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How do I get over my bf going out to the bar every Thursday night?

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Go with him.

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He claims it's a guys night
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I don't think that's too much to ask. So have a girls night on Thursday nights.
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I do but what hes doing is always in the back of my mind because he's lied to me in the past. We're building our trust back but him going out a lot without me, isn't helping
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Agreed Cj! Even so, I bet it doesn't take long for him to change his mind. What do you think?
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Well sweetie, he's his own person. If you keep being "bossy" or telling him he can't do things, you're just going to push him away.
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I don't say anything to him about it anymore. I just wish some men weren't so clueless about a womans feelings
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I don't think having one night a week where you get to do what you want, is inconsiderate.
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It's inconsiderate when he lies about where he actually went and what he actually did. I don't ever nag him about it and for some reason he still continues to hide things from me
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lovelyjay, you're said two different things here, so I'm trying to follow along. First you shared he lied in the past, yet here said "he still continues to hide thing." Did you find out that he lied again?
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lovely, if you're trying to build your trust back, you need to let go of the past. If he's done things presently, to make you not trust him. Then these things need to be talked about between the two of you. Or you just need to give him the boot.
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You just need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him that what he is doing is wrong and that you don't like the idea of him going to the bar every Thursday. You can also tell him to find other constructive things to do at that night. Wait for his response and then if nothing changes, you can talk to his friend to talk to him.

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There's nothing wrong with this. Everyone needs time either to themselves or with different people. As long as its not a destructive habit, it's fine.
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you shouldnt have a problem with it in the first place.

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Agreed.
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U said he was ur x right?

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Do you guys have any children?

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addicted teenagers ?

kick his a** in any addiction removal society or something, or meditation class.

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No one likes an overly attached gf.

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Let him live his life and stop bossing him around.

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As long as he comes home to YOU, you have nothing to worry about.

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Go out with your friends also!

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You should have a girls night on Thursday. You may not agree with me, but I believe in breathing room for both parties in a relationship. You don't want to be attached to the hip, save some independence for yourself. Barring that, tell him you don't like it, and if he disagrees, accept it with grace.

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Why not make Thursday nights time for you. Do something by yourself, or with friends,do a Zumba class with your GF's anything to keep yourself occupied.

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