1 year ago
Last edited at 6:11PM on 2/10/2013
I'm so sorry she passed away. My sister also died in 2012, but I just have to keep living. My heart beats for her now, I can't dwell on her death. It's okay to cry, I still cry each night...There's nothing to be ashamed of, just get your feelings out. Do whatever comforts you, if its praying...do that, if its drawing...do that, find something so you don't feel so much grief. She isn't feeling pain anymore...she may not be living anymore, but you can live for her. Stay strong <3!
Try seeing a counselor or joining a grief group. Maybe they can help. My sister died last year, too. I really feel you, but I don't know what to do either. We weren't even close, and it still hurts, and probably always will. So find somebody you can talk to, and get out into life again. It's ok to feel bad sometimes, but don't indulge in it. One think I like to do sometimes is go on drives to the places we used to go to. It helps me, anyway, but everyone is different. It's only been a year for you, and someone told me that she didn't feel better until after a year went by, so hang in there.
I'm sorry D. You need someone there for you, if it's not family, or GF, you need group grief council. Look for groups in your area,it can really help. One of my friends on site always recommends this book" Embraced By The Light" by Betty Eadie. He lost his mom very young and he said the book changed his life, and he's since given copies to friends. This is a tough one, don't do this alone. Good luck, I hope you find peace.
There are many good suggestions here, try any or all of them. I would like to add two more ideas. Do something with your life that would honor your sister's life. I don't know how she passed, but supporting a charity in her name, donating a park bench, running in one or many marathons in her honor....it all depends on what your abilities are and what her interests were. Another thought: if she were alive and you had passed, how would advise her to cope? What would you want her to do each day?
I have lost two sisters! I can tell you that the pain and the missing will never truely go away so stop trying so hard to "heal" I can however tell you that it WILL get easier some how. For me I needed to get involved with a loving church family and it has been through the love of Jesus Christ that I am able to give these words of love and hope to you. God bless you and I know how you feel. I will keep you in my prayers