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What do you do when all of your friends seem to be leaving you?

Seriously, what do you do? Every one of my friends have always left me and only seem to want to talk to me when they've had like a bajillion months away from me. And I know the past is the past, but it can't just be the past if it's always happening with every friend I have.

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I know how you are feeling. I think in modern society isolation is a persons natural state unfortunately... My friends always leave to though I never stop feeling some of them in my thoughts. I think it's hard for people to keep up relationships for one or more reasons. I think that some of us here on earth are a little out of place. Sometimes I think I have some genetic predisposition to push people away. I recognize my faults and the reasons that this happens but I feel powerless to change it even with the wealth of knowledge I have in behavioral psychology and vast depth of definition of emotions. I've found that I'm actually quite bored by many people and situations and I'm aware that others see this in me plainly and take me for arrogant or mean or just disinterested and boring myself. The irony is that I can quickly snap into a greatly charming personality and impress an entire party becoming the life of it in an instant yet I hardly have any motivation to be more than a fly on the wall. If you experience any of these symptoms, you may have "apathy."

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Yes, I think that must be me. I also had a friend who told me that I seem to have this bad aura about me. He said that when people are around me, they want to do bad things.
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That's worse than mine I think haha it's a weird "gift" to manipulate others so easily or passively and can be dangerous if it goes unchecked. You can switch that aura around with work and make it useful. Then again drug orgies are fun too.
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This is strange.. Truth I recognize a lot of myself in your post. My favorite playlist was one I named "Road Trip Into Apathy" and I'm listening to it right now. I recognize the charm and the social creature thing.. But then, I've been accused of being distant, and pushing people away. I also know why I do this and it's hard to rein in. I'll create my own void without meaning to. Lucky for me I have friends who understand this and are cool with my taking a break when I need to.
My greatest enemy is ennui.
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That's interesting you happened to be listening to that just then haha
My closest friends have been the ones who understand my nature and accept it as well. Not that I didn't have a host of issues I had to accept in return, but its worth it when two people can tolerate each other and is woefully underrated. It's even more special when you actually like them as well haha
I struggle with ennui as well but my biggest weakness is animosity. It's nice to know I don't struggle alone.
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"Listening" ? Seems i was "listening" this time. No, I read the answers of a Q I'd like to answer to make sure my answer won't be redundant. If so, I feel free to comment instead. Seems I should stop that practice sometimes, yes?
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Well I like your views. If you give me your answer as a personal comment it just makes me feel special ;)
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Nah. It's cool. You had every right to "chastise?" me. Your answer was probably very personal to you, so I'm very sorry. My mouth has been getting me into trouble left and right lately. My little comment kick i've been on is over. You have my apology.
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candybar

You need to look at yourself. There's a reason why.

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Start asking my self why they do that !? What is wrong with me that makes them leave me as they know me more !?

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Briabba96

Well, you could have a problem, or they could have a problem.

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find out why.... then find new friends.

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Yea, you sound like a real a-hole that nobody wants to be around.

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Not sure if that was sarcasm but if it wasn't then I totally agree.
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Go to a book store and buy "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. Read it from cover to cover and your concepts of self-worth will be changed forever. Then read it again and begin using ALL the principles ALL the time and your whole interaction with the world will be lifted up into the sunshine! Your friends are only responding to the terrible signals you are putting out without knowing it - using Carnegie's approach will truly transform your life for the better - forever....

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I think I would ask them , is it something I'm doing for you to leave me , if it is tell me what it is I can't fix it unless you tell me what it is . Good luck !

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we r not ur friends ask them

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There may be nothing wrong with you other than picking the wrong friends. What I mean is, if you're a straight and sober person and your friends are pot smokers and drinkers, If you are nerdy and your friends are into sports, you get the idea. take a look at the compatibility thing while you're analyzing it.

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WOW! what a great response!! (gee, I wish I wasn't such an idiot!!!)...;-)
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Not thinking of other ideas doen't make you an idiot. Just as a lack of knowledge doesn't make you stupid. I tend to try and think outside the box unless Im obviously being trolled. I had the same issue until I started hanging out with people I actually had something in common with. It kinda suct at first since there wasn't much discourse but I learned to find friends that were different without being too different so that we didnt really have much in common. But it is true that sometimes, the problem lies within.
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Think hard, about your last conversation & time spent together. Did you say or do something hurtful or mean? Even just kidding around? Or behave rudely or selfishly toward them, or someone in their company? Not saying it's all your fault. Possibly not. Sometimes you can be too nice & people take your friendship for granted. They know you're always there for them no matter what. You usually hear from these types when they want something or are bored. You've let yourself become a rainy day friend. If you've said or done something wrong, call them to say hi, & apologize. If they hurt you, repeatedly, forgive but don't be a doormat. Keep yourself busy so you can honestly tell them, "Thanks, but I have other plans." If they truly want to keep you as a friend, maybe they will think about their behavior as well.

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I've gone through the same thing. It really hurts. This book has helped me a lot and I hope it can help you! Check out chapter 3!

http://download.jw.org/files/media_books/yp2_E.pdf

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