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How can I make the cuts stop....

I've tried stopping before but it just......... it feels impossible..... and plus, the guy I am like, deeply in love with hates it when people cut themselves, so I want to be able to stop before I get the guts to ask him out..... It's just..... I first started from stress, and I thought I was ugly, and forever alone... because, people these days think sex is the most important thing in a relationship, but I don't... because I was raped when I was 9........ people began calling me fake and a prude, because I was too nice and innocent..... then one day at school, a guy tore my shirt off an everyone saw my cuts.... then people made fun if me, calling me emo, saying that I was just wanting attention... but I wasn't and that's why I was hiding them... now whenever somebody makes a joke about cutting it makes me think of how worthless I really am.... then the whole cut for Beiber thing, mad me really sad, knowing there are other girls destroying their precious bodies, for a guy who started taking drugs........ but how do you stop? I don't want to tell my family, because they'll never look at me the same...... please, help....

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stop cutting for him, but truely, if you want to stop, only you have to do it because you want to.

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I'm so sorry to hear that! D: but just keep knives out of your site

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I try :'( it's just so hard..
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Butterfly project. Try it out, It's helped me a lot. And also be determined, set a goal, don't lose hope, and be strong. Know what you deserve.
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Thank you!!
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You cannot stop by yourself and your family DOES want to know. Go to your parents, you are lucky to have them.

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My question is why wouldn't they look at you the same? Are you saying that what they like about you isn't you? If that's the case then just learn to be more like who they see you as rather then who you try to hurt.

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I am sorry to hear that, you need a counselor, try to love yourself and your life again.

Act tough, and it will in your character eventually.

respect yourself and other will respect you.

God bless.

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Look, I don't know how many others cut themselves, but I have plenty of friends that do that. I used to do it too, a long time ago. Well, a few months ago. Im 14, but I know how you feel. Not exactly though, but I kind of do. Stress can be handled in many ways, exercising, finding hobbies..all that. I know, it's like a drug, it's an addiction. Which is why its going to get worse before it gets any better. maybe you shouldn't just put an abrupt stop to your cutting, maybe you should do it less and less until you don't want to do it anymore. I know, it will be hard, but it will pay off. And I'm very sorry those things happened to you, you are so young, yet you were hit with the big thing called 'the ugly side of life' I'm so very sorry that had to happen to you. And I don't know why other kids have to be so damn cruel. You seem like a very nice girl to know. If you ever need anyone to talk to, as a friend, please dont hesitate but to ask me.

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Thank you... It means a lot to me
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Any time, i love helping the people that need it most. Some people don't like 'us' but sometimes we just need someone to hold us and tell us everything will be okay. Even though we know nothing will ever be in this sick, twisted world, it's nice to know that someone's there watching over you and trying to make your every day worth living.
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Yeah, your right
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I'm so sorry you got raped! I've had a friend gotten sexually abused by her
father when she was 5..., anyway, I've been under a lot of stress too. I was adopted from Russia, and everyone at school called me retarded. And everyone makes up really bad rumors about me. I think I'm ugly, but the guy I like thinks I'm pretty I think cause he stalks me a talks to me. And there's this one guy who thinks I'm real pretty and even admits it to my face. I don't believe it tho. And, my moms in the hospital, she got hurt. I haven't gotten to see her in 2 weeks. Over half of my school doesn't know me, or pretty much thinks I'm mentally retarded. I only have 3 friends that are girls and 4 friends that are guys. I got pneumonia 2 times when I was a baby, got bit by a rat, and never got to see my real mom. She had me when she was 18 and her boyfriend would abuse her and all. And I have this depression thing, where I get depressed everyday and end up beating somebody up. I'm going through puberty, so that might be one thing. But still, under a lot of stress, and nobody likes me except for my friends. :( Usally, they push me, or scream get away you little retard! At least my crush is nice to me. *sigh*. But I still don't cut myself. And my best friend is moving 5 hours away! So, maybe you should pray. If you believe in God, ask him to guide you to stop cutting yourself. I see a counselor to talk about all my problems. You should talk to your parents about it. I feel so bad for you! *hugs*. You need to talk to someone you really trust. Talk through it. Please. I'm doing you a favor. :)

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Thank you, you advice has really helped..
It means a lot!!
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