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Do you have a life where you can breathe or are you married or in a relationship with a ball and chain?

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marriage doesn't have to be the ball and chain if you don't rush into marriage. get to know them you may learn it wasn't meant to be or at least know what to expect from each other,marriage works better then,and do not marry young,people mature differently mature first

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I'm single, and don't want a relationship right now. I'd much rather be alone :)
I can't say for sure yet because i'm only 19 but I might want to be alone forever haha :) as weird as that sounds.

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FunnyLittleFrog

Happy Valentine's Day to you too!

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been there, done that two times with the ball and chain marriage. damn near suffocated. as of now, free as the wind blows.

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yeah buddy! you know how it goes!
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learned the hard way. lost everything I had two times.
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kazarina
Make sure you put your name on your third lot of stuff. Lol
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no worry. no more marriage for me.
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We live & learn.
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yepper, now only if my younguns would of took my advice, they wouldn't be in the pickle they are in. tried to talk to them and it went in one ear and out the other. now they are learning the hard way. oh well.
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If been married for many years to the right girl and I still feel free.

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happily breathing free in a wonderful marriage.
if you don't feel free to be you and breathe in a relationship then.your partner is probably painfully codependent

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I found marriage to be a ball & chain.

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No ball and chain for me. I was independent when we met and I still am. Why do u need to change or give up who I am just because I am married?

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kazarina

After 35 years of dating, one bad marriage & two children. I am now happily single. That's how I plan to stay. There would be no wisdom in spending the next 35 years looking for mr right & wasting time. Having chosen to be single frees your soul. It means you can happily start having a good life on your own instead of feeling like something or someone is missing from it. Not everyone is lucky in love.its the luck of the draw & I ain't got a bingo. and that doesn't bother me in the least.

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After cuttin off the ball and chain 3 years ago you'd think I'd feel that freedom but no, I still cringe every time I see her name calling my phone, and every time there's an issue I fear the retaliation. Exactly when does this go away?

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When you allow yourself to not be intimidated by her. I know it's easier said than done but you have a right to regain your self esteem.
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It's hard to not feel that way when you've been a victim of retaliation many times. I suppose I need to just not care and exhibit the same crazy behavior rather than remain composed and rational
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Maybe just emotionally close the door on her every time she has a hissy fit. Like" talk to me when your half human. Seeya" & hang up. If she calls back & carry's on again repeat the action. Eventually she will either speak civilly to you or not be heard. I wish you all the best.
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