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How do you tell a guy you want to break up?

I'm dating this guy ( for all intents and purposes his name is Chris),and the thing is, I think I'm actually in love with someone else (who for all intents and purposes is named Johnny). Thing is me and Johnny had fling and whenever I kissed him I got these intense feelings and when we stopped, I could feel the kiss for hours. With Chris, it isn't the same. There's no fireworks, and I feel nothing afterwards. Also when I'm around Johnny, I get all happy and nervous at the same time. With Chris, it's like "Oh I'm just hanging out with a friend." But before I stated dating Chris, Johnny wasn't making up his mind about me and him and I eventually told him that he wasnt making up his mind so I was going to move on with my life, but I can't. What do I do?

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The best thing to do is to be honest with this guy that you are currently dating. Tell him about how you feel and your intentions but be careful not to hurt him. Be sure to inform Chris that it is not his fault and be respectful.

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Thanks. Helpful but doesnt help me with "Johnny"
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"I'm not interested in taking this relationship any farther. I (did or did not) enjoy our time together and hope you can understand"

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Helpful but it doesn't help me with "Johnny".... :|
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If Chris is a friend you aren't treating him as such... you shouldn't be in a relationship with him just to carry around the label of girlfriend. If you want to hang out with Chris, then tell him you are interested in friendship but not a relationship, that you think he is great but you just don't seem to have a more intimate interest in him. As far as Johnny, if you are interested in him then don't play games, if he is who you want to be in a relationship with then wait until he is ready... popping into another relationship shows him that either (A) boys are interchangeable in your life or (B) you aren't as interested in him as he may have thought you were. Breaking up with one person to date another sends a fairly negative message to more than just the two you might think are involved in the decision.
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What else is fascinating about "Chris"? Other than the kissing?

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Nothing. Thats the problem
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Is there another reason you got together with him?
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I thought i really liked him. And ive already fixed the problem. I broke up with him.
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How did it go?
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It happened on friday. He just got quiet and walked off but today he came up to me and hugged me so, it may have gone okay.
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