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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 10:22AM on 2/7/2013

Is it possible to control your personality?

I'm a 17 year old male. I understand personality is just personality, but I hate mine. I hate to say this but I'm way too emotional and dependent. Is there any way I can help that? (Without medication.)

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

Marcus, I wouldn't get too worked up about it. You're 17. Your hormones are still trying to find the balance as you become a man. It's probably just puberty. You're not nuts for having strong emotions. That's part of the process. You're really great here. I'm willing to bet you're just plain great...period!
Relax. Wait a few years, and then see if the emotions calm down. For now, you can always consider your character. If you think hard about what you value, make sure your actions match those values, you'll be a good man.
Sometimes in our pursuit of happiness, it's good to stop for a minute and just be happy!

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

Thanks, Happy. I hope you're right.

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shaylen: 3 months ago

Nice answer, as usual happy. :)

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Neanderthal: 3 months ago

Sometimes in our pursuit of happiness, its good to stop for a minute and just be.... YOU??? Thats just weird. Happy, W E I R D, Lol

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

Lol!

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

We're all a little Mad here, said the Cheshire Cat. Yes, I'm weird.

Thanks Shaylen!

Marcus, I know I'm right about you being awesome. I see it all the time here. I hope you take heart in that.
I saw in your comments to Phlo that sometimes you get real down in the dumps. There is an exercise to brighten your moods. Have you heard of a gratitude diary? It's just a simple note on a calendar about what went right. Everyday, like after you do homework, jot something down. It can be simple stuff, or big events. 1. Dinner tasted great. 2. Homework was easy. 3. So&So said something nice to me. After a week or two of reflecting each night, you start to see the good stuff as it happens - That's going on the calendar! It's easy and proven effective. (No cheating and letting the blues write negative stuff!). It's worth a shot! :)

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Neanderthal: 3 months ago

Love that idea of a gratitude diary Happy..... Thats awesome.

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

That sounds great, Happy! Geez, why didn't I know you before. :P

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shaylen: 3 months ago

You're welcome happy :) was going to answer-but wasn't sure what to say after you and shiny answered so eloquently.

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FunnyLittleFrog: 3 months ago

Happy...I'm going to try that, thanks

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

Shaylen – At least you care. :)

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shaylen: 3 months ago

Thanks, Marcus :) I feel bad though- I want to help >.< lol.

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

Good luck with the calendar Marcus and sweet froggie! It worked for my friend!

Shaylen, you are one of the most caring people here. I'm so glad we met. Thank you, Jan!

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shaylen: 3 months ago

@happy-aw well thank you! I try! And same to you. Lol-thanks Jan xP

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

I don't see a comment from Jan... is she here?

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shaylen: 3 months ago

Lol xP No-that's just how me and happy met, via Jan.

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

Oh haha!

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shaylen: 3 months ago

Lol yea.

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

Going to pick up my granddaughter! Hooray! See you all later!

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shaylen: 3 months ago

Haha ok happy.

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ladywood60: 3 months ago via iPhone

Happy, I just got home and read your response to Marcus(4 hrs later), and u just want to tell you how beautiful your answer was.... I can tell you helped many at the same time you were helping Marcus... By the way it works!
I have my calendar on my desk that I use. I drink my morning tea or coffee and write mine down to start my day. It gets one off to a good start.
I also have a Vision Board. Some call it a Dream Board...
@Marcus hello Sir Marcus! Listen to Happy, she is a Wise Sage, and was there when you needed her.... All will be well my friend....;)

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

As! Thank you sweet lady!

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

Aw, not as. Silly typo!

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

I think everyone here are some of my favorite people on Ask. Nothing but positivity in this entire thread.

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

That would have sounded a lot better if I would have switched those two sentences around...

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

Sounds good to me! Marcus, I'm so glad you got me on this train of thought. I just answered another question on happiness, and I referred to you and this conversation. (I left your name out of it.) I have to thank you for getting me thinking about "the pursuit of happiness!"

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

Don't thank me, you're the one who initiated your jumping in!

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

I just realized that I forgot to follow you! Silly me! O.o

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

Grab your umbrella! A new follower star shower is coming! RUN!

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

Dang dude! You deserved multiple stars for those answers! I only give the good answers stars on my star showers. It's rare every darn one deserves it. I will follow you from here to Mars!

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

6 votes on the spot. Thanks, Happy! I'm following you now, too. :)

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

I'm honored. No joke.

This is gonna be fun!

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shinypate1: 3 months ago via iPhone

Better than mine... By a country mile. Stars

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Happy2BeHere2: 3 months ago

Thank you. Again, I'm honored. You give fantastic answers, Mr. Shiny. It's always great to come across one.

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Sincerity: 3 months ago

I began following Marcus I think in my first week on Ask. Hi Marcus!!! You are so very special. I have always told you that you will be famous someday and I still believe it. And the girl that gets you for a husband is going to be one lucky person!!!

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MadMarcus15: 3 months ago

I'm complimented, Sincerity. Thank you. :)

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