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Is it wrong to have sex and have a baby before youre even married

I think I might be pregnant

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With respect to the religious opinion, yes it is wrong
With respect to different cultures opinions, yes it is wrong.
And if you are still teen, then I think that it is too wrong to have a baby at such age. How can you be responsible/take care and have money for a baby at that age !?

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nice response.i appreciate you
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Thank you Strongstudent..
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Good answer
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Thank you Garyz..
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I had my first child when I was 18 and I tAkers good care of het. I owned up to my responsibility. Not everyone is the same.
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well it depend if u believe in God if so yes

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depends on your religious or moral views.

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No it is not wrong.

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in the bible it say sex is made for married couples , so yes. but if you do get married and repent then it will be forgiven. or just repent then you will be fine.

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In the old days it was frowned upon. Some even disowned by their families. A lot of religions dont agree with it either. I was taught to marry first then have sex. Now days its normal to see women have children and not married. Keep your head up. You will make it.

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Well I think that the best choice is to wait but if u already had sex and think you have a baby then now the best decision to make is not to abort it instead have it and if u are to young or dont want it for whatever reason then give it to adoption and next time think of all this! good luck

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Not if you don't care that your baby will be a bast***

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I only think it's wrong if it's someone who is under the age of 18 that becomes pregnant. I don't believe that because you become pregnant before marriage you're going to Hell. Congratulations on the baby :) (If you are actually pregnant.)

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I think its wrong to be irresponsible before you get married :D

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She didnt mention anything about whether or not she was responsible or not... just said she thinks she might be pregnant.
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she asked if it was wrong to have a baby before she was married, and having a child before you're married is irresponsible. until you are in a committed bond where the both of you are absolutely beyond a shadow of a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of your lives together and raise they child you are being irresponsible. I would know, being fatherless takes a toll.
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No.No No. Lots of people do it. You dont have to be in a committed relationship either. You just have to be able to take care of the baby and raise it to the very best of your ability. You have to be able to put the baby before anything and everything else.
Being fatherless DOES take a toll, I agree. but not necessarily irresponsible.
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Its irresponsible to have a baby if you can't take care of it. I would personally not have a baby until I was financially stable and married. And if I had to question if it was wrong or not, I'd assume I was not ready.
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We dont know if she can take care of it or not though... That information was not given. She is just stressed and worried. I guess she wants to find out how many judgmental people are out there.
She doesnt need people jumping all over her case..... She is already pregnant....and you cant just undo pregnancy.
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that is a lie. you can undo it... but that is also morally wrong. my mom got gang raped at 15, I think she was irresponsible for going to the party, but I don't think she had much control over being raped... she trusted him. its different when you're not raped and you can't close your legs or just choose someone more trustworthy to put in between them. of course, she didn't tell us if she was raped or not, that doesn't sound like the reaction of someone who was. she sounds like a teenager, because what grown woman would worry?
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Yes... I guess you can UNDO pregnancy. By giving birth to the child. LOL. I apologize.
Your Mom was not irresponsible for going to a party.... People go to parties. Nothing wrong with that. You said she was gang raped.... that means more than ONE individual raped her.... it means a gang of guys raped her. That is a heinous crime and was not her fault. Rape is not caused by a crazy guy or two. Rape is caused by someone that has a mental disorder.
This woman wasnt raped and she is 18 years old. LOTS of grown women AND men worry about it. Nothing wrong with worrying about it. Worrying about it can usually help prepare you better to take care of the child.
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No, she was invited and attended of her own free will, but then she was given alcohol had intercourse willingly (still counts as rape under alcoholic influence) until the end, then when she passes out she was gang raped. she was also 15, you can't drink alcohol legally at 15. you can also get MARRIED at 18... live in a house together... there are lots of things she could do, but as I've said before. she asked. I responded.
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I agree with you.... that it is not ok to be irresponsible. I agree that your mother acted irresponsibly. I wasnt trying to argue with you.
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well you always seem to no matter what <:3 :3 I'm just very technical.
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I always seem to what? Argue? I wasnt arguing... I was correcting you. Big difference.
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But there is no correcting in opinions, thats why everyone has them, the power to think and feel freely.
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When you ask for an opinion, there is always a risk, at least when you leave out as much in depth information about the subject as possible that you will be judged incorrectly or subjected to bias
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I shouldn't have to tell you that.
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I wasnt correcting your opinions. I agree. There is no correcting opinions. I was trying to help you NOT read something into the question that wasnt put there. I was attempting to stop you from being judgmental.
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You assumed she was being irresponsible before being married. None of that information was given.
I shouldnt have had to do that but.... You assumed anyway.
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She asked if I thought it was wrong, my thought was that yes, it is irresponsible. that in itself being why it was wrong.
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You assumed it was your duty to tell me I am wrong for forming my own opinion, which its not, infact I have the power to change my thoughts and opinions freely, you are not my gaurdian. you have no right to tell me how I should feel.
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Oh... well that part isnt necessarily irresponsible. The irresponsibility lies in not being able to take care of that child. We dont have that information. She might be very capable of caring and supporting his child.
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NO... I did not tell you you were wrong for forming your own opinion. Now you are reading into MY words.
I dont even want to tell you how to feel and you are right... I am neither your parent nor your guardian.
I think you would be better off if you only read what was posted instead of ADDING what you want into it. Ok.
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But there is the part where religion comes to play. I am baptist, and in my religion one does not procreate or have sex at all really before marriage, of course how is one to know that without me telling them? Based on the fact that my religion itself forbids it, should be enough for me finding it irresponsible. But why was it my point to tell you?
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It is fine. I could care less, but I'd agree that both of us have probably had enough of this conversation.
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Oh.... YOU are baptist. Not everyone is. I sure know a lot of baptists though... that got pregnant before they were ever married and here in the south too. YOUR religion should have never been put into play.... unless it is hers as well.
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You are correct again... I think we have both had enough of this.
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Read the rest of the religious responses and think on how you did not "correct" them. Have a pleasant evening, I have homework to finish.
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I was not involved in those conversations.... I got caught up with this one. I dont need to think on them... do I? They are not what she was looking for.... therefore, they have nothing to do with her question. Good luck with the homework... and you have a pleasant evening as well.
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Thank you. and again, matter of opinion dear, her entire question was opinionated. what'd you expect? "because everyone of this day and age had pre-marital sex and gets knocked up, its totally okay!?"
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don't expect to see a butterfly in a crows nest.
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It is not ok at all... because MOST of them cannot take care of the child. Most of them do not even have support from their families. 80 years ago they would just send the girl to a relatives house out of town or out of state... when she would deliver the child they would just take it away from her. No questions asked.
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How do you know she can?
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LOL.... I dont.. thats why I answered the question the way I did.
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She didn't tell us. my point with the "leave out information" you assumed the best, I assumed the worst. if we leave it at the "opinions" neither of us has to be wrong. simple.
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If you stop talking, I will. And how old are you? I'm supposedly deemed "child" status by law and I'm just curious why you have to fight with a teenage girl.
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LOL...Ok. Go do your homework. I dont think I said anywhere that you were wrong. I truly hope I didnt imply that either.... Apparently I did. I apologize for that.
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Oh... You were wanting the last word?? You didnt tell me that. I am older than you.... a pretty good bit older.... and again. I am not fighting with you. I did not even think that we were fighting. I didnt get that impression anyway.
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It seemed pretty implicated the entire time, dear.
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Not to me. Sorry bout that. I just thought it was a discussion.
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No, I could of delt without
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I didn't. Why would I when you're telling me I'm wrong?
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I just wanted a mutual understanding, but it seems like it will never be.
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Again..... I never said you were wrong.
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I understand YOUR point. I guess you just dont understand mine.
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It felt like it, you did say you were correcting me. and you can only correct mistakes.
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I try to at least. I do hope it was a stimulating conversation though, I'd hate to be a bore, and you usually come off as... I can't think of a good word but the word jerk is good enough for me, of course I figure I generally come off in one of two ways, either as a charismatic, helpful person or as a total troll.
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I think this time was one of my troll moods, but I have horrible memory.
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Jerk?? wow. and I thought of you as nice until you through that out there.
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I was also going to comment favorably on your insight and intelligence but since you have to be like that I guess I will just let you have your last word and I will leave you alone. Sorry to have bothered you as badly as I did.
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You didn't, I've just always thought you didn't like me, so I didn't like you. But no, I didn't say you were a jerk, only that you came off as one.
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And thank you for the comment that never was, I appreciate it anyway.
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It is only wrong if you are not prepared to take care of the child. The child needs LOTS from you and will continue to need from you. Are you prepared for all that? It is a lot of work and it helps if both parents are around.

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No it's not. In fact, the vast majority of people have sex before getting married, although some seem reluctant to admit it. However, if you do, only do so when you are ready and use protection. I suggest waiting until you can take care of yourself. This helps when you have to take care of a baby.

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Yes, (I say this as a Catholic) it is VERY wrong. The Bible says that you have to be married to bear a child.

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it is a shame to have baby before you get married and it doesn't allow in Islam if you are muslim

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oh well, you shouldn't have sex if you don't want to be pregnant. Sex is not a game.

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Its wrong on many levels if you can not financially, emotionally and morally care for this child and each other for the rest of your lives. Having sex requires no commitment ... But having a child ... Is an eternity of commitment.

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When you have sex you are basically getting married to that person.. When you have sex with someone you give then half of your soul. That's why people who have sex all the time with different people every time are so messed up there soul keeps getting divided..

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It's wrong when you're boyfriend doesn't want a baby, as you previously stated.

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If you think that you are pregnant then please go to a clinic to make sure, but to answer your question if it is wrong then I say that truthfully, " no" all pregnancies are a gift from God or a high power that is greater than our own. It truly depends upon your age, circumstances, family and moral values. Now a days young ladies have children without a male presence in their children life and they don't necessarily have to depend upon the government for assistance. Taking care of a child is not easy whether you are with someone or not but it can be done. In the end, your opinion is the only opinion that matters. If you are a teen please get help from your parents, even though they may get upset but your health comes first.

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Yes, it is 100% wrong and to be avoided.

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God wants us to be married before having sex. God has great advise. He's pretty wise.

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yes it is

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Pregnancy is one of the top concerns when it comes to dating without the view of getting married. Sexually permissive people are unlikely to change their habits just because they get married. In contrast, those who are loyal to God’s moral standards before marriage are more likely to be loyal to their mate afterward. The Bible shows that you do well to wait until you are past that time in life when sexual feelings are very strong. (1 Cor. 7:36) Because strong sexual impulses can distort good judgment and cause you to make unwise decisions that may result in heartache later. Raising a child involves years of self-sacrifice. It is a big investment in time and energy, which most young single people don't have experience in.

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no its not wrong to do that

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