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I am 18 years old i feel that my mom should let me stay out as long as i want without a curefue how can i get her to understand

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Her home. Her rules. If your not happy with it, get your own place.

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truth^^
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Move out. If you live with her or rely on her for money, you're going to have to live by her rules. It might suck, but that's the trade off for not being independent.

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Get a job, move out, make your own rules. Until then, follow the rules.

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trust your mom

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Move out

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Just do it. Don't care what she says, she shouldn't really be giving you that kind of rule. I'm kinda in the same predicament, but not same problem exactly

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wow. respect your parents much?
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Bad influence
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mmmm. Grandparents? aunts uncles you can turn to for help in getting out?
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This kid will have authority problems if he can't respect his parents. You aren't an adult until you live on your own and pay your own bills. This you can do whatever you want!
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I thought gameboy stated his parents had issues when tony the tiger commented about the bad influence. If I was wrong -which it looks like that- then I retract and retreat to my first comment which is Disrespect of parents
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I'm just trying to help and no it's the other way around, my parents disrespect me and I'm 19.
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Bad advice! Respect your parents always! Get your own place if you don't want to follow their rules.
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I feel like you are 18 years old, still a teenager and living under your parents roof. Respect your parents rules and don't rebel. I'm sure they will come around and let you stay out longer soon. Even though you don't believe it now, your parents know best.

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You won't get her to understand. Traditionally only things that shouldn't be happening are happening late at night. Lots more ways to get into trouble.
I had a curfew until I moved out at 24! Given it was 3am but it still made me angry. Your mom loves you and is trying to protect you from all the bad that can happen
And yes I understand the same bad can happen during daylight but most businesses are closed by ten so if you're out hanging out you're most likely at someone's house doing who knows what with who knows who...

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why would she want to worry and stress even more then she does right now. I am not sure what time you are required to be in by now but for the hours you do go out she worries until you arrive home safely. THEN she can sleep soundly. Don't like the rules? Get a place of your own pay your own way and see how much stress that causes you.

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I agree I moved out at 18 because me and my parents didn't see eye to eye. Bad idea! No rules = lots of trouble. Young people with no rules end up pregnant, broken hearted, disappointed and way behind all the kids that did obey rules and a successful in life. Also parents pay for ALOT food, school, house and a whole lot else. For example one day you wake up and you are 24 and trying to take care of a kid with a low pay job, while the kids who listened to their parents have good job, house and car.

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Agree w/ candy bar. Law says I'm responsable for my kids till 22 yrs old........my house my rules. don't like it..... get married...... get a life....... move out.

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No, everyone who lives in a household must follow certain rules. How would you like it if your mother had stayed out all night, every night when you were growing up? There's a certain dynamic between you, which will always be there. Also, if you aren't supporting yourself totally, you do have to pay her mind certainly. Age is just a number.

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I agree with most said above about respecting your parents, just wanted to add that she's been there. She knows what can/does happen. You could be the best little angel and something could still happen and she would feel that it was her fault for letting you go out. If you abide by your parent's rules and don't give them any reason not to trust you, they will com around. The more they trust you, the more freedom they will give you. Trust me.

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Move out! Pay your own bills! Then you can do whatever u want!

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She is only trying to look out for you and protect you. The only way you can get away from her curfew is move out!! You will understand her when you become a mommy yourself, moms knows best!!

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get a job, pay your own bills, including a place to rent. -
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understand that when you are not used to people coming in and out of your house at night, you do not sleep well. also as a parent i can assure you that if my child was out, i would worry and not be able to sleep.
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unless i am mistaken, she still needs to sleep in order to work in order to pay rent, buy groceries, pay the heat and electric, maybe cable and internet, put gas in the car, and pay for things for you. show her some respect and understanding.

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My mom always said she never got a good night's sleep unless all of her chicks were safe in the coop :)
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I agree with u....move out....

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Hit the road
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foolish kids
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I know this may seem rather mean, but when you learn how to spell the word curfew correctly, your parent may decide you are old enough to make adult decisions and not have one. Ask the reason, you may be surprised at the answer.

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Attend school. Learn how to spell curfew.

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Hit the road, her house her rules. When you live on your own n pay your own bills then do whatever you want

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You should be able to when you're 18

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It is not curfew, it is called care.

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tell her that she should trust you. tell her that you are already 18 years old and that you demand respect, status, and independence in the actions you decide. tell her that you are responsible and fully capable of whats right and wrong. tell her that babying a child to much is one of the worst things a parent can do.

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lmfao - DEMAND? you EARN respect, status, and independence. If the person is living on own and supporting themselves then yes. But to live in someones house and eat off the table and use the electric the water the cable and then demand? lol I wpuld Demand they turn in ALL the little things they take for granted and they could EARN them back 1 at a time.
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Punctuality is a part of life. Setting up a curfew, then, isn’t just about getting your child off the streets. It’s about teaching a skill that will benefit your child long after leaving home. Apply the principle found at Proverbs 15:22, which says: “There is a frustrating of plans where there is no confidential talk, but in the multitude of counselors there is accomplishment.” Calmly discuss the matter with your mom. Try to find out why she picked the time that she did.
Try bringing up the subject at the right time,
build a good track record by being punctual and ask for extensions on a trial basis. Just because your 18 doesn't mean that your an experienced adult, so why not work on adjusting your view?

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