meanwhile I have this question.

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Wow! Talk about a flashback! My high school first love left one summer with her mom and wasn't able to see me. She just called me on the road to Alabama and I never saw again. That was 89'.all I can advise with the little info about you is don't let this cloud your future in a bad way. Stay busy. Good luck man. I mean it.

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When I read this it stirred up some old feelings I kinda forgot was there. I missed that girl for a really long time. We talked on the phone a few times and then she met a guy and that was the end of us. Over the years I went through a lot of stages of feelings and emotions too many to list here. Can u tell me is she in jail! Do you know where she went?
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No she is not in jail. She is 17 and will turn 18 in November so she has to do whatever her parents make her do until then. They sent her to an all girls school or something along those lines. She is on the washington/oregon border somewhere but i don't know exactly where.
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I live on the oregon/california border btw so it's only about a 5-6 hour drive but i don't know if i'm allowed to contact her at all. 9 months is long time to wait without talking to her once and we've only been together for about 5 but she's made me feel happier than any other person in my life ever has so I don't want another girl or anything like that. I'm just in a shitty situation I guess..
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I lived in Olympia wa. For 21 years so I'm very familiar with that area I also did some work in Oregon. Any other clues maybe I can help. I know what this feels like man. It's kinda a helpless feeling. I honestly want to help. Me and my gf were 17 when her mom took her away from me. Her mom hated me and wouldn't let her say goodbye. We were in tx. And she went to Alabama. Do you know any more about like the name of the school or anything?
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I live on the oregon/california border btw so it's only about a 5-6 hour drive but i don't know if i'm allowed to contact her at all. 9 months is long time to wait without talking to her once and we've only been together for about 5 but she's made me feel happier than any other person in my life ever has so I don't want another girl or anything like that. I'm just in a f****d up situation I guess..
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No i'm meeting with her mom to talk about the whole situation today and hopefully she'll give me a little more info on where she's at. If not though, I've been saving up some money to drive up there and just look for her cuz it's driving me crazy not knowing what's happening to her and I need her to know that when she gets out I'll be there for her.
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For me it was pretty depressing so when I turned 18 I joined the army. That was my saving grace. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying you should do the same. I served during the first gulf war. 89'to92'. I thought I would serve my 4year enlistment and use my g. I. Bill and go to college. Didn't really go as planned but it sure kept my mind busy so I didn't dwell on how much I missed her.
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Thats really weird I am 18 and am just about to enlist too to become an audiologist but I just don't wanna do it while she's gone.
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I really appreciate the advice btw jdub. it's nice knowing someone else has experienced this too
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Ok we'll that's good man! Keep on keeping on dude! I bet she feels the same. I really miss living in wa ! Rained a lot but I didn't mind it at all. I was there for the grunge rock explosion in the 90's. sorry off topic. If you want to keep in contact here's my email johnweatherford49@yahoo I'm not sure if you can use this app. To stay in touch. I really hope your meeting with her mom goes well. Just be cool and don't get on her bad side.
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Yea man I totally know feeling of just being totally and completely loving someone unconditionally ! That's the best feeling when your girl into all the things you love to do and is cool just hanging with your buds! God I miss that!! My Sharon was the same she was with me and the stoner crowd I ran with in hs. We did everything together. In the summer break me and my bf. would climb the roof into her house and spend the nite. My bf was dating her sister so the whole summer was awesome. We would stay the nite and there step dad would leave early and then we went downstairs and they would cook us breakfast! Best summer, it was almost like living together for awhile. Almost like a dream now.
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What branch of service ? I tried the navy first because a hs. Friend went navy and wrote to me how cool it was so I tried them first but I only had a g.e.d. ( good enough diploma!) LOL!
Wasn't good enough for them so the Army scooped me up! I was In Communications and wireless tower antenna installation. When cell phones started getting popular the training I got in the army came in handy. I did a lot of civilian tower work for a while. Climbing towers every day was such an adrenaline rush everyday! Good money too. When I first enlisted I made sure the mos I chose I could use when I got out. Hard to find a civilian job when all u know is artillery !
What is an audiologist?
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I need a little advice too. I haven't talked to Sharon since she left in 89'.
Just recently I found her on Facebook.
I was going to contact her but I froze up man. I don't know what to say I have so many years of thoughts and feelings that have been bottled up I'm so f#%?ing confused on what to do. She's married with kids ( I looked at her FB page). It's so weird in my head I can see her like she was when we were young and then add 23 years. It was kinda of a shock. She's still hot though! I'm just scared if I talk to her all those bad feelings it took years for me to accept and move past will come storming back. I know I sound like a pussy but I am truly scared and confused so I choose to look at her from a distance and protect my heart.
Wow! Sorry if this is t.m.i ! I haven't talked to anyone about this in years!
I agree with you it is good to talk to someone that has gone through the same stuff. It really helps.
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I play guitar too so that would've been an awesome experience! I'm thinking either the army or marines and an audiologist makes hearing aids and gives people hearing test to see what kind they need etc... As for Sharon, if she's married and has kids I'm sure she has moved on but you could still write her a message and ask her how she's been, what she has done with her life, and any other questions you're curious about. You could maybe even tell her how you felt when she left and tell her that you're happy for her and maybe ... just maybe she'll remember all the old feelings she had for you 23 years ago. Be careful though because, people change dramatically throughout their lives and it might just set you up for disappointment. Also don't worry you don't sound like a pussy lol
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btw the meeting went very well and I know where she is now but i still can't contact her for 2 weeks but hey, better than 9 months!
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Right on brother! That is good news. Hey thanks for the advice. It's crazy how much we have in common. I'm 42 now and there's a lot of years difference between us and you seem a lot like me when I was your age. I still love playing guitar and rock music. When I was your age I would watch MTV head bangers ball and I just knew I would be a rock star!! Is there anything better than that!? At the time I didn't think so!music was my life. Anyway, I think your a smart dude and things will work out fine for you. One more thing, one last piece of advice. Remember to stop once in a while and just be in the moment. Really soak it in. No past, no future, just right now. I feel like I have been in a hurry my whole life for everything and time just blurred by. You ever feel like that?
It took 2 divorces and rehab for me to hit the brakes and start living right.
Right now.
Stay cool brother. Drop me a line sometime let know how things are going and thanks again for some wisdom. I needed it.

P. S.
It would be cool to talk music and guitars and s*^#t with you sometime.
ROCK ON!!!??????
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johnweatherford49@yahoo
I hope they don't block this here's my email. Drop a line brother!
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Thanks man and alright that'd be cool!
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Cool! Later man.
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You can go over pictures that you took together, so as to keep the memories alive. You can also call/text her as often as you can or write her an email. Also, hanging out more with your friends will also help you get your mind off things.

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I had a really good friend and the day i was gonna tell him that i liked him was the day he was expelled and sent away to military school in Texas. Me i just go day by day hoping that one day he'll dome back. Yeah there's times where it gets hard and I just want to break down and cry but i don't.

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Take some time for yourself. You may love her but you can't do some things with her there. You now have some guy time. Play some video games, watch some movies, hang out with some old friends of yours, play some sports. She wouldn't want you to be lonely and cry about her all day and all night. Go do something, bro.

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thats why i love her so much though is cuz i could do all those things with her. we would just smoke weed, play COD, watch movies, and anything else I would do with my guy friends. We actually hungout with my guy friends all the time and they all really enjoyed her company too as well as mine. She is like the female version of me except a whole lot prettier lol
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Okay, sorry then.
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no worries. thanks for the advice though
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U could sit down and write a letter to her. Get some things off ur chest them it would b easier to preoccupy yourself with other things. Even if u can't or don't send it to her.

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