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I gave my dog back to my ex boyfriend, because the dog was stuck in his cage for 8-12 hours a day. Is this best for the dog?

I really love my dog, he's my best buddy and I'm positive that my ex will not mistreat him.

I work for 9 hours, and then go to school after. I really miss him. I do want what's best for him, so is this best for the dog?

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Absolutely if your ex-boyfriend can care for it properly. I am sorry you had to give your dog away, but I think he will be happier not in a cage for that long of a time period. I have a German Shepherd who was in a similar situation. Her owners could not spend the time with her so she was in a garage most of the time alone. Dogs are pack animals and enjoy the company of others. It was hard for them, but their dog, now ours is thriving.

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Thank you, that's good to hear :)
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Glad that Shepherd got a good home with you sooshie! My last Shepherd was acquired under similar circumstances and was a great dog! The owners daughter who's Dog it actually was came by once a week for a while to check on him and once she saw how well he was doing she relaxed and moved on.(she young with lots to do.:-).)
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You're welcome Ninja. I am sorry you have to go through this, but thankful your pup has a good home to go to. If you and the ex are on a friendly basis, you might be able to visit if you wanted.

wittepier, I love Shepherds! This is the second one we have had and she is just wonderful. The previous owner didn't want any updates even though I asked. He knows the neighborhood we live in, so I wonder if he ever drove by to check up on her. They had a new baby and held on to her until a home could be found. I know he felt terrible, but I think he would be pleased how well she is doing in our home.
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Sooshie, same here! They are such great Dogs with so much Heart!!have had lots of Shepherd- purebred and mixes over the years ,all "adoptees" , and although some had been horribly abused they shrugged it of with some good TLC and training and I must admit were probably my favourites all around.
Have had both situations; owners who followed up and those who for some reason or another just didn't. From your description this person may have just felt overwhelmed and some people deal better with that by trying to put it out of their minds. I never could in the one instance I mentioned.. Was THE most difficult decision of my life! ( can hear it now from others... "Must have an easy life"..ha,ha..takes a true animal lover to get what I mean.:-).) happy this one ended up with someone like you who knows and loves the breed!:-)
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Oh I am sure they were overwhelmed. New baby and both parents worked. I could tell the owner truly cared for her. He actually adopted her first from someone else, so we are her third home. I am sure he just wanted her to be safe and cared for with proper attention. She gets it here for sure. We have a husky as well and I work from home, so she always has company.
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May have taken her a while but think she found THE right For-ever-home!!:-)!!
And oooh, love Huskies also! Never had the chance to have a Full-Breed, only time-period I lived in Cold climate(NJ) had the Shepherd I referred to and his daughter which was a Malamute-Husky-Shepherd mix. Super Sweet!!
She was aaah kinda an accident..He came to us Un-planned and Un-fixed when 1st moved, no fence yet and he was WILD! Made the Vet Appt for next day, put him on a long Dog-run line for a bit and.. Next thing I see out of my kitchen window.. Yep...too late!:-). Mother not my Dog so no choice in the matter at the time.. But did get my beautiful sweet husky++mix out of it.:-). Fenced yard, fixed Him and both lived to happy OLD age. Him-14!(and had Major successful Spine Surgery! And her 16! And am yakkin on.. Dogs Are great aren't they??
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They certainly are. Looks like my husky may get her wish today and have some snow. I am in PA and hopefully it will be more snow than rain. Stay warm!
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. Just glad I don't live up by you any more! Brrrrr, ya'll take care and hope Nemo stays North!! We nice and Moderate 82F here in the U.S.V.I.hoping for a bit of that rain..been Dry :-)
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Haha here I am hoping Nemo hits us directly. My Siberian keeps looking out the window waiting for the snow to arrive.

Have a wonderful weekend!
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Good point, Snow better than Cold Freezing Rain!:-). Hope you and your Doggies get to play in snow! Good weekend to ya'll and stay safe.
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I think you did the right thing.

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never leave a dog in a cage too long or it will get sick and die

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That's really not helpful to the situation. And not true - the cage won't kill them, but unsanitary or inhumane conditions will.
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It sure is. Or it is, if he is taking proper care of the dog. It sounds like you made the right choice.

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I believe he will. We lived together for a year. Thanks :)
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That's what's best for the dog. Good idea. Some people just want to have a pet and don't realize that their environment isn't good for the pet.

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i think it is best for the dog because it will be able to be more playful but are you sad it is gone?

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Very sad. Thanks
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Absolutely, honey. And I commend you on being so unselfish in doing what was best for your best buddy. I know that was hard to do, but that showed just how much you loved him. God bless your little heart.

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Big heart
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Oh that's very good to hear, thanks :)
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You absolutely did the right thing. Often the right thing to do is the hardest thing to do.

How is your relationship with your ex? Will he let you come and get the dog for a few hours every now and again? Just so you can give him some love?

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Yes we still have a good relationship, and he will let me see him. Thanks :)
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FunnyLittleFrog

It's good for the dog, but sad for you.

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Indeed
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Yes, i consider that animal cruelty and i hate animal cruelty. dogs are naturally outside creatures, unlike most cats who are lazy, so if you don't let them go outside the cage it's a bad scenario. i mean, think about it. how would you feel if somebody had stuck you inside a cage for 8-12 hours a day and you couldn't do anything but twiddle your thumbs... oh wait, dogs don't have thumbs, never mind.

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I'm not accusing you of anything, just saying
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No, I know. That's why I gave him back :,(
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seriously, they keep removing my comments.
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Really?! That account is still broken I'm guessing....
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maybe not. i mean what i said was kind of cru3l... in a way
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Suzie17

Love is being unselfish. You did the right thing. What a very loving thing it was too!

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You put your dogs well being before your own feelings. Not many people are that selfless. The right thing isn't always the easiest thing.

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It's best for the dog if the dog will not be in a cage for eight to twelve hours a day, in being in your boyfriend's care. You are doing the right thing, thinking of the dog, ahead of your love for him, even though you'll miss him, when he isn't actually yours. Good for you. I hope your pain is minimal. : [

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It's not minimal, but I'll get there. Thanks :)
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Awww, I can relate. So sorry. :( Yw.
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Aw, Ninja. What you did was out of love. You're awesome.

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I am sorry that your relationship didn't work out and now you miss your doggie friend too. You did the most responsible and compassionate thing by making sure that the dog has a happy familiar home. It is best for the dog.
I love dogs and would like to have one but due to my circumstances I can't provide the best home for one so I don't.

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Hope your circumstances change and you Can get your Dog JDBo!!
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Thank you :,(
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You betcha , he needs more freedom than that , besides have to hold going 1 & 2 would not be good for him !

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Would have to agree with the others.....tho I feel for you in having to give up a pet, I commend you for putting the well-being of your pet first....the sign of a true animal-lover. I've had to do that a few times when my circumstances changed.....it happens.

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Ok thank you. I do love animals haha
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Agree with all of the above, if your ex has more time for the Dog and as you mentioned you will be able to see the Dog, a Very Good selfless move! :-).
I feel your sense of loss and guilt, had to do the same when left for work/volunteering/traveling and couldn't be there for mine! Hurts big time and it IS hard to let go of the guilt feelings.. But we have to do whats best for the animal(s) and you did.

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Thank you. That's good to know I didn't give him up for nothing
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No way, and as he gets to see you also, think its the best thing all around. Wont tell you the guilt goes away, didn't for me, but everytime I focused on that Negative I pictured my Dogs running around in the fields behind his house, happy and content and it helped some.
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Ok :)
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Great answer.
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Thanks JDBo!:-). Hope it's ok with you calling you that?
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U r a very responsible for doing that out of ur luv and ur compassion u did the best thing u could for the dog and that is why I admire what u did I am very happy for the reason u gave him 2 ur ex boyfriend, that must have taken so much bravery 2 give him to ur boyfriend, I admire u and ur luv 4 ur dog

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If you can't care for this animal properly, or even provide a very basic need .. and he can .. Then of course, this dog is FFFAAAARRRR better off.

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I commend your compassion and willingness to sacrifice your own needs for your cherished loved one. As a fellow animal lover .. I am elated.
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Yes of the dog is happy!

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You did the right thing! I've never crated an animal, I've had all cats since l didn't have a fenced-in yard. Having 2 or 3 cats means less guilt when I'm at work. l always leave food out in case I'm delayed for some reason.

lt's good that you have a good relationship with your ex and that you trust him to take care of your dog properly. Your heart is in the right place! To your ex, Thank you for caring as well, you, too, have a good heart!

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Thanks, I'm glad I did the right thing for him at least!
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