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What would you do? Mom or Dad?

I'm having a hard time right now. What you do if you had to pick who to live with? What would you do if you lived in a state where all of your family was and your friends, you loved it there. And you never wanted to leave. But your mom was poor, you didnt have a lot of school stuff, you were late to school and sometimes didnt even go. Your mom didnt have a car so she would have to get other people to take you to school, and she was just money wise broke. And had a real hard time. And was possibly doing drugs. But you didnt know for sure. (And was fixing to get kicked out of the house she was living in, which wasnt her house anyways.) But you had a good family, and you always had something to eat and the love of you family that loved you unconditionally. Or would you choose your dad. He had a lot of money, always his own house, and food on the table. Basically everything you need and maybe even want. But you didn't like the family at all. They were mean sometimes, and you missed you mom. Btw you lived with your mom for 11 years. You had no friends and was homeschooled. Wasnt allowed on ANY social website. (Facebook,Twitter,etc) What would you do?

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Part of me says go to be with your dad, do what's the best for your future. The other half of me says that you can't abandon your mom when she's going through this. To me it all depends on if she was abusive. If she was, I would get out of there as soon as possible. Good luck. Hope I helped.

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No, my mom would never abuse us <3
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Then I would stay with her and try to get help. You don't need to do it by yourself. People can help you to help her help herself. If that makes any sense,
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Thank You <3
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I would stay with my mom and try to help her out

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It depends on how my mother treated me, and whether my dad would let me help my mum once I was with him. I have always felt a strange loyalty to my mother, so in the end I'd probably go with my mother. But who do you really want to go with? Who do you love more? I know it's a harsh question, but it needs to be answered.

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Honestly, my mother. Weve been through everything together <3
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Then go with her, and good luck
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I'd like to say I'm sorry you are to make such a terrible choice between people whom you love. I really don't know the correct answer to such a problem, but I can say for sure that good food is not good if you know that your mom is in trouble. In this situation you mom needs some support and help more than your father though he loves and misses you too, I believe.
I think you should take pains and go to school and learn well. All parents want their kids to be good pupils. If you do your best, it may make your mom a bit happier.
But if your mom has some problems with drugs you can't leave her in this terrible situation. Try to ask a specialist to help. I hope there are some centres for such people.
I don't understand why your father can't help you with food and clothes if he has such an opportunity. He may be in quarrel with your mother but you are still his child who needs help and support. If he has another family it is not obligatory for you to become a part of his new family. Talk to your father, try to explain that you will stay with your mom as she needs your care.
Hope, my words will be helpful.

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Mooncats makes some really good points but the fathers home sounds better for you. Your moms situation is not your responsibility.

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i know what this feels like. my parents are divorced and i chose to live with my mom becuz she knows me more and if i am going through a hard time i first go to my mom!def live with mom!

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This is tough. See I can see from a standpoint that your dad seems like a better provider and could give you the stability and support you need, but if his family doesn't support you also then your not gonna feel very comfortable. Now mom obviously has some issues but the question is are these issues because she is or isn't trying to make a better life for her and her family? You said yourself that its possible that she's doing drugs, that tells me mom has her priorities screwed up. If she really is using drugs and not caring for her family then she should be the one attempting to raise a family or kids. Mom needs to try helping herself instead of hoping you'll stick around and fix everything. You are the child and it isn't your responsibility to be worrying like this its moms job to be a real parent and seek the help she needs to adequately provide. They say insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. So in your case you've been with mom 11 years?? has anything gotten better? if not then maybe its time for a change

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Yes, everything was okay. Then one day my ex stepdad abused her and then took my sister away from her. She got highly depressed and started doing drugs. Then she stopped. But about last month my step mom told me that she was going to a methadone clinic and that she has talked to her while she was high earlier in the year. i don't know if its true or not. But I kind of do. Things were good, then bad, then good again. I have a bipolar life .
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It seems like a pattern, mom goes thru a rough spell and turns to drugs to deal with it. I hate to say it but maybe its time you experience living with dad for a little.
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Mother I'll choose mother

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