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Why do I feel nothing but pity and shame for my ex that got pregnant and was left to be pregnant alone?

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Pity and shame make you feel better at her expense. Alone and pregnant has more potential growth and love than being with someone who given the opportunity to feel pity or shame takes it. Maybe you should stay far away from her, what do you say you give the woman a break.

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If you only knew. This is the woman's 4th child with the 4th different man and she lost custody of 2 kids. I had a child with her and while I was taking care of the baby she's out getting pregnant by another man. There's so much more to this story.
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So who exactly is to blame here? You knew her past performance, and slid "so to speak' into third place. Now there's a lucky number 4! Greeeeeeat. Good for ya. Want sympathy? That's between Ruin and Thoughtless in the dictionairy. She sounds like a winner for sure. Good on you for stepping up to your parental responsibilities. But a 'little' forethought (and protection) would have made for a different outcome don't you think?
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Why should you not :) You're human.

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If you're just trying to justify her leaving you... "See, you get what you deserve". Then, indeed you have some maturing to do. You already said: "My EX". Now make it so. Move on and find another.

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LoL..she didn't "leave me".
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Why can't you see a strong young woman who is about to embark on the greatest job role of her life. why don't you see a woman who neither wants or needs your pity. Is your life so great & your so perfect that you can put an x love down instead of admiring her for going ahead alone rather than having an abortion & taking the easy way out.

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If you only knew. She's been pregnant 3 other times by 3 other men. Me being one of them. There's so much more to this story. She's a terrible person
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I'm sorry but I could only reply going on what info you had given.
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( i just read nother comment you made) If her disloyalty has hurt you, I understand that & I'm sorry & I know from my past experience it does take time to let go of that disgust that you trusted someone untrustworthy. All I can say is be the best dad to your child that you can. You can't change how the mother is but you can build a loving bond & relationship with your child. That is your responsibility & that's what you must concentrate on. Goodluck.
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Damn. If you we're a female I'd marry you.
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I am a female but probably too old for you anyway. I'm happily single. I'm over men & relationships. Not bitter just decided I want a happy life without the BS that goes with relationships. If you can't find a good one then better to leave the bad ones to be someone else's problem. I have a dog & she is good company so I'm not lonely.
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I've kinda been burned two times. I had a child then tried to get married twice....with two different woman. They wound up being very self centered and gave up on the parenthood thing. My dog is the best friend and companion ill ever have.
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I've been married once. Ive got a 32 year old daughter & 3 grand kids, a son turning 18 in a few days. I've moved twice giving up my job & friends to move 400 miles away & another time 200 miles away for relationships than turned out weren't worth the time & effort plus lived with other partners & helped them bring up their kids with no thanks or respect from the kids. Even had a boyfriend who it turned out Was a cross dresser & he was a truckee, lol & so after 35 years of dating & trying to find a good man & happiness I realized I didn't need to find it, I realized I could be happy with just me & my dog. Once you understand what really makes you happy you don't need to look no further.
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Probably ur sad that she or he has a kid and now u know u don't want to be with her him... Like its officially over and that's just ur way of dealing

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Because it is pitiful and shameful.

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