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is it possible to.maintain a somewhat healthy relationship with drug use present?

my boyfriend uses meth. i love him, he works hard, doesnt spend all our money or put us in harms way. recently, i tried meth, n have used a few times. im worried this is not good. i have a child,, who is my world. is there any pissible way to maintain a healthy lifestyle and use drugs also?
my boyfrind has used for years and is quite happy and successfull, although,has shown signs of paranoia latley. i am o out of my leugue here.

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CarlyMichie, please for the love of yourself and your child, do NOT do meth ever again! Meth destroys lives! Don't believe me, look up the long term effects of the drug! Not to mention, you get caught, you'll lose custody of that baby!
I have two brothers who are meth addicts. I learned this much from them.
1. They can not be trusted.
2. I love them, but they aren't who they used to be.
3. They've ruined not only their lives, and their childrens lives, but also the lives of the people who love and care about them.
4. They are skeletons who only care about their next hit.

My one brother, spent 6 years in prison, 2 years on paper, and about half a year after that clean. Then he let things get to him and started using again. All his kids are either in foster care, or living with their POS mothers. He's still using to this day.

I miss them, more than anyone could know.

Please. Don't.

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cj u have a way wit words
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SisterGirl, I know how much this cost you, you are awesome! I pray this mother believes you and listens.
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Me too fishy!
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wow CJ, thanks for sharing. My sister too was heavy into drugs. I learned how bad it was when I got married. After our honeymoon, we went house hunting. When we found our dream house, they ran my credit and basically told us to get out for wasting their time. She used my SS number and racked up over $20,000 on 5 charge cards that were delinquent and in collections. plus many other bills(gas, electric, cable, phone, ect.).It will be 15 yrs in June and my credit is still damaged, I basically have to have cash, can never get a charge card
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So sorry orange! :(
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@orange, that sucks. You should be able to get your credit rehabilitated after 10 years. Find a credit union that will help you, or hire an attorney. You should be able (that again) to get those debts off your credit. Did you do anything about what your sister did, identity theft? Thank you again for sharing your story.
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I did get most off of my credit, even though it shows paid ( or zero balance) the damage is done. It's still in my credit history. Collection agencies keep passing them around, just yesterday in the mail I got a letter from one about a Chrysler she got repo'd, just never ends.
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You can insist that such entries be removed from your history. Let me do some research and I'll get back to you.
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You can make the credit agencies remove the inaccurate information. Here's the site that will tell you how to do it. http://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0058-credit-repair-how-help-yourself
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The bitterness is over, we are a happy couple. We learned to deal with it. I know my sister's heart, she only did it for the next high
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Okay, I'm not trying to be pushy here, I just want to make sure I have communicated clearly. You can get the credit agencies to correct your history. Furthermore, I don't know this for sure, but I believe it is accurate, the time the credit reporting agencies can keep an old record has lapsed--so they can't go that far back. Just so you know.
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after all that, my credit score is around 740, but still can't get under 15% interest rate. life is good, just more expensive
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Wow, you are so forgiving. I can't get my head around that. I hope it never happens to you again. You are amazing. I hope your sister realizes she has the best sister in the world.
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yes, they are off of my credit report. but the companies never forget
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off to work, I'll check that site later. THANKS !
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You're pretty special, CJ :)
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Yeah, u r. I can tell u from experience. I could elaborate if u like. But u know I'm right.

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It would be hard to maintain a healthy relationship or lifestyle when you are using meth. Meth causes tolerance and will lead to addictions that may make you spend more just to get that high. It will also mess with your judgment and cause health deterioration bringing about loss of appetite, insomnia, tremors and jaw-clenching. Check out http://chemistry.about.com/od/medicalhealth/a/crystalmeth.htm for more information.

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Wake up to reality. You brought your son into this world. You are responsible for his health safety & well being. Most mothers would give their right arm for their child's life. All you have to do is not become something that could change yours & his life forever. If you choose to have & stay with a husband or partner that does it, thats your choice but at least let your son have one good role model to learn from. I hope you realize your son is more important than any drugs.

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The answer to your question is absolutely not. It is sad to see someone we love go down the path to self-destruction, but you can't save him--he's an adult. You must save yourself and your child. Please, find the strength to leave this poor man, this always seems to end the same way--with him in jail, hanging out with the wrong crowd, and you getting involved yourself. What role model do you want for your son? Who will take care of your son if you are arrested, wrongly or rightly, you could get caught up in the net that is inevitable? Do you want to visit your partner in jail? There are so many arguments against staying in this relationship that it makes my head swim! Get out while you still can, and while your child is still young enough to learn from a proper role model. Don't think he doesn't know, kids know a lot more than we give them credit for. Please, go. If he gets clean, maybe you could revisit the question, but for now--you must go for your child's sake if for no other reason.

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Hi Koichan, how's things? Is that new baby settling in. I just had Pinny clipped a couple of days ago. She is so beautiful when her eyes are not covered by curls of black fur.
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Hi Kazarina! Yes, Norma Jean is doing much better. I was so worried about her. I wish she'd eat more, but she's just tiny, 6 lbs., and has a tiny appetite. She's a cuddler though. How are you doing? Still upset with your son?
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No just trying to get him to move out & get his life on track so I can have my quiet lifestyle back =me & the dog. Houseules somehow don't apply to my son.
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These answers are right on. The scary thing about meth is it will slowly destroy you and you won't realize it until its too late. If your BF doesn't stop, you need to loose him.

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Please for.all you love(& will lose if you don't quit) stop now while you're ahead. One of my daughters just got out of prison, lost her son, is pregnant again & has a warret now. If they find her & I hope they do the baby will be born in prison & the saddest part is that it would be best for the baby cause she'd have to get clean. She started off sounding just like you do now!

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Your child will tell somebody about the meth and there will be an investigation after which you will lose custody of your child. This is because a home with meth present (high parents, high friends of parents, and the availability of meth) is considered an unsafe living environment for a child. This will really happen. Save yourself this grief and move away from meth and all the humiliation that will be yours when the story hits the newspapers. "Child removed from meth house: mother loses custody".

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