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I'm a loser?How do I become popular in high school?

I'm a senior in High School and never been to a party or anything. I've only had two friends since elementary, both girls, and everyone calls me gay for that, but I'm not. The only time I get out the house is when I go to the mall with my two best friends or go to the park or go bowling or whatever. The 3 of us are very unpopular. They always say to me popularity doesn't matter, just get good grades. But I'm sorry but I still want to be popular anyway, there just so much better funner stuff happening and I'm missing it!!!

This is my last year of high school. I want to go to parties and get drunk, and do retarded stuff. I always hear people in class talking about their wild parties. I never had a girlfriend either, it's okay you can laugh, and maybe if I was popular it would be easier to get a GF since I'm shy. So how do I become popular and hang with the cool kids?

PS - I'm not fat or ugly or nerdy looking - I'm just really shy and nervous all the time. Also I'm a guy.

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First off, you're only as cool as you think you are, if everybody thinks your **** doesn't stink but you think it does-then it does. You've got your whole life ahead of you to get drunk, laid & stupid. Many of the cool kids are cool because of sports, dads $, & they like to party. I can go back to y home town, stop into the bars & shoot the ****with old football buddies, 10 years later I could stop in, & the same guys are at the same stools still talking about high school football--that's all they have. Get super grades, do well in college & make the $. I know guys that had their picture in the dictionary next to nerd. They weren't cool in school, their faces looked like pizzas & they were "losers" Now they ake a good living & they have wives that are stone cold foxes. When my geeky friend from high school stops by in his Ferrari it makes me laugh, he's a doctor & his wife was a fashion model--be cool when it counts, be yourself & have fun

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Start a new reputation in college! A fresh start is always great.

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Well your username is dudewitfemales... Maybe you should change the way you see youself

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You sir, need be ?winning? so you won't be a loser anymore

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Socialize and act like you're the most awesome person in the world.

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Be normal and just act like a regular guy or just LIE

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What is this the plot of project x? Throw a big party and get dem numbers ohhhh yaaaa!

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ive only had 1 friend since elementary school, and ive been called that all my life. I lived through it.my advice: dont try to be popular, from experiences "popular" kids are jerks, also funner isnt a word, and also, being popular wont increase you chances of getting a girlfriend either, it may even make you lose the friends you have, please reconsider being popular.

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Well done Good Sir! 1 friend is all you need anyway!
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thank you
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dumb, u sir r dumb.He will turn out to have no wife, and Be very nerdy....
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I disagree, him and his friend should work together to make more friends.
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I personally feel that having friends is pointless. I am happy to be alone, and I haven't needed some one else besides my parents for help (my parents are entitled to it however). I've been alone for most of my life, and I've never felt the need to be popular or have a lot of friends.
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well i am talking from EXPERIENCE that you don't need to be popular because popular people are jerks, all you need is that one friend that will be there for you when you need them, "popular" people will not be there because they will pretend to be your friend then leave you in the dust.
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I'm not popular either. I have a few friends but I never tried to become popular. Go talk to a popular person but if they walk away keep trying with different people

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Well I wasn't so popular either in highschool.. And I was always looking for a way in.. But I realized the reason I wasn't was cuz of my desperate wanting to be popular lol.. Popularity is run by confident ppl who matured early.... Once u get to the other side ull realize how unimportant popularity Is.. And u can still have parties and get drunk do it with ur gfs .. Highschool is such a short time u should cherish it while u have it

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I agree. One has their whole lives to determine, who won the race or not. The tortoise or the hare?
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Popularity just means nothing.. It's weird highschool seems like so important at the time... But as u get older u wish u had realized how fun and careless it should have been
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First off, are you saying " funner " to make you sound cooler? Make friends with people that are somewhere else other than your school. Better chance that way. Also popularity probably won't get you far in life. Intelligence will.

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In all seriousness... If they can't brother to even try and include you, don't try to be part of them, you'll be better off without them then.

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Dude populars are jerk-offs they think there all that. I know quite a few if those and I hate them. If you do change you could loose your real friends the ones that care and you. I always that a few real friends are better than alot of fake ones. If you do get made fun of a lot don't do anything stupid like try to comet suicide.

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Im not popular Havent gone too a party since 3rd grade, I dont hang out in big groups, and I dont go to the mall, I usually talk and hang out with just a few friends, a few friends are better than a bunch of so-so ones. Just dont force yourself into groups be you. Going to event that alot of people will attend is a good way too start.

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Make enemies. Be the guy everyone loves 2 hate. It's a form of popularity.

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I'm not sure that's what he means.
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it's Cuz of money Check this out projectmoneysystem.com you will love it

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wtf no its not u sicko
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Grades are more important. But if you really want to be popular, then find the difference between you and the guys who are popular and make that a similarity. Also, abs.. they're hard to get, but i promise theyre worth it.

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High School is stupid, those popular kids are not true to themselves. Watch "I Love You, Beth Cooper" you will understand what I mean. You will go further than those "popular" people.

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Don"t sell yourself short!! We are all who we are, and owe no explanations to anyone unless one is just "cray cray"! :), I like what "xoxolovemusic" says...that's called change, change for the good & positive. Don"t make a change by doing something dumb or stupid...Think about how your parents would feel/ think... hey its your world, and others around you, are squirrels trying to get a nut!!

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you're actually So like me the only difference is that I Don't wanna be popular:p just wanna get out of here. :p

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ask a girl at your school out. a cute girl. If she says no then ask another cute girl.
next throw a party (with ur gf) then invite the populer kids.
then make TRUE friends and hang out with them.

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you have to deal with your shyness go to some party's and just kick back and see what goes on and who people are after a couple you will have been noticed and can talk to people about what so and so did at the last party that was cool or funny or to a person you might like to hang with tell them you saw them do whatever and thought it was cool . compliment people on stuff that u saw or no they did they will start to pay attention to you cuz they no your paying attention try not to be so critical of your self and see how it goes

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First, you are not a looser! What do rude,insensitive and nasty personalities know anyway? Ignore them. Second. Going to parties is not all that much fun..healthy fun..Getting drunk in high school is just a sign that you are still trying to fit in ..Keep being you! Just get involved with class activities.Laugh at the rude and stay involved in spite. People get tired of getting no response after bullying ...Time for you to check out a gal who you think you might like going on a date or a school dance. Don't look for miss Beautiful, or Miss Skinny..look for Miss nicer personality and go for it man@!!!!! And take control..You are not a loser. Oh by the way...Most of the kids from my class who had a blast in high school are divorced. I married my sweetie..we dated in our senior year..It was my best year. And I was not allowed to go to house parties..no regrets either!!!.We now are happily married.. You are not a loser!!!!!!!:)

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Bill Gates, George Clooney, Taylor Swift....all were NOT part of the main stream in high school. BUT, when they hit the real world, BAM!!! The world became theirs and everyone wanted to know them - everyone wants to be their friend! High school is a place where your engine just starts to warm up. Be patient! Give yourself some time! Find out who YOU are, be kind and compassionate and generous and then sit back and watch the world unfold in front of you!! Don't make excuses for who you are, don't APOLOGIZE for who you are!! Be the best YOU you can be and you will be amazed at how things will start to fall in place!! I swear to you, the BEST is yet to come!!

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i like what you say,,,
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I liked what you said, too! Ya know, I'm 51 years old but I remember high school quite vividly. I was on the outside looking in. I got bullied. But, I had supportive friends and teachers and when I went to college I used the opportunity to fine tune me. I made life long friends - friends I have to this day. I met my husband, the one I'm married to today. At the time, high school seemed SO important. In hind sight, high school was nothing but a zit on a flea's ass!! The person I am today is due to the fact that I took what I learned in high school, decided what of that was important and blew the rest away. I did the same in every other phase of my life - took what was important and dumped the rest!! Today, my life is full!
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I love this answer! It is very true. Growing up there was a popular group, and I was friends with the friends of that group if that makes sense. Now at 30 I look at the people who were in that click....unmarried, divorced, have children and don't know the father, etc. Be confident in who YOU are, if you know you are awesome others will begin to think the same. Maybe change your style up a bit...but to things you like....don't change who you are. In hinesight highschool was not important in my life, and I think that is because I was always confident in who I was, if someone did not like me that's fine, no sweat. You need to start knowing you are a awesome person and not use a label for yourself. Keep your chin up, the real world in months away. :)
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I don't laugh at other people's misfortune, its just not who I am, unless you deserved it.

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If you were popular or became popular you will still be called gay, f!"got, p"##y by your peers, its just the way most kids treat each other unfortunately, whether they say it jokingly or seriously. Define cool? For girls its blond obnoxious cheerleaders that can't shut up and have an ego as loud as their fake laugh, most people hate them, I assume that's not the cool your looking for, and for guys its having a nice car, good looks and confidence, confidence is easy, its making the best out of what you have and not giving a f""# about the rest, if you have a f""## the rest attitude instead of an I´m worried I wont be accepted attitude your coolness rate rose already. You need to hang out with other guys, being straight and only hanging out with girls and going to the mall isn't healthy, I´m not saying unfried your girl "not " girlfriends, just start doing guy stuff, the mall isn't one of them, and even if you only have the chance to hang out with geeky guys its a start, treat them the way you want to be treated so long as they do the same to you, once you have established friendship you now have a group of guys to hang out with, with this new group of yours you now have more company to form your own drinking and experimenting, (not that I´m encouraging you to do that) but ask your self this, does it matter which group of people is partying? No, as long as you fit in and have a good time with the people you are with you can throw your own parties, if ppl see that you have a really good time more ppl will want to be near you, it takes time, but anyone can achieve this. Dont discriminate certain ppl just because they don't seem cool enough, in the end of the day are you with some one because they are considered "cool" by HS standards, or with some one you know has your back and can rely on. Any one can buy booze at the right legal age, at the right legal age any one can go to a rave, a club or bar, most kids that want "night life" go some were else, to another town for example. (I didn't encourage you to drink) kee
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first off, you are not a loser! you are shy and you are young and you seem to be sensitive and you seem to be rather cool (like me!) but certainly, not a loser!! I hope you choose not to go out and get drunk or do anything goofy like that. please! I have found that if you smile like you're goofy (like my brother!) and if you make eye contact when you're talking and listening to people; this is great! so is being totally honest and never gossip or steal or be a jerk (like my other brother-Harvey). be generous with your time and helpful to those who need you in some way. try to always be moral and sincere. start up conversations with people you are attracted to. just do it! sometimes you will be rejected..do not let that bother you!! never give up. you're young and have the whole world ahead of you! awesome. there is a girl out there just for you...someone who will be a best friend and maybe a girlfriend!! take one day at a time. take care of yourself in all ways; eat right, drink healthy liquids, get plenty of sleep, exercise...the whole shebang. make as good grades as you can. remember; no alcohol, no drugs!!! also remember, you are not a loser..(I AM!!!!) just teasing! stay safe and make it a great senior year...:-)

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Do somethin impressive!!!!!!!:)

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Being popular means nothing man trust me. High school popularity means nothing 20 years from now when all the partying kids are broke or living pay check to pay check and the " nerds" and "losers" or unpopular kids have nice jobs and can do whatever they want. Do not ever worry about being popular in high school because popularity gets you nowhere in the real world

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dont chage who you are just to become popular, its not worth it.

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