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My boyfriend said he saw a very beautiful girl, like a model. i am mad at him and i wanna show him I m not ok with it . Help ?

we are engaged

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Tell him great job for only looking.......then give him a cookie and pat him on the head.

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hahahaha i am really thinking of that but not to pat him but hit him
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Doesn't hurt to look !
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to look yes but to tell me It's not Ok
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I need help how to show him i am not ok him sharing stuff like that with me. I wil; not say straight away I got angry coz of this. i will make some hints to make him realize and i need help what to say ?
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Tell him you don't like it or do the same thing to him and maybe he'll realise his mistake !
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Yes this is a good answer. Thanks u alot. i appreciate it
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You're welcome !
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Well is it just that he saw her or that he told you about?

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that he told me and I don't like this
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i asked 'cause i thought "now you know you've looked at a few hot guys", and didn't what to think your relation self had a double standard. So just ask him how he would feel if you started talking about a guy you saw or just do it to see if he gets mad himself.
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Just tell him "That really pissed me off when you said that." Since you two are engaged you should be comfortable enough to say it. :-/

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I never keep silence I always say even worse things but this time i am not gonna say straight away I am gonna try make him realize i don't like it but don't know how yet .
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U shouldnt curse on this website!!
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Goldentosee, you say worse things to him and expect for him to still want to be with you?
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trudyyyyyyyy55, that isn't a cuss word....-__-
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I am telling in past that I had many fights with him. (it s what I meant by saying "worse things") i am trying to say I am not such type of person to not say anything to him. I always share with him when i have a problem. He is dying to be with me. he loves me a lot, i don't have problem with his love. We are engaged. I don't like him sharing this with me about other girls and I wanna make him realize I don't like if u have ideas about it share with me.
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and no matter i say to him He always wants to be with me. my problem is totally different here. I have a problem with him..not he with me.
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i agree i would be pissed to i mean if your my boyfriend don' go looking at another girl that's just disrespect and that means he doesn't really want to be with you
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So what! He can look at the menu...he just can't order.

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LOL! Ohmy...
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Funny and true Lol :)
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Haha one of my favorite sayings!
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He can't look at the menu and he can't do anything...HAHAHAH. Ok seriously it;s true But I don't like that he told me this and he dared to share it.
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What? You don't like him being honest with you?!
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Poke his eyes

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Doesn't hurt to look !
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not bad idea by the way
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I had worse ideas
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Not at all, a beautiful women is one of the great pleasures in life
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He ain't dead, but yes he should not ogle them in your presence
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Yes i am one of those beautiful women as he is crazy about me since first day he saw me. And yes other guys may also like me and If I say something abt other guy he is gonna cry. i am telling you. If he wants to have a beautiful girl have to appreciate otherwise this beautiful girl can do also many things to hurt him
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i appreciate your answer but I needed help how to show him I don't like this? Any ideas or only to poke his eyes? hahaha
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Do the same thing to him and see how he likes it ! Maybe it will stop !
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You do hold all the cards, so to speak. Turnabouts fair play, give him a little taste of his own medicine
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He already stopped and is praying i will not be angry at him. But he need to realize as he is is possessive and when he is possessive he need to respect my feelings too. I will try doing it. Thanks alot for your answer. Thanks to u all
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At least he was honest with you. I would be proud he didnt act on it though. Sit him down and explain to him it makes you upset when he does that.

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i am not proud at all of this shameless thing as i have doubts he did it just to make me bit jealous. it's possible i think.
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Okay sometimes it's okay if he looks but yea if he does act out about it then you need to set him straight, tell him how you feel and if understands that he hurt you he'll stop but if not then you shouldn't be with him
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I agree Desiree. Better to see the true him before the wedding.
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just tell him that you dont like him looking at other girls ask him "how would you fell if i looked at other boys?":)

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this is not the problem at all, he can look at anybody as much as he wants but he cant he really cant share with me this like it's normal. i don't like the fact he told me this. it's not normal. To go and share those things with his friends not with me.
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You've got it all wrong! It's better that he feels most comfortable sharing it with you. If he shares it with his friends and not you, it's like he IS interested in the other woman.
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Maybe you are right. i got it now and I understand. Just I have a feeling he did it to make me feel a bit jealous.
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i agree if he has the right to look at other girls then why don't you look at other boys and see how he feels when you feed him his own karma then you look at him and tell him "now you see how I feel when you looked at that girl"
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You're not ok with him seeing beautiful girls that look like models? Sounds like you need to be with him all the time and block his vision if someone like that is near.

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I also look like a model and i am ok with this. He can look at everybody, to like and to adore every girl if he likes that But he cant share with me this. Doesn't sound so nice when i am standing there to listen about others. He is a lot more possessive than me, he is even too possessive guy. i am not so shameless to tell him anything like that. It's gonna hurt him but why he is doing it ? Maybe on purpose
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I don't think I see the problem. He just said he saw someone who was beautiful and looked like a model. I don't think that's disrespectful at all. If he said other things or kept mentioning it, I think that's another issue.

As for him being too possessive, you should talk to him about it if bothers you. I don't think it'll get better if you get married.
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why he said it ???He wont keep repeating it he forgot it even but I cant forget it. He is possessive. People please don't judge. He is most possessive person. I am not. he can like other girls, look at them, enjoy. But no need to share with with me when I am stranding in front of him looking beautiful. How is possible for him being so disrespectful. He would cry if i say same, He always thins I got someone else and stuff like that. And when he wants to not make him upset he needs to not make me upset too. I am not possessive. I understand he is a human but No need to tell me this. Just I don't wanna know. And I need help how to show him I don't like .help ? he will stop doing everything If i ask him. He loves me alot i just wanna make him realize i don't like without saying it straight away.
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It's just something he saw. It's the same as saying, "Hey, I saw a cute puppy today." You wouldn't be bothered by that would you? Clearly we see this differently. If it bothers you that much, talk to him about it but getting back at him is childish.
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I never say this. I notice him as i love him and i swear to God i am perfectly looking girl and can have many guys but i am honest. I love him and he is in my mind. But yes he is a human and man so he can notice girls, just no need to inform me abt it like something I need to know. for me was rude. I forgot abt it, nor understand he said something bad and may he just said it in an innocent way. I don't like it. i am engaged nor i discuss my marriage. in few months i will be married woman and Have wonderful relationship with as he treats me like a princess. i had problem only with this as i am very sensitive. That is it
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Have you ever thought that he was talking about you?

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He should talk abt me and appreciate it, he always try to make compliments BUT he can't share such things with me and i am gonna show him clearly i am not just need some help how would be best way?
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Tell him about all the hot guys you saw on your way home today. If that fails... flick him in the adams apple. What KennaNichols said, could he have been talking about you?

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I will really do that. HAHHAAHAHAHHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAh....ohh guys U all made my mood better. At least i should say thanks coz of this :)
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I would hate if my girlfriend said that to me... so say it to him, lol
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yes i will do it. Thanks alot for your help.
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If you're not okay with it you have some insecurities in the relationship, it was just a comment that he made, I'm sure you see a lot of handsome guys all the time , and you think that because he said he saw a beautiful woman that that was inappropriate, it was not appropriate at all, if he acts on his actions then he has crossed the line, but until then you have nothing to be concerned about and you really shouldn't feel that way, examine your feelings and think about that before you go off on him...

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Good answer sarte!*****
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Exactly! Thank you!
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i am engaged already and i am not gonna do anything like that Just I am gonna show I am not Ok with him to share this stuff with me otherwise he can look at other girls I don't mind. i want respect in future.
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So you are about to enter into a lifetime commitment of marriage with this person but only on the condition that he can't speak freely in an open monogamous relationship, I would suggest not getting a joint checking account. Relationships certainly are conditional, but this should never be one of the conditions...
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i don't have conditions and for me he would be ready to make alot of sacrifices if i want to. He can look at others, he can share with his friends. But to come in front of me and with shameless face to be standing in front of me and tell "U know i saw a very beautiful girl" when I am standing in front of him ( so i am the beautiful girl) this can't happen with me.
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I'm not trying to be contentious but you really shouldn't get married, you are setting this up for a very unhappy life...
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i am not he will do any thing only if i ask him. he loves me and do everything for me. I am very happy being with him. He always makes me feel like princess. and i will get married for sure. I wanna just make him realize somehow that i don't like this. I believe he said it just to share in innocent way ...still i don't like it. I need to show him and i am not gonna say straight away. So if u have something good like idea to tell me tell me please otherwise about my marriage no need to comment specially my happiness.
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I'm guessing by the way that you write that English is not your primary language, I have read your comments under other posts, it seems that you are very argumentative with him, it seems that you guys fight a lot, that is not the foundation that you build a life on, I'm just telling you keep up with these actions and this marriage will not last, you are headed down a path of destruction...
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sorry to disapoint you this relationship are perfect. And yes we are gonna get married and we have very long relationship few years. We don't fight. I just am too sensitive. even i didnt say to him i am upset. Just I asked for right way to tell him i am not ok with that. hope so after my 100 comment u got it
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Oh yeah, I get it alright, the problem is, you don't...
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the problem is u r a hater. I don't understand people like U or try to help people being here about the topic they speak or don't bother yourself to type. if u have too much free time then use for something else.
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I have reached the end of my comment tolerance, I'm dumping you, a term you should get used to hearing...
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You r really a hater who has nothing to do. very nice. If U think i care about someone like u "dumping" me U r really wrong. I have a lot more interesting things in my life then arguing with people here. If everybody used to dump u ...then u should know that nobody ever wanted to dump me. only I can dump so let me dump u right now as U r pain in ass.
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Hey J! How's it going ? : ))
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Bubbles this ones a piece of work, arguing with everybody...
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first time I am being in hell like that. Do u "sarte" do this every evening ? Answering questions to people to strangers ? is it your unhappy life? That is why u r so big hater, i would love to see how u look like and how unhappy life u have really. i am sorry abt people like u.
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And i am sorry if u see how I look like and how is my life u will hide your self somewhere. People like u cant give me advice as they need one. Better try to fix your problems lonely person. I take enough attention from others in real life so your online games are not very interesting.
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Bubbles get Ms . Maha to crush this one for me will you...
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Golden, you know nothing about sarte or Bubbles. If you did, you would know that they are very compassionate and caring people. I'd go to bat for those 2 over a thousand vain people like yourself.
Your rudeness and direct unwarranted attacks against sarte, were uncalled for. You may be beautiful on the outside, per your own declarations, (model beautiful, I believe you stated) but you are one cold and ugly person inside.
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let me start with I don't care about your opinion at all. Hope u get it. Second i am not being rude at all he or she whatever called sarte starting to judge and comment about my life things which i am not asking out of the topic with all of his hate. i asked someone else and he started to speak abt something else. that is what I didn't like. He could be caring or wonderful i don't know nor I wanna know. First time in my life I am arguing with somebody online. The painful truth is that U all like being anonymous and facing others problems to forget your own. being anonymous is easy and i know who i am in real life here is not real life. Why don't u stay in front of me with your face and name and then speak ???
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and for my answer to sarte I would love to add only Non of u all desperate psychopaths online can crush successful and beautiful person who has everything in real life. remember this now go and read others questions what u r gonna do whole night and tomorrow night and every future night.
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lonely person and for next thing u r gonna write or will stay in front of me being yourself with your face and name or hide yourself. nothing but hater and online loser
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Fool. I'm not hiding behind anything. If you want to know anything at all about me, read my profile. Research my questions and answers and you'd get to know the gist of me.
You are the one who came to us with your problem. Just because you didn't like the educated answers you were given, don't cry me a bucket of tears.
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your answer is everything but not educated
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RAGE!!! Grow up.
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Ha! Oh my god... If he is marrying you because your "pretty" your marriage is not going to last long... And you should not have to try to be "beautiful" because he should love you for you, not some god aweful looks and attitude, and definitely not for someone who is as self centered as YOU!
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put him in the dog house

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I don't have dog house otherwise I am ready to do it and even worse
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lol, not what is meant. have a good one. gotta go to bed.
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hahahahaahahaha
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you won't be engaged for long with your attitude

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I am engaged and will be married soon. As i know how much he loves me. i have a lot of people who are dying to be with me. But I love him and No I don't mind him looking at others (some of people did not understand this) But i don't want him to share with me as I don't like and don't think i should know abt every girl he sees.
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again crappy attitude,even with your hordes of followers,you suck as a human
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even if u don't like it's true. I made a choice being with him. otherwise I could be with any guy I want. my attitude is perfectly alright. my question was about helping me to show him (without saying it straight way) i don't like what he said. Even if he said in an innocent way i don't like it. there is anything crappy at all. I am engaged and i know I will have a happy life. That is why I need to show him what is ok and what is Not. If u wanna help me Ok if u don't want no need to write anymore.
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This is going to sound mean, but get over yourself. I am sure there are better looking women than you in the world. So freaking what? He is marrying you because he likes the person inside. (Though if this is the way you normally act I wouldn't know why.) Everyone's looks fade, so don't put too much importance on it.

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Star! Great answer.
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when u see me than speak about my look. he needs to be greatful to God that i am with him. my look is more than perfect and yes i am not most beautiful I never said it. Instead to appreciate me he talks about other girls. No i don't deserve this as I made efforts to look good for him. And i was staying there and listening about others. This is not ok. I don't mind him looking at pretty girls but I mind hm sharing this. I need help how to make him understand without saying straight away.
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He doesn't like person inside only because His first wish is his wife to look perfect.
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Why not just tell him that it bothers you? It's important for any healthy long-term relationship to be able to discuss things! Trying to find a way to get a point across by other methods before even attempting that is not a good start...
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First off it is "grateful" not "greatful". Secondly, just by seeing and stating that he saw someone doesn't mean he appreciates you any less. Hell, I have pointed out beautiful women to my husband. I know he loves me for the whole package, not just my looks.
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And yes my husband tells me I am beautiful. And so have others.
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I always used to say everything what bothers me this time i will find another way to show him. i felt really terrible that he is saying this. I was waiting for him, i was trying to be beautiful and in fact I was. I need just the right way to make him realize it.
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Oh wow!! Did you just say he doesn't appreciate you for whats inside but only for your looks??? What are you doing with someone like that??? Why are you mis-treating yourself so ?
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I said he appreciate me and inside and outside. U didn't understand again. But it's not like i am the ugly gf and i am just good inside. That is why he needs to appreciate me as i am everything what he wants and inside and outside.
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Well it ain't like he was going to do anything with her.... maybe in his mind he was LOL :)

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Hey as long as it stays "in the mind":-)
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in his mind for sure yes :) But my problem is not that i am not a dumb and i know guys notice every pretty girl I know it. i just don't think this is information he heeds to share with me. He can tell this his friends. i am his gf. So i don't like this.
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Wait if your his girlfriend only then why did you say in details that you two were engaged? And yeah of course no matter what guys are always going to check out other babes and possibly have wild and crazy fantasy thoughts rushing through their heads of her and the best thing to do when that happens is just to simply SLAP THE HELL OUT OF THEM and bring them back to reality saying hello I'm right here and we can have fun when get back home later baby!!! xD
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we are engaged, if i say gf i meant we are not married yet. Anyway. Thanks for the answer
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Don't let it get to you, just tell him what I said to my Husband: "looking means your still alive and healthy, touching means your dead".
We marry them, not own them....

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Star! Great answer
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Thanks. :-) !
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I don't have problem about him looking at girls, nobody here understand. i have problem with him sharing this with me straight away he saw me. After Hello he said "i saw very beautiful girl" why the hell he will say this when already another beautiful girl (ME) was staying in front of him who loves HIM not only looking good. Just he cant appreciate me. No need to tell me this. TO keep in his mind to dream and to share with his friends, not with me. That is it and i want to show him somehow I am not ok with this without saying straight away that i got angry coz of this.
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goldenrosee : Either tell him straight up that it bothers you or use the same tactic on him and see how he likes it !
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You two might benefit from some pre-marital counseling. And am not saying that as a joke nor in anyway as a put-down. Seems you have issues and be a lot better to address them BEFORE you get married. Good luck!
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No not very true and i don't have any other problem. So don't judge at all. i am treating like a princess so far and and i will get married and will have happy life. BUT my questions wasn't for this. He may said it in an innocent way still i don't like it as i am very sensitive. I will do some of the things u told me specially to do same like him. Thanks
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He has eyes, of course he's going to look. You have to trust him. Nothing wrong with looking as long as he doesn't touch.
Please don't tell me, if you see a gorgeous guy, you're not going to give him a second look.
You really need to have more faith in your guy or your jealousy is going to cause you to loose him.

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i don't care about gorgeous guys And yes i will tell you this right away. About a gorgeous girls I can proudly say I am one of them and he knows it. That is why I said I don't have problem him looking, dreaming about others even, sharing with his friends but u know He just cant stay in front of me and tell me about others. i have problem that he told me this. only with this. And I will show him somehow I am not ok with. If u can help me how i will appreciate it.
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i am not going to lose anybody. only he can lose me and after that will be on his knees to make me come back. We are engaged. I don't have problem with jealousy coz he is most possessive guy. i only have problem with lack of respect.
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Sorry, I truly cannot see this as a meaningful relationship and have nothing more to offer.
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All of people here judge on my relationship. i have this relationship long time ago And i am getting married to this person i love and he loves me. i never asked any body here abt this. i asked how to tell him i am not ok with it. Only this i asked. May he said it in an innocent way still I wanna make him realize i don't like it
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Golden, you are the most narcissistic person, I've ever had the displeasure to meet on this site.
So many well meaning people have tried to explain to you the true meaning of beauty and relationships. You've rejected every one of them. The only one's you have agreed with and laughed about are the one's that suggested physical violence or payback. That is just wrong.
Consider yourself lucky that your fiance chose to tell you and not his friends. I'd be more upset if he shared seeing a beautiful woman with his friends. Then maybe he would go from looking at the menu, to feasting on it.
I know you think you are a beautiful princess, but reality check here. Your outer beauty is only as beautiful as your inner beauty. And I'd have to say, epic fail.
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I am sorry, I just do not see a problem with this at all. I think maybe you need to work on your insecurities.

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I have as much as self confidence like nobody here has. I don't think i am most in anything. i just know what I am, this is enough. I have problem that he told me this. He can look at them but no need to share it with me
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I still think you are making too much of something.
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Yes maybe it's true but I don't like being disrespect at all in any ways. And if he did it to on purpose means this is kinda disrespecting me. That is why I got angry at him.
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If you find that him telling you this is disrespectful, then I still think you have insecurity issues. He told you he saw some one who was beautiful. So what. It is not a big deal.
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As long as he doesn't sleep around with anyone but you.

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if he sleeps i will not be posting my question here as i would be getting rid of him on his spot. i have problem that he shared this with me, he can look at pretty girls ok but no need to share with me. i felt terrible
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I'm glad you have common sense and you'd dump him if he cheats. But about that girl, I agree it was a bit unfair if him to tell you, I'd feel jealous too to be honest. All you can really do it tell him how you feel and forget.
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Yes I will forget and i will tell him how I felt. Thanks u dear for your help. i appreciate it
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:'3 Your welcome, I'm glad you do
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Wow jealous much? If you were secure in your relationship this wouldn't be a problem. My wife and I point out people to each other that we think the other will find attractive. You need to grow up if you plan on "leaving the minors and going pro" ... AKA getting married.

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Bridezilla!!! O.O
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Jealous ? I am not at all. In our relationship he is the possessive one. i don't have problem with him looking at others i have problem with sharing it with me as he need to appreciate me first of all. I have problem with lack of respect only.
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Idk...just they way you talk, thae fact that you deny it seems to prove otherwise to me, for some reason.
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Pyle is right, "thou doth protest too much".
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as U say. I am sensitive just but no need to explain. i know better. Thanks anyway for the help
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Your boyfriend's comment was indiscreet and i don't blame you becoming upset. if everything else in the relationship is OK, it might be best to do nothing now but if he repeats something like this in the future, you might give him a taste of his own medicine and comment admiringly about the next good looking fellow that you see.

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thanks to u. only u seem to understand what i meant. i made efforts to look perfect for him, i waited to him, i am the girl he is in love and wanna marry and just telling me about other girls. Ok he can look at them and enjoy but why he needed to tell me this? to make me upset? maybe I need help how to show him without telling him that I am not ok with it.
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If a comment makes you that upset,good luck with the marriage.

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There won't be any plates or glasses left if you told her you were going to a strip joint.
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Truly!****
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hahahaah this will be smallest problem he is gonna have true. I want alot of respect. Nobody has rights to tell me anything like that. I will do even worse not only use glasses and plates. i know what I am and know what I deserve. i felt terrible. I made efforts to look beautiful coz of him, waited him, to not tell how many other things i did for him and he will tell me this why ? cant he just look at them and enjoy. why needs to tell me this? I need help how to show him I am not ok with it
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tell him that is not cool and not to do that cramp

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I dont wanna tell him i wanna show him somehow ?
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that is hard yo ua better off telling him
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Slap that hoe! (Your boyfriend)

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hahahahahahaha I have done even this when I am mad at him
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He 'saw' a woman? As in .. he noticed a beautiful woman .. and was honest about it, and trusting enough to share that with you.

I see nothing wrong with that. In fact .. I find it honourable that he would tell you about it. THAT in itself speak a lot about how much he trusts you, and his efforts to be honest with you.

He did nothing but notice beauty .. much the same as noticing a beautiful sunset, or waterfall. It's not a sexual deviant indulgence.. it's just being human.

Be thankful you have someone who wants to share his likes and dislikes .. and respects you enough to look and not touch.

If you are jealous and THAT controlling about his eyes wandering and ultimately telling you about it .. rest assured .. the only thing to change will be .. that he won't share it with you. Your relationship will be short lived, miserable .. or both. Your choice.

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don't be so sure how good is he. when i have a problem with it means I have a real problem. I think this wasn't honest just told me on purpose to make me upset. I also not see anything wrong with him seeing other girls. i would let him enjoy. BUT No need to share with me this when I am the beautiful girl standing in front of him, just no need to share and i need help now how to make him realize I am not ok with it? We are engaged and he loves me more than anything. Don't comment about thing u don't know about. Comment about the topic only. i need help. i said i don't have problem looking I have problem with sharing it with me
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Ok .. now you've totally confused me. You ask for advise .. but don't want it because there aren't enough details? Really?

You are ok with him looking .. just not sharing with you .. Did I understand that right? You DON'T want him to share his thoughts with you .. because you are so awe inspiringly beautiful?

Now THAT is just messed up. Looks to me, like you have waaay too many issues to deal with on one thread. The boyfriend isn't the issue at all ... Good luck with that!
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yes i am ok with him looking and not sharing with me. And it's because I am very sensitive person and i may get his innocent comment in the wrong way and i don't want this. So yes i got it. He is the issue and what he said. i don't like being disrespected. I deserve respect and he can say this to his friends not to me. I just don't like it. in my position if u know everything u would think same i am sure. Anyway
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Are you saying you have asked him to not tell you about this type of thing, because it bothers you .. and he does it .. BECAUSE he KNOWS it bothers you. Like he's doing this to purposely hurt you or deviously trying to get a 'rise' out of you?
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I never asked him as he has never said till now. But he knows that I don't like such things and he also doesn't like. he meant in an innocent way or maybe on purpose i don't know maybe he wanted to make me a bit jealous and this is not normal. i don't know I will try to make him realize i don't like it.
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Well .. now if he was doing it for no other reason than to manipulate you .. than .. yes, I can see your point.

I think I would handle it quite differently though. I couldn't give a ratsazz about the beautiful girl .. but I would NEVER condone his trying to 'make me jealous' by playing that game. I'm not a good game player .. never have been.
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main problem is i am not too player. that is why i am asking here if someone has better ideas. i am too honest and always say right away about my feeling and how i feel. this way decided to tell i am upset but to make him realize it's not good to say this to your future wife. Thanks that u understand me
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Say to him ? You can say to him .. Pure and simply .. "Don't play those games with me" .. That is a game NO ONE wins! " It's juvenile, it's selfish, it's manipulating .. none of which belongs in a relationship ... nuff said!
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yes maybe i am gonna try this, so for sure he would understand me very well. thanks
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Tell him you saw a handsome guy and he was gorgeous very sexy

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thanks, good idea. i appreciate it
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if you guys are engaged,then you wouldnt call him your boyfriend and he wouldnt call you his girlfriend unless you're not engaged and your just bf/gf. if your engaged,you should call him your fiance and he should call you his fiancee. thats proper

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He never call me his gf. I am his future wife. We are getting married in next few months so please. Don't judge. WE call each other any way we like. but I asked something else. Anyway. Thanks
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i get that. i know what it means to be engaged. and your welcome. im not trying to judge or anything. im just trying to help. if you dont want my help, let me know politely please and thank you
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I appreciate your help and thanks
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your welcome
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At least he told you that's being honest , he could be lusting in his mind ! You going to tell me that you don't look a good looking guys. ?

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No I am going to tell u exactly this. And i don't have any reason to lie as nobody here knows me. when i love him i notice him and he is in my minds. i am serious
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Well I believe you , but he still told you he didn't have to .
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true. he didn't have to and i am not gonna make problems to him about it. i just felt terrible that is it. this is my mind i am sharing with people to check what they think. Thanks for your answer
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You are engaged to be married, your fiance saw a pretty girl and he mentioned it, and you're asking for suitable punishment?
Break off the engagement, save both of you A LOT of pain.

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Hi Bubb! Gold star!
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No don't judge and dont be online hater just looks very bad. i asked for simple way how to make him realize and i am not gonna punish anybody. i love him so i cant do anything bad. Just I was looking for the right words to tell him i don't like what he said to me. And yes I will be married soon. Anyway thanks
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" You're not ok with it"
No hating, just wondering how to address it.
What do you say?
" You look at pretty women and I don't want you to, I'm not ok with it, so I Want you to know .. Don't do it, or don't tell me, wear blinders for the next 40 years." ?? Help me help you.... What do you think he should do?
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I think if u r a man i was your gf u would never want to look at other girls and i am absolutely serious. He also knows that but sometimes seems to forget it. i am not being rude and i thanks to u for answering me but this is the truth. Anyway I will do in that way i think would be ok.
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Ok Rose, good luck.
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Congratulations! He used his eyes

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It's not funny at all i am too sensitive i already said he can look at them but i don't need he need to share every detail with me.
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Guys can think other girls are pretty
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LISTEN CARE CAREFULLY !
if your boyfriend told you that indeed.. that's a good sign !! (don't kill him)
that means nothing but HONESTY and that's what all the relationships about!

he may want you to enhance your look or change your style ..
JUST DON'T BLAME HIM FOR THAT ITS ALL NORMAL

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He doesn't want me to change my look or my style as he noticed first thing in me how i look like after that he started to know me as a person. He loves me and I know that and he find me very sexy and attractive. But don't judge when u don't know. He is very possessive and he wouldn't like if i saw anything like that. i don't blame him i am upset and felt terrible at that time. He speak always what he thing if he wanted to change something he would say that is why he was that girl and decided to share with me but i don't think he Needs so much to share stuff like that with me. No need to be rude. That is it. He said or just to share like I said or to make me feel jealous. i know him. And i am going not to kill him or punish or break up just I am going to show him or tell somehow i don't like this. Just he said it when he wasn't provoked to say anything like that. this is the strange thing.
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let me get 1 thing straight : what your real aim (what do you really want from him)?
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if you want to keep this relationship healthy (as i think)
you can tell him what you wanna change in him or in his actions
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i wanna only respect nothing else and so far i am treating like a princess thanks God. If I wrote my question here doesn't mean I have many problems behind that what i am asking. This is the one problem I had with him. We already have perfect long relationship and we are engaged. Just I don't think he should repeat few times he saw beautiful girl in front of his future wife. he can keep this in his mind. I am too sensitive to hear abt such things. So i want advice how to react and how to make him realize that i am upset ?
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ok > based on what i read ,,

you really should let him know that you need more respect from him..

and talking about other girls is bugging you / upsetting you..

let him know that you deserve more respect from him..
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OK i will try. Thanks a lot for reading it and answering. i appreciate it.
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no problem ..=D

you're very welcome
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I looked at the answers and I'm surprised at what I'm seeing. you are secure but your boyfriend shouldn't have said that he saw a beautiful model I mean that's horrible. tell him that if he wants to discuss it with another person do right ahead but I'm not ok with it. he will probably get the message that you are mad

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If you are jealous that he saw a girl and said she was beautiful, then I can tell you, you are in for a hell of a rocky marriage. If there is no trust in your relationship, or in your head, this marriage is doomed.

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Start talking about his hot friends... it always does the trick ;)

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Ignore him, and look for a hot guy that looks like a model too, and then go tell him :) This way you'll be even

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he should be looking at you and only you but men are aloud to look , if he touched her hell deffaly should raise but nah i think u should let it go

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just tell him how you feels...

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Be confident and secure in yourself. Don't worry about it. Ask him what she looked it and agree with him that she does sound beautiful. Let him know you're ok with looking and that you look too. Remember...you can look but not touch! He's a good boy by telling you about it. Besides, he came home to you which means its you that he wants to be with.

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Have you noticed any hot dudes? Are you blind? So, what you're saying is that in all your time with your boyfriend you have not noticed any good looking guys? I admire you. You are above us all.....

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Ha! Oh my god... If he is marrying you because your "pretty" your marriage is not going to last long... And you should not have to try to be "beautiful" because he should love you for you, not some god aweful looks and attitude, and definitely not for someone who is as self centered as YOU!

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Maybe he wanted you to get jealous? Maybe he felt that you have become cocky or self centered about your own looks so he he had to bring it down a bit. Or maybe he didn't think any of that....and just told you cuz it's not every day you see a girl that looks like a model so it was simply innocent. Point is, I know it's annoying but don't get TOO upset over it. If I thought a guy looked hot and like a model I wouldn't tell my hubby cuz I know he gets jealous. But I have done it..and now I've learned a bit more about him. And I can truly say I did it cuz it's rare to see really beautiful people on the streets, so it is innocent. I'm married two years and I had Major issues w/ my bf/fiance at the time making comments that made me upset. Now he's learned alot more about me, my insecurities, and the fact I'm sensitive. It took some time though... If all else is ok with him, it'll blow over.

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you need to set rules tell him you dont like that and it makes you feel uncomfortable

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Usually men make those comments because they are looking for your attention. I would explain to him that it hurts when he says things like that. Also, ask him if he feels like he is getting enough attention from you. If you don't feel comfortable asking that question, tell him how attracted you are to him, rub his tummy and get him something to eat.

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I've had the same problem with girls doing something like this in the past. YOU HAVE TO TELL THEM YOU DONT LIKE THAT. or they wont realize it is a problem.

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Go to him and stay calm and say honey we need to talk , i know u may not have seen that what u said hurt me but it did , will u please not say that again. And then forgive him when he says he's sorry.

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Tell him how you feel. Don't keep it bottled up, but do not freak out on him either. Tell him that you are pissed and you shouldn't be calling other girls beautiful. How would he feel if you called another guy sexy?

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Yo, are you foreal? seriously if you are engaged to this guy then you should trust him! if my girlfriend says she thinks a guy is fit i dont care at all because i know that she loves me more than than any skin deep attraction. .she is not going to act on it...... i trust her 100% until the day she gives me a reason not tr trust her....then it would be over

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tell him how you feel, he may not like it but at least he'll know not to tell you things like that, a man is endowed to what he thinks but dont get super ticked at him, you have him and the other chick doesnt.. be happy(:

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Tell him u saw the hottest guy ever

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