Well, do you have any other family? Or you could join a grief group. Call you local hospital and find a grief group, they are full of people who are going through the same thing. It's only been 2 months. My sister died 7 months ago, and I feel sad about it. It pretty much becomes a part of your life. There's still life out there for you though, your mother would want you to enjoy life and not give up because of her.
Oh Alex I know that feeling. Unfortunately it will for a long time yet. The specialists say two years to go through the grievance progress. I'm not sure I agree. For me it was my dad and I still tear up. Just know it does get better. I talk to both parents when I need to and started getting back to The Lord for help. Today my hubby brought me in cake tins my aunt gave me many years ago. I lost it. We're going to keep them a while yet. Just don't stay in the house all the time and the if and when you receive some hard earned cash from her don't spend it like there's no tomorrow like I did. That's my biggest regret. I did the traveling my parents never did and do not regret that one bit. Just should have saved some too. Good luck. Hope you feel better but give yourself time and permission to cry.
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So sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. Your feeling of being lost is normal. Our parents are our universe, our support system, and they love us no matter what (unconditionally). I can not tell you how to get through this difficult process.....that's a path of your own, yet, as a mother of a 15 year old daughter I would hope that she develops positive coping skills if I happen to pass away. I would want her to pick up a new hobby, learn the lyrics to a new song, paint her nails, phone a friend and go to the show. Something, anything positive and healthy to keep her mind active and healthy because I would want her to live for me as well. Someday, if I get a chance to see her again, I would want to hear all about what she did with her life! Good Journey Sweetie, and Alex, I want you to go to college and get a degree....get two of them if you want!
alex, when my parents died in 1995; I too felt "lost!" at times, I still do. I think this shows how much we love them and miss them. these feelings are normal. my parents were married for 53 years. when they died they were still "in love." but now I celebrate their lives by how I live. I do not know how old you are, but I imagine a death of a loved one is harder on the young. life does go on and the pain goes away, little by little; or at least it becomes more bearable. staying busy helped me. I teach tennis and I'm a pro photographer so I am plenty busy. ha! I don't really have all the answers alex, I just want you to know you are not alone. do you have family and friends you can talk to? maybe a counselor at school? is there a question in particular I may be able to help you with? I too, am here...:-)
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother, Alex. I have lost several family members in the past few months and I know how surreal it feels. However, it may be comforting to know that God promises us a time where we can see our dead loved ones again. It's recorded at John 5:28,29 " Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs+ will hear his voice 29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life,+ those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment.* wouldn't be wonderful to see your mother again in a peaceful new world? The following link is a brochure that has helped me Nd many others cope and understand the process of losing a loved one. I truly hope it helps you too.
Sorry about your lost, I lost my mom too! And my sisters really hurt me because of the greed! What you can do is substitute that missed love with something else like a pet or a person you really love! Believe me um not gonna sugar coat it, it hurts but life goes on!
Oh my goodness, I feel sooo bad for you. I'm sooo sorry that you lost your mum. That's devastating. Right now, you need to give yourself permission to grieve. Cry for her & your loss, do not hold back when it comes to grieving a loved one. When you feel better, you should honour her memory. Keep her teachings, place photos around, think of her daily telling her how much you love & miss her. It will get better, I promise. And I hope that you receive comfort & solice in your time of grief. Take care.
There were some really good advice you received here .Funny little frog she said call the hospital see about a support group try it with others going threw this to and in a safe environment will help you tremendously .I could never see me loosing my mom .All though I almost did 20 Times and wasn't raised by her and we are not together I talk to her three times a week on the phone and give her cards and little some thing now and than but all that means so much to me .My mother is a saint.I think very highly of her as a mom and as a human or individual she's amazing and Awsome.Im so sorry this day has come .Jesus is first and foremost our eyes must look desperately to Him for us to be sustained threw all pain .Greater is He who is in you .Than He who is in the world .