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Is it possible to control your personality?

I'm a 17 year old male. I understand personality is just personality, but I hate mine. I hate to say this but I'm way too emotional and dependent. Is there any way I can help that? (Without medication.)

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Marcus, I wouldn't get too worked up about it. You're 17. Your hormones are still trying to find the balance as you become a man. It's probably just puberty. You're not nuts for having strong emotions. That's part of the process. You're really great here. I'm willing to bet you're just plain great...period!
Relax. Wait a few years, and then see if the emotions calm down. For now, you can always consider your character. If you think hard about what you value, make sure your actions match those values, you'll be a good man.
Sometimes in our pursuit of happiness, it's good to stop for a minute and just be happy!

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Thanks, Happy. I hope you're right.
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Nice answer, as usual happy. :)
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Sometimes in our pursuit of happiness, its good to stop for a minute and just be.... YOU??? Thats just weird. Happy, W E I R D, Lol
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Lol!
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We're all a little Mad here, said the Cheshire Cat. Yes, I'm weird.

Thanks Shaylen!

Marcus, I know I'm right about you being awesome. I see it all the time here. I hope you take heart in that.
I saw in your comments to Phlo that sometimes you get real down in the dumps. There is an exercise to brighten your moods. Have you heard of a gratitude diary? It's just a simple note on a calendar about what went right. Everyday, like after you do homework, jot something down. It can be simple stuff, or big events. 1. Dinner tasted great. 2. Homework was easy. 3. So&So said something nice to me. After a week or two of reflecting each night, you start to see the good stuff as it happens - That's going on the calendar! It's easy and proven effective. (No cheating and letting the blues write negative stuff!). It's worth a shot! :)
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Love that idea of a gratitude diary Happy..... Thats awesome.
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That sounds great, Happy! Geez, why didn't I know you before. :P
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You're welcome happy :) was going to answer-but wasn't sure what to say after you and shiny answered so eloquently.

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Happy...I'm going to try that, thanks
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Shaylen – At least you care. :)
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Thanks, Marcus :) I feel bad though- I want to help >.< lol.
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Good luck with the calendar Marcus and sweet froggie! It worked for my friend!

Shaylen, you are one of the most caring people here. I'm so glad we met. Thank you, Jan!
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@happy-aw well thank you! I try! And same to you. Lol-thanks Jan xP
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I don't see a comment from Jan... is she here?
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Lol xP No-that's just how me and happy met, via Jan.
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Oh haha!
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Lol yea.
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Going to pick up my granddaughter! Hooray! See you all later!
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Haha ok happy.
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Happy, I just got home and read your response to Marcus(4 hrs later), and u just want to tell you how beautiful your answer was.... I can tell you helped many at the same time you were helping Marcus... By the way it works!
I have my calendar on my desk that I use. I drink my morning tea or coffee and write mine down to start my day. It gets one off to a good start.
I also have a Vision Board. Some call it a Dream Board...
@Marcus hello Sir Marcus! Listen to Happy, she is a Wise Sage, and was there when you needed her.... All will be well my friend....;)
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As! Thank you sweet lady!
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Aw, not as. Silly typo!
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I think everyone here are some of my favorite people on Ask. Nothing but positivity in this entire thread.
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That would have sounded a lot better if I would have switched those two sentences around...
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Sounds good to me! Marcus, I'm so glad you got me on this train of thought. I just answered another question on happiness, and I referred to you and this conversation. (I left your name out of it.) I have to thank you for getting me thinking about "the pursuit of happiness!"
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Don't thank me, you're the one who initiated your jumping in!
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I just realized that I forgot to follow you! Silly me! O.o
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Grab your umbrella! A new follower star shower is coming! RUN!
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Dang dude! You deserved multiple stars for those answers! I only give the good answers stars on my star showers. It's rare every darn one deserves it. I will follow you from here to Mars!
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6 votes on the spot. Thanks, Happy! I'm following you now, too. :)
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I'm honored. No joke.

This is gonna be fun!
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Better than mine... By a country mile. Stars
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Thank you. Again, I'm honored. You give fantastic answers, Mr. Shiny. It's always great to come across one.
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I began following Marcus I think in my first week on Ask. Hi Marcus!!! You are so very special. I have always told you that you will be famous someday and I still believe it. And the girl that gets you for a husband is going to be one lucky person!!!
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I'm complimented, Sincerity. Thank you. :)
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When would you want to take medication to change who YOU are? YOU have control on when you should change, and what you should change, not medication. Changing your personality is hard to explain, see a therapist.

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He said without meds, meaning he doesn't want to take them. Just improvising.
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I know, I was just pointing that out.
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Thanks, Slenderp.
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Yes there's a way. The way is to live with that.
You came like that. You can't make anything make you hate that, after all, what's wrong with being so emotional?

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I feel despair all the time.
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You can change every aspect of your personality. If you have the will and drive to do so. Just don't make yourself "fake".

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Ok here ya go!

First off: You change your personality by changing your habits!

Besides that why are you too emotional? That's part of you!

I'm kinda non-emotional myself!

But besides you can change limited parts of yourself.

For example you don't have to cry the whole time when you watch a sad movie :P

But you should be fine :P

-side note: There is no medication to help you!

Except steriods which give you ROID RAGE!

So unless you wanna go all monster rage!

Just keep following the right path!

Truth to the end!

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Personality is like the roots of a tree, and behaviors like the trunk and branches. A tree tends to produce from the roots: if you feed the roots, the fruit produced is abundant. So, if you feel you are dependent and needy, you will seek feeding for it; if you see yourself as independent, you will seek to feed your independence. If you are emotional, you will seek the support and emotional connection of others; if less emo and more stable, you will seek stability.
So, what kind of feeding and support have you sought? What most interests you? How are you feeding your personality? And if you want some balance in traits, are you seeking the supportive activities?
Man has an eagle and a wolf inside him, according to an old Indian legend. They are at war; which one wins, depends on which one you feed.

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Thanks, Pate. So you are a psychologist.
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great answer
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Lol some of my patients call me a philosopher. I don't take offense.
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Excellent! I love that analogy!
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So what is the personality of the wolf? Like the concept
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I think that's why many people marry their opposites. My wife and I are total opposites and get along quite well.
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This is called complementarity and is often found in marriage as we try to "fill in the blanks" our partner has.
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Your true self is very difficult to change.. Its much easier to change what others perceive.

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Change your behavior and try hanging around positive people and your personality will change...just don't become stuck on your self

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Your personality will evolve with age and life experience. As far as being dependent on others, you have to learn too venture out on your own a little bit. Get involved in different activities/organizations. Do some volunteer work. You will meet new people while helping others. This will help you feel more independent when you make your own choices. New life, New blood, New activity.

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Yes, you can change. I mean, look at the 40 year olds, 50 year olds in your life. They probably aren't the same people they were as teens. People change a lot from 18-22. If you work at it you can become the adult you want to be, and soon, too.

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I hope so. Thanks.
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Marcus, don't worry about it. Embrace who you are and enjoy being you. The rest of us like your personality! It shines through in your questions and answers.

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I'm complimented. :) Thank you.
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You are a great kid (young man).
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Hey Marcus-not sure what to say, since shiny and happy already answered so eloquently. But I'll try anyway! xD -For the most part, our personalities are how we come, there's not much that can be done about that. People can, however, work on bettering certain aspects of themselves. I find that as I have gotten older, things about me have changed, while some have stayed the same. I'm different than I was 17, but in some ways, I'm still the same. You shouldn't hate your personality, though! We all have our flaws and imperfections we have to work on, it's just part of who we are. You've always struck me as thoughtful and caring. Sometimes it helps to change the thinking patterns-replace the negative thoughts, and focus on what you can do now. Sometimes I think we just need to be patient with ourselves.

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Thanks, Shaylen.
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Welcome, Marcus :)
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Very sweet, thoughtful and as always... Star worthy!
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You may see it as a weakness, Marcus, but it can become your strength.

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Nice one, Sam :)
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Yes I beleive the personality does change as one ages,matures. When I was about your age I was not comfortable with "silence". I was always the one that had to constantly chat to fill that gap, and it bothered me. It's a long process ever so gradual. The first step is to identify the part of your personality and time.


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I was reading all the advice you received and it's really good advice .You are young as you get older and experience life's ups and downs you will go threw the necessary changes it's a package it all will come with experience . you will see

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