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Alright this is probably gonna be really long but I'm jus gonna be straight up. alright all my life I've been pretty quiet and it used to be more because I was shy but now it jus because I'm used to it I guess. and I have quite a few friends that would be happy to hang out with me and they're pretty cool not like swaggets. but I'm kinda known for being a loner. like I'm tired of being known for that and about every couple of months I'm like ok tomorrow I'm gonna change but I never do. and I think it's that time again. I feel like changing but I'm like kinda scared I guess. but the one thing that motivates me to change is the fact that you only live once. I know that sounds korny but its true. and the main reason I don't just give up on everything is my cousin. he's really been there for me the last few years. the problem is he's in a different school district so I can't go to school with him. but when I'm with him I acted like the real me. I don't think he knows exactly how I really am at school though. wow that was long but I really wanna know what to do. what will people think if I just start hanging out with people and talking a lot all of a sudden. please help in any way possible. P.S. U R AMAZING IF YOU READ ALL OF THIS oh and it's only at school that I'm like that. like in public and talking to strangers and talking to friends from school on the phone and Xbox I act fine like a normal person. Mabey I'm unhelpable. and please don't put "go see a therapist" I wanna solve this alone...

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ok so u want to change good. now go call your friends the ones who would be more than glad to hang out with you and tell them hey tomorrow (or whenever movies come out) theres this cool movie that i want to watch..you guys want to go with me? it be cool if you did...or be like hey tomorrow aftershool you want to come over to play xbox? ill buy some snacks and all...or be like hey you think i can hang out with you guys during lunch? or whatever way you think will give you a kick start you get me? cause if you sit there and be like i want to change i want to change and dont do anything to make it happen YOULL ALWAYS BE THE SAME. so start out small like i mentioned above and no its not a bad thing you want to be known differently cause itl actually be good cause then people know to be inviting you over to parties or to the movies and such right? so good luck n hope i helped

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I'm pretty much right there with u dude. I know how u feel. Sometimes I have my good days where i can talk to everyone and not feel awkward or shy.. And then other days I feel dead and shy towards everyone..
Even in my family sometimes..
All u gotta do dude is take it one day at a time and be yourself and remember that there are others out there going through the same thing. :) PS YOU R THE MAN IF U JUST READ ALL THAT

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I had the same problem when I was in school...and it bugged me at times too. I would like how I was in certain classes with certain people...because it felt more like "me"...but then around others in other classes...I would just tense up and be shy or whatever. Maybe if you could just start with one person that you are sort of close to at your school...like maybe you, that person, and your cousin all hang out or something. (That way, you could be a little more comfortable because of your cousin.) Or maybe just start out slowly talking more each day to the people at your school and then it wouldn't be an "all of a sudden" kind of thing. I know it's hard, but if it's bugging you now then you need to at least try before it's just too late. And if for some reason people think you are "strange"...who cares...don't let them see that you are bothered by how they might feel...then they will probably just adapt to your "new behavior" (which is you anyhow)....and all silly worries will be in the past. Bottom line...just be yourself and who cares what others think..if they don't like the way you act...then that's their loss, not yours...oh, and don't see a therapist. :p

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Plus, you have an awesome sense of humor! I followed you on here because I really loved reading your answers to questions...super smart combined with super funny. (Just saying...if that's your personality (which I assume it is)...then you have to share it with other people..or they would totally be missing out. :)
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:) u r amazing (:
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Ha! Not really, but thanks..I'll take the compliment. You totally made my night...appreciate that! :)
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No prob...and you made my night with that answer:)
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Awesome...so we're even, then! ;)
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Hahaha
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silly :)
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:) I was honestly kinda nervous to ask cause I thought I was gonna sound like a wierdo, but I got some great answers...:)
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Yeah, I understand how you feel...and you did not sound like a weirdo...I went through the same thing when I was in high school. As for posting a personal question.. I did that once...and I got zero answers! :p
I got it removed though. But who cares what a bunch of strangers think anyway...they don't know you. Glad you got some good answers. :)
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Thanx. ?
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Can U see the chicken??
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Good night :)
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Why the question mark?
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Is it in his hand? Barely.
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Goodnight and no it's chicken but I guess they changed it to a question mark haha
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Ha! Okie dokie then. Good night. :p
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If you ever sign back on...this is me. :)
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