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my best friend's grandpa just passed away. but I'm really not good at these stuff what should I tell her? what should I do?

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I hate it when people tell me they are sorry. It just doesn't make any sense because they don't really understand. So, just tell her that you don't (or maybe you do) understand and that even though you'll be there for her and if she wants to talk you're there. Just the fact that you're there for her is enough. Well, I don't really know but it was for me when my best friend died. I don't know about trying to cheer her up but try doing things that she likes. For example if she likes shopping, go shopping. Hope this helped!

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Just tell her you are there for her if she needs someone to talk too. Be by her side, hold her hand, and let her cry on your shoulder. Just being their is the best thing a friend can do.

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tell her that her grandpa is in a better place now and he won't suffer anymore

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JamesKaeberle

Just be a friend and comfort her the best you know how. God Bless!

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Just being there for her says a lot. A shoulder to cry on, a sounding board, something or someone to hold on until the "weather" clears. Words are empty and carry little weight during such times. Actions, on the other hand, are priceless and retain their true value. Reverence, remembered.

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Suzie17

Aww that's so sweet of you to want to comfort your friend. A big hug goes a long way. Just listen to them. That is very helpful.

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If he were saved/ you cant say words like 'gone, lost ' because you KNOW where he IS.
Let her talk of fun things she remembers about their times together!

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Send her a condolence message through text of say personally.

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Tell her to remember the good times she had with her Grandpa, and cherish the fact that she had a chance to know and love him while he was with us.

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http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books?start=36

This link leads to a Brochure called "When Someone You Love Dies." It can help her to deal with the loss of her grandpa.

http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201104/rome-in-bible-history/

And there's an option for this one on the right hand side to download the PDF of the articles entitled "Coping With the Loss of a Loved One"

Hope these help! =)

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Lift her up to God in prayer.

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I've lost both my parents. Before that I to was at a loss for words. I found truly that just a simple "I'm sorry" goes a really long way. You might also offer to help write thank you notes after the funeral. If you need some ideas, check back here I'll give you some. Also, a big hug helps as well. Oh most important, pray for her. She needs it now more than ever.

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thank youu!
your parents are in a better place now
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Thanks nadagabr. I appreciate that. I know they are.
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Just tell her how sorry you are, if there's talking involved, let your friend be the speaker, and you the listener. Time is the healer.

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Just be there if she seems like she wants company. She will talk when she's ready. Don't feel awkward, just be the friend you are.

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Well first I'm very sorry for your best friend's loss. But to answer your question, there really isn't anything specific to say to her at this time. Just don't ever say that it's going to be okay, because no matter what, it won't. The most important thing to do is to be there for her, to cry with her when she cries, to listen to her. Make sure she gets back into her normal routine even though it will be so hard to. Psalm 34:18 says "Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” Always remember to pray to our creator, because he cares for all of us and he wants to help you and your best friend.

For more info please visit jw.org

Hope I helped :)

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my best friend Hailey's grandpa just died today and i feel so bad he was such a great guy and i have known him my whole life considering I am 12 that's a while. this is what I said to her... Hailey i am so sorry you are my best friend and you can make it through this pain, I know it hurts but you need to remember all the good times you had with him I am going to miss him too and his smile. I am here for you and your grandma ( she lives with her grandparents if you need anything please tell me and if you need to talk talk to me, my heart is open to anything you desire you are my best friend and i love you stay strong

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