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My mom is 58 feeling depressed lately and real lack of enthusiasm for the things she used to enjoy. Any suggestions

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This is a very difficult time in life, for I am going through the same thing. She's lost as to what to do because the meaning of her life has changed now. It used to be raising children and caring for others, and now no one seems to need us as much. She needs to realize that this is not true. Everyone does need her still. Try to include her in as many possible activities with the family and MAKE her go to them. Now is the time for her to get involved with some girlfriends of her own. Unfortunately, many friends are busy with their own lives but they woe be glad to include your mom. She must for e herself to get up and shower and get herself feeling and looking as if she were going out so in case the opportunity arises, she will be ready to go and it won't be so much of a chore. Go to comments.

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Thanks she is the one who asked me to post this. It will be good to let her know she is not alone
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I have beard from people that welbrutin is a difficult medicine to take. It makes people feel weird. I am going to tell you that when my mother sent through this same thing, she was given the good old fashioned prozac and it was a miracle. This is not medical advice for I am not allowed to give it on here . This is just my experience when my mother went through this same thing at the same age. She was just 16 years younger than me so I remember it well. I hope this helps. Perhaps your mother would consider speaking to the doctor about a change. Also, she MUST GET HER SLEEP or else it messes up the metabolism. Meletonin from the neighborhood drugstore or market is not a prescription. She is right to not want to be on too many meds.
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Make sure she revisits doctor, gets sleep, prepares for the day, and is included in many family activities.
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Thoughtful answer, Sin. Thanks.
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Ask the dr about vitamin b12!
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Oh yes! B 12 and vitamin D and Magnesium !!!!
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Good advice Sincerity!*****
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Thank you so much. I picked up those vitamins for her. She really appreciated it.
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Please tell her she is not alone. There are millions of women this age who feel the same way and and I answered at least 5-8 (maybe more) questions about the same exact thing. Your mom will be okay. :-)
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Could be buffalo weather? Winter brings some folks down,

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Very true but it's not just in winter
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Gets the best of us sometimes, all you can do is keep loving her. Luck to you young lady
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Thanks and I will
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a good red wine is how most women cope

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She's depressed and requires medical help, most likely.

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She may need a companion ( a friend or something ) just show her some love she will be ok.cant tell you about mine cause I lost my parents along w my grandmom when I was 13

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I show her a lot of love thanks. I'm sooo sorry to here about your parents and grandma. I couldn't imagine what that must have been like
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Both men and women sometimes go through periods in their lives where their hormone levels get out of whack. If there is nothing else going on in her personal or work life that would explain a change in mood or behavior then it might be a good idea to have a medical professional do a complete physical to rule out physiological causes.

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She has seen a doctor they said same thing. She won't take any medication I.e Wellbutrin... She asked me to post this for any suggestions on how to get through it
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Can't say I blame her, I wouldn't take Wellbutrin either, or any other pharmacuticals prescribed for depression. Perhaps my Moms' advice would serve her well, when you start to feel down for one reason or another, then its time to get up and get moving. Newton said it best, and I qoute " A body at rest tends to stay at rest, a body in motion tends to stay in motion". If your Mom is still otherwise healthy, encourage her to break out of her mold and offer her services as a volunteer. There are so many people in need of a helping hand, and helping others is one of the best ways to forget about your own troubles for awhile.
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Great advice capcon!******** And it does work!!:-)
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Lots of good advice there but it may be as simple as realising that she's nearly 60. Some people get depressed when they begin to feel old.

By 58 her body will start to break down a bit, too, and she'll find it more difficult to do the things she enjoyed. It'll be harder for her to compete in the Hawaii Iron Man but it will also be harder for her to walk to the shops, or thread a needle. It hit me a few years later than that -- about mid 60s -- and I had a few bad years. It took a lot of determination to get my fitness back.

Perhaps the best thing you can do for her is to encourage her to find new hobbies, new interests, even new friends. Life doesn't have to end when you get old, it just needs to turn into a gentler direction.

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Thanks that was very helpful :-)*
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Very True Dodgy, bit slower but yet in other ways still growing...:-)
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Not in very " talkative" mood myself, so of to bed:-). Good night Dodgy.
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Gnite.
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ask her to start doing yoga , spend time in library if she is interested in reading books, baby sitting, organize children camps start motivational lectures for y outh

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Thanks those r some great suggestions
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sure no problem elders can give valuable advice to kids and youth
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Young children love having us "elders" read to them, it's a fun experience for both!:-)
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I don't care what ANY OF YOU GUYS SAY!!! 58 years old IS NOT OLD and I will not back down from this!!!!! Quit calling me old whaaaaaaaaa ! :-)
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@Sincerity, agree! Notice I referred to us as "elders",:-).,not Old!!ha,ha....
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