to start of I am not a shrink but my guesse is deep down you want attention may b u feel neglected or left out or jst plain want attention, been there done that....but the solution is not self harm...go see a shrink......
activities that involve more than one person and a computer get out and interact with real people what do you find enjoyable. do you have a bike and are there places to ride. bowling is Kinda fun for a while team sports. rock climbing fishing boating hunting. fill your days with something that makes you feel like you took advantage of living not just here because your here
whenever depression or abuse or whatever happens go somewhere safe and use a journal or a laptop just focus on something else and stay confident that your strong enough to hold this off then your stronger than your problems
Look at who you really are, not the impressions we think others are telling us about ourselves. So much of my life I wished people would love me the way I need to be loved. But people don't have a clue.
I don't know your beliefs. But this is what Jesus told me on one of my days when I didn't know if I could takes any more.
In the Bible the commandments Jesus gave us are to first love God with our whole heart. The second is to love others as we love our self. (I think no mater what faith anyone has this applies.)
ANYWAY ~ What I was told by God's Spirit in my heart that I need to do is reverse the second commandment.
To love ME as I love others. I have no problem loving other people. But to love ME? Appreciate & honor ME? To take care of ME as I have others?
What a challenge !
So I challenge YOU my friend
As an alternative to harming your self ~ LOVE YOUR SELF
I used to self harm. Cutting, scratching till my skin bleed, etc. when I look back now I understand why I did this. There were a couple of things that helped me stop. Probably the most effective was starting to write. I always had a notebook wherever I went. At first I just wrote in it when I felt like hurting myself and trust me they weren't very nice things I mostly wrote how I wanted to hurt myself or other people, but that anger started to run out as the minute I felt it I got rid of it by writing it down. I started to see a social worker who challenged me to try to write why I wanted to hurt myself. What was happening or was I thinking about at the time. That helped a lot. Then I started writing poetry which helped even more. I also got a hobby so that when I was alone with nothing to do my hands were busy and I couldn't use them against myself. I also learned from the social worker that just because I was angry at somebody didn't make me a bad person and i didn't need to harm myself for feelings of anger or loneliness I was allowed to have those feelings I also got out and got involved in community activities where I interacted with ppl who shared my interests
you need to seek the help of mental health professionals. some things can be answered on this site. psychological or psychiatric questions are not one of them. self harm is most generally associated with unresolved guilt or shame. seek the advice of a mental health professional.
Jesus, he is the way the truth and the life.... the truth will set you free! There is a Christian 12 step program called Celebrate Recovery, it's not just for adicts and alcoholics, it's for anyone that has hurts, habits, or hang up in the world.
Music! Whenever I'm feeling depressed, I always turn to my favourite artists. Try looking up bands like Black Veil Brides and My Chemical Romance. They are very inspirational and can help you through a lot of tough times.